I am on the verge of a divorce and I wanted to find out if anyone else has been divorced after being banded? Please tell me your story.

Girfriend, I will call you this week. I am doing fantastic. I feel like everyrhing is coming together nicely. I took the kids to a great little church yesterday and spent the entire day (just me) down in Capitola beach, had dinner. It was really nice. I am planning my future without Paul. I meet with the attorney on 9/15.

Good for you I have been worried. Don't think I need to. One day at a time.. We will talk soon..

Hi everyone, just wanted to give you an update. I am meeting with my attorney on 9/15 to file for divorce. I picked up the packet today to prepare. My husband is still unemployed which does not help the situation. The court will order him to find a job within 60-90 days I believe so we shall see. He has no money to move out so this is a tricky one for me. We are still sleeping in the same bed. I've had to use some Tylenol PM to help me sleep otherwise I can't sleep at all. I am really hoping he'll be man enough to move into my son's room and have my son sleep with me. I am focused on my sobriety, lapband, my new friends I've been meeting, my weight loss, my finances and trying to keep the house payments going. My oldest son has come to terms with it so that is good. He said he doesn't know the man who raised him anymore. I am going to get my youngest son into some counseling because he is taking it the hardest. Please pray for me and my family. This next 6 to 9 months will not be easy. Julie P.S. I am brave and strong.

Just wanted to update everyone. My husband and I are filing for divorce tomorrow. So far we are amiccable. He is suppose to find out about a new job tomorrow so we can get him into an apartment right away. I don't mind if it takes him a few months. Julie

Julie, I am happy things are going so smoothly for the two of you during this transition. Divorce is never the easy choice even when it is the best choice.

Stay strong, and good luck with his job situation.

Thanks Ghost. I am a little worried on the upkeep of the house as the pool and yard are a bit too much to handle. I know God will take care of us if we decide not to stay here.

I am glad to hear that things are working out relatively smoothly during this difficult time.

Be strong.

I went to the attorney yesterday. If I stay in the house I have to pay him $1400 a month in alimony. If I lose the house it will be $750 a month. So I don't know what is going to happen now. I talk to my tax man tomorrow.

OUCH!!! Keep us posted.

OUCHH!! is right

I suppose I understand if you get a larger portion of the "estate" then you would "owe" him more but it still doesn't make much sense that if you keep a property that is going to cost you more in upkeep than if you sold it that you then have to turn around and pay him more as well.

What if you "bought" him out of his share of the house with a one-time payment would that bring the alimony down?