I go for a seminar tonight to find out more. For once in my life I am truly considering doing something like this, and so far I like the sounds of this procedure.

However, I have this husband... lol... I have gained 140 pounds since I've known him -- double my weight from when we met. I gained 100 of that within the first couple years. I have now been fat for nearly 20 years.

My husband LOVES food, but he's not fat. He's maybe gained about 20 pounds since we met, but he's certainly not fat. He can eat massive amounts at one sitting. I, however, just look at food and blow up. Oftentimes he only eats one meal a day which SHOULD make him fat.

I have tried dieting before, and he was as supportive as he could be in the beginning. Maybe 6 months or so into a diet, he'd really want to start going out to eat and having stuff that certainly was not on my diet. The problem was, I could do pretty well, but then his constant want of bad foods really got to me and my weakness. I'm certainly not blaming him, but his love of food and wanting me to eat with him would override what he knew I wanted. Does that make sense?

Anyway, this type of procedure, should I do it, will really put a change in that relationship... with food, that is. We even have friends who would have us go out with them nearly every night of the week if they could, but it's easier to say no, we're busy, to them.

Anybody else have this concern/issue? If so, how did it go or what ended up happening??

DH and I both love to eat and love to cook. food was a major part of our relationship, and that hasn't changed. I still do a lot of baking; I just don't eat any of it. I put it in individual servings, and pop it into the freezer, and when DH wants something sweet, he gets it out and enjoys. DH still cooks a lot; we eat it, just in smaller portions. I decided at the beginning that this surgery would not be like a diet with eliminating foods from my diet or the house. Everything is allowed, just in portions.

We never did go out to eat a lot - we both can cook better food for less at home. I have upped my activities; DH has not, but that's ok. We don't have to do everything together, and we each benefit from having our own interests.

Now into my 8th month, this is working for us.

Oh wow, thanks for filling me in y'all! :cool2:

Yes, the seminar WAS informative. I got a bit... disgusted... with one woman who, when it was listed what some people may not be able to eat, exclaimed to her friend, "PASTA??" They were the first ones to leave when the seminar was over. Guess they were looking for that magic cure-all which allows us to keep doing what we are doing and lose tons of weight. :laugh:

I have set up an appointment to begin the process next week. Well, actually I secured the date. This doctor is not in my network, though his father is. This doctor does these operations exclusively, so that is a plus, but I will talk to one of their office personnel who does the insurance to see what my out-of-pocket would be if I DO use him, not being in my network.

Still have not told hubby what I'm contemplating. He's a bit perplexed that I am being so silent. I told him last night I needed to get all MY information together first before I started potentially dealing with HIS negativity and BS...

I had some of the same thoughts as you. My hubby isn't skinny but if he lost 20 he would be pushing it. Since I started the 1200 calorie diet what I've been doing is say when I buy chciken I measure it out, more him and less for me, freeze it and when its time to cook its all good. We have eaten out a few times, we've done the sharing and he adds a salad and sides, we both we full and he wasn;'t deprived, and I ate wise. If he wants something thats a no no or not on my list, he can have it, I just eat something else. Theres no hanging out in front of the tube with a bag of doughnuts now, but we are still tigether when we watch tv. He knows how much this means to me and that it will make me healthier. My sister who has been overweight even longer than myself but is younger is just now seeing some of the heath problems knock at her door. Shes never been able to loose so she wants me to ne the guinea pig and if it works for me then get it done for herself. I think she'd be doing it sooner but right now shes looking at a hysterectomy and a few other things first. Someone pointed out that most oner weight females are givers, strong need to please, and so on. If we don't get this weight off now, we may not be around to worry about anyone elses needs. Sorry if that seems morbid but for a lot of us its the truth.

I can identify with so many aspects of this thread. My husband was thin when we married and I was already overweight, we've been married for 13 1/2 years and I've put on about 120lbs. I never gained a huge amount at once but a little bit constantly. We are eaters and celebrate/entertain with food. Heck, I have a cake business! lol Food is a habit for us. Get the kids to bed? Okay grab a snack and watch tv. Every night. I am curious to see how it plays out once I am banded. He isn't overweight but could stand to lose a little weight himself. I think this might be the catalyst we need to change our habits. It is so awesome to hear other people with similar situations. My husband is incredibly supportive and I am really excited to take this journey knowing he is there to hold my hand along the way.