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Doctors no longer wanting to place a band is actually not a global phenomena, just to be clear. In Australia, lapbands are still routinely placed. I have concerns with anyone who talks about long term complications without context. "Complication" is such a subjective word. There may be more complications with lapband surgery (ranging from minor to major) but the ones experienced by sleevers are often more significant, and often require far more invasive surgery to rectify. I don't think any complication should be taken too lightly here. or the long term affects of both, not JUST in weight loss but overall health. I don't think this is as simple a decision as someone saying 'go for it'. There are many factors to consider for both surgeries and these shouldn't be glossed over. These include complication rates, types of complications, ability to rectify complications, access to after-care, quality of aftercare, and as a veteran of WLS, the LONG term ramifications of WLS. It's hard to believe that concerns like 'i need to eat for health reasons' might be anything you might worry about now, but believe me when I say it's possible. I have had my band loosened when I was losing too much. Nice to have the option, but not something you think about when you're heavy and only just starting out. It's why, when my band developed a leak and I had the option of revising to another band or a sleeve, I chose another band. Because I weighed ALL the factors and came to the best decision for ME. Not you, not the guy next door, and not my insurance company or the doctor I happened to be seeing, but me.

and from a long term perspective, this is NEW. I got accused of being narcissistic, self absorbed, insensitive when I was losing because for the first time I actually gave myself permission to focus on ME in order to succeed. People don't like change at the best of times, foist it on them and they will react unhappily. BUT give it a year, maybe two. A new normal will take over. You won't be talking about it that much, eating a certain way will become accepted as 'just the way it is' and your weight loss will not cause so much waves among the people you love. Trust me. My adult kids and my partner don't even think about it anymore. So this is not the end of anything, it is a learning curve for all of you, and if you ride it out, I promise it won't stay like that forever.

I will admit this is something I've had a lot of years to think about. And for a lot of years I was offended that my ex found me more attractive (and was more jealous) when I was thin than when I was heavy. But I think we judge people too harshly. Love and attraction are not always tied in. When we're single, we look initially for those who we find attractive so why wouldn't we even when we're with them long term? Love can make someone more attractive, sure, but physicality is still important. I will not lie and say that when my guy gains and gets that horrid beer belly, that I find him as attractive as when he is working out and is lean and fit. Do I love him any less? NO. Gaining weight is no different to suddenly having a comb-over, or wearing sandals with socks, or growing a ZZ top beard. I find none of those things attractive, and it would probably make me want my guy less sexually if he did one or all of the above, but I would still love him. And the fact that more girls pay him attention when he works out is NOT lost on me, so of course I feel more jealousy. And in the end, he feels all those things for me too, so I know that while his love for me never ebbs, I need to own the fact that I may not be AS attractive to him if I do things or become someone he wouldn't normally find attractive. Does it mean he doesn't love me? Not at all.

The hormone you're talking about is ghrelin and I don't think lap banding reduces the production of it. However the band does put pressure on the vagus nerve which can provide feelings of satisfaction for long periods of time, sometimes 24/7, I guess.

aww girl, you are too, believe me. Plus, it didn't work :/ He kept playing Assassins' Creed!

my goofy selfie to try to get my man off his PS4 and call it a night

CG my dearest! Thank you, good to see you too, lovely lady. I'm slowly trying to get back up to speed again after a few (unrelated) health issues. I hope it means that I will be kicking butts and taking names again soon! xx

I actually went and got 0.1cc of the 0.2cc out yesterday. I talked to my doctor and she said maybe I only needed a smaller fill after all. So we took it out. So right now I'm 0.1cc up from where I *WAS* feeling hunger, and nope, no difference. Still no appetite, still no interest in food. So I've decided to keep this itty bitty 0.1cc and just set alarms to eat. It's how it works for me. It's not a bad thing as long as I manage it.

Lol I'm Asian. Asian food is pretty much all I want to eat. And lots of Chinese food is healthy. Stir fry without heavy sauces is healthy. Home cooked Chinese is not smothered in sauce, so ask if they can use a little bit of oyster sauce or soy and keep it 'light'. I will have stir fries at least once a week and honestly, stir fries done right will have minimal sodium, lots of veg, protein and very little fat.

The fastest weight loss for a lot of patients, from what I've seen over the years, has been on the pre-op diet and in the weeks post op. Then it stabilises. It's a lot of weight to lose, I agree, but it will not stay at that rate, don't worry. =

No it's not normal. Eating should not be uncomfortable and refluxing your food at night is a pretty good sign that you're too tight. To be honest if you've hit goal anyway I would suggest that an small unfill would relieve the pressure and also allow you to eat comfortably, and enough to not lose anymore, but maintain.

I would be explaining all this to your doctor. Being too tight for a while could have caused secondary problems, and if fills aren't working, before getting anymore, I'd be asking for an xray to check for a slip, a upper GI or something.

My NSV: last week my 22yo son said to me that he can't remember what I looked like when I was heavy. 5 years + banded, I've been heavy longer than I have not, but he can't remember anymore. He was 17 when I got banded.

I agree, I think if I was the kind of person who might say 'oh unfill me so I can eat more" I wouldn't have gone the band. But the band has been great in that when I started losing too much, I was able to keep it a little loose so I felt hunger, and if I gain a bit too much, I have it filled and I'm back on track. I have maintained my weight, even with the complication of the leak, to within a normal range for over 5 years now. When my band was leaking and I had the option to revise to sleeve or band last year, I chose the band again, because it works for me. I think you do need to have more patience and self control with the band, it's very easy to cheat the band and yourself. My doctor still advocates the band over sleeve because it has longer term, mostly positive stats and in Australia, is actually quite a successful procedure, I suspect, in part to the fact that our aftercare is cheap and accessible. And it can be successful, as I'm testament too. Lapband surgery is like pregnancy, everyone has a horror story but you don't often hear about the successes. And there are plenty. People like me, for whom it wasn't hard at all. So do your research and choose what is best FOR YOU, not what was best for everyone else.