I have been researching the lapband for months now and this is really something I want to do. I have had my 1st consult and know what has to be done before my insurance will pay. The only problem is that I have not breathed a word of this to my husband, and I don't know how to tell him. I know this sounds crazy. I don't know if I am ashamed or scared of what he will think. We have been married for 25 years so you would think I could read him like a book. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. I am 5'4 and weigh 250 my bmi is 43, and several health issues.

I love my husband dearly, but it wouldn't matter whether or not he was against the surgery. I'm not doing this for him. I'm doing it for me.

I came home after I made my decision and just told him I was doing this and handed him all of the brochures and info I was given. After 20 years of marriage he still doesn't understand why I can't just practice 'all things in moderation', particularly since I did lose 70 lbs...and kept it off...on my own, but he understands how important this is to me and is supportive for that reason.

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