Jump to content
×
Are you looking for the BariatricPal Store? Go now!

Slow Losers - Unite!



Recommended Posts

My band was too tight when I came out of surgery. UGH!!!

I lost 15# in 8 days, from dehydration. There was nothing that could be done, since there was nothing in my band. I just had to tough it out.

That was almost 6 months ago. I have had 3 small fills & 1 un-fill since.

I now have, like, 1.4 in a 4cc band. & can barely eat anything. But, my weight loss has stopped. I too, am sick of the questions. My neice had by-pass a week after I was banded. She has lost over 80#. I have lost maybe 35#. So, I hear it all. I do Water arobics 3 days a week. I started another, "body sculping class", today. The first thing the trainer said to me, in front of everyone, was,"you need to go on a diet." I wanted to slap her. If she had any idea what kind of hell I have been through, just to loose 35#, she would have been ashamed of herself.

I can't eat any less & I can't exersize any more. I have to ask myself, "Is this really worth it?" Being sick & in pain everyday might be worth it , if I was loosing weight, but, Im not.....so, I don't know.....:)

I could really use some encouragement.:help:

Judyfay62

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I started another, "body sculping class", today. The first thing the trainer said to me, in front of everyone, was,"you need to go on a diet." I wanted to slap her. If she had any idea what kind of hell I have been through, just to loose 35#, she would have been ashamed of herself.

God, what a bitch. It astounds me how ignorant and clueless people can be.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I would have said "I've already lost 35#, thank you very much. Now maybe you could tell me where I can get a crowbar to help you remove your foot from you mouth?"

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

If you can barely eat anything, do you think you need to have a little bit more taken out?

That was so rude of her to say that. She needs to have a lesson

in manners.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Wow! Guess I might need anger management classes,I was thinking hmmmmm wonder if slapping her silly would be body sculpting for the upper arms? LOL just kidding (maybe).Seriously I would have said really? I need a diet like you need manners and common sense so get a clue.But you were the better person so keep on being you and keep up the good job you are doing.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I don't have much restriction & I am having problems with the same binge eating behavior that got me here. Any suggestions on overcoming that behavior of overeating.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Yes, I think you should get a fill. Since my last fill, I never think about eating. I am always feeling too full.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Mis42 I understand your upset but binge eating is an issue that needs a professional. Do yourself a favor by going to counseling and work the binge eating out with someone who is professional. I have had issues such as yours and did this. I went to counseling one year after my banding and became ok with my no weight loss always knowing that someday it would all come together for me. This year it worked. I bet you will not have to go that long. But be brave and go forward.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I am trying to find a new board to call my home...I was banded about a year and a half ago and did really well for the first year then nothing....I have been fighting the same 5 lbs since around May and dont know what to do...I did go in and had a small fill but it still dont feel like it made a difference...I am really trying but seem to be falling back into some old habits since there has been no change for a while...I was hoping in the beginning that my body was just taking a break but how long does it want to hide in the closet?? I am just depressed over it all and dont know what to do...The looks from family members and coworkers when they find out that I am still having a hard time losing weight even after the band just seem to go thru me and cut into my soul...Anyone know what I mean?

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Avilla, I know what you mean. The band takes time to lose with. I've been stuck for a while now too. I am 16 months post op and down 65 lbs only. From what I read on your post it sounds like you may need another fill. Good luck.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

thanks, i kinda thought about that too then i got to thinking that i havent lost any weight since my last fill on August 31st and i hate to go back to the dr for another fill without a loss...i guess i just feel like he would just look at me like i was a crazy loser...

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

although in the 1st month of being banded, i lost 30lbs but now my weight loss has totally slowed down. it slowed down to a pound a week, which is acceptable but now its like a pound a month!!!:Banane30:

i am spinning 3 days a week, since august and starting tomorrow i am going to do tae bo and the firm on days that i am not spinning. i do know that i will graze when i'm not even hungry! i have been actually full but still want to put something in my mouth! i dont get that. whats that all about? they say you have to figure out why you're eating. well i know that its out of boredom!:bored so now what do i do since i identified that?? i have been totally stuffed and hurting but STILL put something in my mouth

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I don't have much restriction & I am having problems with the same binge eating behavior that got me here. Any suggestions on overcoming that behavior of overeating.

Mis42

Go get a fill and if you can't get one right away

#1 Don't buy the junk that you binge on - if it's not in the house you can't eat it. If it's regular food that you cook for meals - cook only single servings this way you can't get 2nds.

