This post is about answering the question "how did you lose your weight" if asked by people you don't care to share your lapband story with.

I have only told my husband and three friends so far. My best friend said be prepared for always thin people to come right out and ask if Ive had surgery.:wink: I think screaming none of your business at them would actually be answering their question. ANY TIPS? Has any one found an affective way of dealing with this? I dont want to be rude. But I don't want to tell the truth either.

Edited February 28, 200917 yr by cindel
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Again, just for me: to respond by telling people that I am watching what I eat and excercizing would be tantamount to lying. I tried to "watch what I eat and excercize" for my entire life and I failed miserably. I "watched what I ate and excercized" all the way up to 286 pounds. Then I finally decided to get the Lapband. True, it is just a tool. True, I now successfully watch what I eat and excercize. But I wouldn't have been able to do it without the boost the band gave me and the limits it gives me up until today. To say anything else would be misleading at best.

Everyone has their own reasons for telling or not telling, just because I decided not to tell everyone does not mean I am misleading anyone. One of the reasons I started this whole journey was because of medical issues. I had not had a physical in years and when I decided to see a doctor the test results actually opened my eyes to what I was doing to myself. I decided then that I would change my eating habits and I was able to lose 60 pounds prior to my insurance approving me for the band. I have had my 3rd fill and I still don't feel the fullness that people talk about, so as of right now, I feel that everything that I am doing is still on my own and I don't feel that I am "lying" to anyone because it is the truth. If I had continued to eat what I ate before, with or without the band, I wouldn't have gotten this far. The band is here to help us control the portions of food we eat and without making conscious decisions we would all be where we were prior to going through all of this. I guess my "boost" was in seeing a doctor that gave me the confidence and strength in doing this and I know that one day my band will also be a boost for me in helping me keep my weight off.

... just because I decided not to tell everyone does not mean I am misleading anyone... I don't feel that I am "lying" to anyone.

Lola, I absolutely understand your reasons for approaching this issue the way you do, and by no means meant to imply that you were being lying or misleading. I prefaced my comment with "Just for me" exactly for that reason. If you my comment caused you any distress, then you have my most sincere apology. We are all in this together, and I wish you nothing but the best of luck and success on your journey.

I think to put it ll in a nutshell, everyone is different. Some people are open books and don't have any trouble telling people about their lives. And then there are others that are hesitant to share their life stories.

I for one am an open book for all to see. I have been thru cancer twice and when customers at my work would compliment my new hairstyle I would move my wig ever so slightly and then smile!!!! Not everyone is so willing to share personal things about themselves.

Bernadette:rolleyes:

I am like you, I dont want to tell people. After my surgery I came back to work any everyone asked how I lost so much weight (15 pounds), I said I took advantage of being off. Got my self on a workout program, and I have been working on eating healthy(Low Carbs). No one asked past that.

I am like you, I dont want to tell people. After my surgery I came back to work any everyone asked how I lost so much weight (15 pounds), I said I took advantage of being off. Got my self on a workout program, and I have been working on eating healthy(Low Carbs). No one asked past that.

Those of us banded so close to the new year have resolutions to use as our reason. :scared2:

Tell them you just had enough and you followed a diet and exercised or tell them you joined weight watchers.

I tell them I bought a tape worm on the Internet. That tends to shut them up.