Lap Band 3 months ago and I have lost almost 30 pounds. My husband has suddenly (after 2 plus years) noticed once again I'm alive...I feel angry... well... more hurt by this. I thought the attention he is giving me would make me happy. I was wrong. We are a million miles apart when we are standing next to each other...in my opionion. I know he loves me and I love him but I can't seem to get past the feelings of being hurt and pushed to the wayside for so long.

MaryRose, I am right there with you. I have lost about 30lbs and I get compliments, and its followed by what does hubby say?... and you know what he never says anthing, but I don't hold that against him. He's the smart man and has always played it safe, and never comments. I can Ask does this or that look better and he will be honest. Or I have to make a comment like " dang look these pants don't fit anymore" he will say "thats good babe your doing good". but he never initiates a comment. I am ok w/ that. We have been married 12 years and we have never had a bad bedroom relationship, no matter how much i weighed. i guess he really loves ME.. and i love him too.