I had a chat with DH last night, as I know that after my body lift, I will have some obvious (and sizeable) scars, even if they do fade after some time.

I wondered if they would be off-putting to DH and whether he would find me attractive anymore.

He reassured me that he would find me attractive no matter what, but I can't help feeling he's not quite prepared for the extent of the scarring, and how different I'll look.

So I was hoping to hear from those who have BTDT - how did your spouse react to your scars?

Maybe you could show him some pictures, but my understanding is that scars get pretty faint fairly quickly. I'm more worried about how dh will feel if I get that breast reduction I'm thinking about. He really is attached to my breasts!

Thanks for your reply MacMadame,

DH has seen pictures already, but I don't think it'll quite be the same when they're on his wife. I hope he means what he says, and that he'll love my body no matter what.

I am starting to believe that, to him, a big scar is still preferable to the masses of loose skin I currently have, just from things he has said recently, so am feeling more confident about the surgery after all.

Lellow,

I don't have a spouse -- but I date and I had a boyfriend at the time I had my plastics and I really worried about the scars. As background, I had a LBL (in two stages), brachioplasty, inner thigh lift and breast lift with implants -- pretty much as many scars as you can have (well, my TT doesn't have the vertical scar, but that's the only one I can think I'm missing!).

I'm nearly two years past the circumferential and a year past the inner thighs and I can tell you, even 3 months out, the scars are not an issue. What you gain in attractiveness for having your body be appropriately shaped so far outweighs those lines. My brachioplasty scars are pretty severe -- the rest healed very, very well. And no one even asks about the brach scars -- it's just not an issue.

Your husband may be put off by your scars in the very early days, more because he'll be afraid of hurting you than because you're unattractive due to the scars. You'll work through it and before you know it, it'll all be behind you.

Two years ago if you told me I'd wear the tiniest bikinis one day, I'd have laughed at you. It's possible. Hang in there.

Thank you so much for your reassurances Julie. I know in my heart that this is what I need to do, and that he actually would prefer a scar and a proportionate body than all the loose skin I currently have.

I've lost all this weight and yet I'm more self-concious of my naked body than ever before. He knows this and he knows how it effects my body image.

We also had a few glitches in the preparation for my surgery (my anaesthetist was going to be away and they were having trouble finding a replacement) and it looked like my surgery might be postponed for a few months. It was only when that happened that I realised how much I actually want to do this, and how I'm prepared for the scars and the changes to come.

Luckily it looks like the surgery will go ahead as scheduled on the 2nd of April, after all, and I have to admit that my fears about the resulting scars have abated a lot, especially with your post.

My husband loved me me when I was 250 lbs and had a bizzlion stretch marks.

He loved me just as much when I lost 70 lbs and had a big ol jabba the hut flappy belly with a billion stretch marks. He loves me still just as much after my tummy tuck to remove that 9 pound jabba belly, and even with the Anchor TT scar and the scars along my hips,

He loves me for me. Your hubby will love you for you.

Lellow,

I don't have a spouse -- but I date and I had a boyfriend at the time I had my plastics and I really worried about the scars. As background, I had a LBL (in two stages), brachioplasty, inner thigh lift and breast lift with implants -- pretty much as many scars as you can have (well, my TT doesn't have the vertical scar, but that's the only one I can think I'm missing!).

I'm nearly two years past the circumferential and a year past the inner thighs and I can tell you, even 3 months out, the scars are not an issue. What you gain in attractiveness for having your body be appropriately shaped so far outweighs those lines. My brachioplasty scars are pretty severe -- the rest healed very, very well. And no one even asks about the brach scars -- it's just not an issue.

Your husband may be put off by your scars in the very early days, more because he'll be afraid of hurting you than because you're unattractive due to the scars. You'll work through it and before you know it, it'll all be behind you.

Two years ago if you told me I'd wear the tiniest bikinis one day, I'd have laughed at you. It's possible. Hang in there.

Julie, nice to see you again, I followed your PS threads way back when I first became a member of LBT. Your were and are a great insperation to many on here.