In having a change of heard on having the lapband. My Surgery is schedule for 07/14/09 and im scared. I have a family to think about and i keep thinking of the worse, can i do this ? what if something goes wrong ? what if ?????

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I think it's perfectly normal to be nervous and think about the what if's. But, think about the what if's that come along with being obese and not losing the weight.

What if, I get diabetes and I lose one or more of my limbs? What if, I have a heart attack?

What if, I get so heavy that every step I take hurts and I can't take care of my family?

What if, I want to do something and can't because I'm just too heavy?

There are many what if's out there, I think the most important thing to think about is...is it the best decision for you. If you feel it is right for you then that's what truly matters.

No matter what you decide, I wish you the best of luck.

Keep us posted.

It's great that you have a surgery date! I'm still in 6 month pre-op program and wonder if it will ever happen for me. Doubts are normal. Let me just say that in my job I see many random things that most people don't. Something unfortunate can happen to you just walking out of your home. There's a risk in everything we do, just look ahead to when you are shrinking and feel awesome!

I have a 9 year old,6 & 5 year old..and a husband who is constantly deployed...what if,what if...bashful hit the nail on the head...my "What If" list was much longer if I didn't have the surgery as oppesed to "What If" list if I had it. I'm one month post op and have never ever felt better...What if this works? What if I can fit into those jeans I've been saving for over 10 years? What if I've just made the best possible choice for me and my family?

I had the same fears right before surgery but am now almost 12 weeks post op. You'll be fine. Worrying about the surgery was worse than going through it. I hated the week before I was so stress. Everyone I talk to says the same thing the week before surgery is stressful.

I have lost 40 pounds and this is the best thing I have done for myself. No regrets. None at all!!

Its natural to worry and yes, like everyone says, you will be fine.

But you have to feel ready. I made and cancelled about 4 initial consultations with my surgeon before I felt ready to go. It had to feel right to me and it took a while before it did.

I'm 10 months out lost 55 lbs. Was a size 2X tops, 18w-20w pants. Now prod to say XL-14 -16 tops, size regular 12 pants, and still losing. I wish I did this years ago, if I new about it I would have. Good Luck you need to be ready and want to do it. Prayers with you. I have no regrets....

Life can be a roller coaster of decisions and Only You know your mind. Ask yourself if what you are doing is Working for You? Ask yourself Why you wanted to pursue this in the first place. Doubt and second guessing yourself can be the products of worry and other people's influence. I wish you Peace and Health whatever you choose.

I think you may regret your decision not to go through with it even more. Do it now while you are young and healthy. Don't wait until it's too late and you wish you shoulda coulda woulda.

I feel the same way as you. Recently I have been thinking obviosely it must be meant to be, due to me getting approved by the insurance. So I will do it on July14th. This is the last straw I wish you the best of luck in your decision.

I had some doubts right before surgery, but then I went and looked at my pro/con list. The pros heavily outweighed the cons for me -- and now, 10 months down the road, I see that a lot of my "cons" just aren't as big of a deal as I thought they would be.

It's normal to be afraid and to worry. But, as a practical matter, this surgery is pretty low-risk (especially compared with, e.g. gastric bypass surgery). I bet that statistically, your chances of having the surgery go wrong are significantly lower than your chances of having health problems due to your weight if you don't have the surgery.

Plus, even if you could be perfect on a diet for a year and lose the weight, (and this is a statistic I actually have seen) your chances of keeping it off would only be 5%.

Hang in there! If you have a pro/con list that helps you work through this, I'd recommend that you bring it with you when you have your surgery. I did that and, while it turns out that I didn't need it, I thought it would help me to have it to look at if I thought I might chicken out!

Best wishes for you to make the right decision for yourself!

Catherine

I am scheduled to have the band in 3 days and I had a pretty bad freak out session earlier today. I say it is normal to stress out towards the end, but that doesn't mean that you shouldn't go through with it.

I mean I am a believer in intuition and premonitions but try to decipher if your nerves and apprehensions are normal (cold feet) or if your "gut" (no pun intended h/h) is really telling you "don't do it!"

Good luck with your decision :rolleyes2:

re: having 2nd thoughts.

i've been heavy all my life

plateaued at 270 pounds

and developed diabetes, afib heart and chronic depression

I talked to my doctor for help and was told that she doesn't believe in pillsl. my weight had surged to over 300lbs. when i asked my dr about it she said she does not believe in pills but believes in surgery. she outline what needed to do. dietitian and counseling and psychiatrist for 1 year.now i go to first seminar and then cconsult with my surgeon. i do not want to die blind, crippled, on dialysis and heart attacks. i inject myself with insulin 5 times a day. i need to do something for myself. any thing from my current life is going to be a nightmare of waiting for the reaper. and i am ready for a positive change.

great daddydo, a friend was on insulin since the lap band she no longer do any insulin...good luck