#2 Log/Diary/Track all food that enters your mouth

#3 Exercise daily

#4 Do some mental soul searching - read books on being overweight and how to over come the addiction. (self help books)

#5 Go back to the day you were banded - remember that motivation.

#6 Look at the before & after pictures -

#7 Go to the at Goal Thread read those post for motivation

#8 Make healthy food choices - weigh & measure your food.

#9 Join WW, Tops, Over-Eaters - consider seeing a professional

You can do this - - imho the band only does 25% of the work (once you have restriction) and the other 75% is up to you.

I am awaiting my 2nd fill - right now i am STARVING - have 45 minutes to lunch - I don't have much restriction I am working harder than the band - I am making good food choices - low fat - sugar free - i exercise daily - I am working - I don't buy junk - if i am hunger i eat extra veggies w/o all the butter... I don't keep temptation around me and i avoid it at all cost...

Only you can make the choices in your life, we can't but if you want to eat - find a distraction- get on the computer - come here ask for help

that's what i do. Get up go for a walk - go clean your bathroom - do anything you can to stop your mind from thinking about food.

Good Luck...

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
Guest
This topic is now closed to further replies.

  • Trending Products

  • Trending Topics

  • Recent Status Updates

    • LeighaTR

      I am new here today... and only two weeks out from my sleeve surgery on the 23rd. I am amazed I have kept my calories down to 467 today so far... that leaves me almost 750 left for dinner and maybe a snack. This is going to be tough for two weeks... but I have to believe I can do it!
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • Doughgurl

      Hey everyone. I'm new here so I thought I should introduce myself. I am 53y/o and am scheduled for Gastric Bypass on June 25th, 2025. I'm located in San Antonio, Texas. I will be having my surgery in Tiajuana Mexico. I've wanted this for years, but I always had insurance where bariatric procedures were excluded. Finally I am able to afford to pay out of pocket.  I can't wait to get started, and I hope I'm prepared for the initial period of "hell". I know what I have signed up for, but I'm sure the good to come will out way the temporary period of discomfort and feelings of regret. I'd love to find people to talk to who have been through the same procedure or experience before. So I look forward to meeting you all. Hope you have a great week!
      · 2 replies
      1. Selina333

        I'm so happy for you! You are about to change your life. I was so glad to get the sleeve done in Dec. I didn't have feelings of regret overall. And I'm down almost 60 lbs. I do feel a little sad at restaurants. I can barely eat half a kid's meal. I get adults meals often because kid ones don't have the same offerings at times. Then I feel obligated to eat on that until it's gone and that can be days. So the restaurant thing isn't great for me. All the rest is fine by me! I love feeling full with very little. I do wish I could drink when eating. And will sip at the end. Just a strong habit to stop. But I'm working on it! You will do fine! Just keep focused on your desire to be different. Not better or worse. But different. I am happy both ways but my low back doesn't like me that heavy. So I listened (also my feet!). LOL! Update us on your journey! I'm not far from you. I'm in Houston. Good luck and I hope it all goes smoothly! Would love to see pics of the town you go to for this. I've never been there. Neat you will be traveling for this! Enjoy the journey. Take it one day at a time. Sometimes a few hours at a time. Follow all recommendations as best you can. 💗

      2. Doughgurl

        Thank you so much for your well wishes. I am hoping that everything goes easy for me as well. We don't eat out much as it is, so it wont be too bad in that department. Thankfully. Also, I hear you regarding your back and feet!! I'd like to add knees to the list. Killing me as we speak! I'm only 5' so the weight has to go. Too short to carry all this weight. Menopause really did a doosey on me. (😶lol) My daughter also lives in Houston. with her Husband and my 5 grand-littles. I grew up in Beaumont, so I know Houston well, I will be sure to keep in touch and update you on my journey. I may need some advice in the future, or just motivation. Thank You so much for reaching out, I was hoping to connect with someone in the community. I really appreciate it. 💜

    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
      · 1 reply
      1. LeighaTR

        I hope your surgery on Wednesday goes well. You will be able to do all sorts of new things as you find your new normal after surgery. I don't know this from experience yet, but I am seeing a lot of positive things from people who have had it done. Best of luck!

    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
      · 1 reply
      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

    • CaseyP1011

      Officially here for a long time, not just a good time💪
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
  • Recent Topics

  • Hot Products

  • Sign Up For
    Our Newsletter

    Follow us for the latest news
    and special product offers!
  • Together, we have lost...
      lbs

    PatchAid Vitamin Patches

    ×