I just want/need to share how I feel lately about things.

First, I do appreciate that newbies need advice and seek the knowlage of take others. I was once there! BUT what bothers me about it is that people it over MEDICAL advice. That is not the ideal thing to do, and can be downright dangerous.

Something to remember just because someone has done something THEMSELVES doesn't make it

1. Scientific, so therefore NOT proven. A study of just 1 is not a study

2. Safe, most importantly some people have done things their Dr would never approve and pass this on as something you should do.

3. The best thing for YOUR body, everyone is entirely different. How your body reacts my be not only different, but life threatening.

I always give a disclaimer when someone asks me how I do things that you should always talk to your Dr. Some people here do not and pass off advice that is less than medically sound. Sometimes down right dangerous.

I am just asking that anyone looking for help also consider that MOST of us on here are NOT Dr's. All we can tell you is OUR experience and what worked for us. Please do not take everything into heart as gospel truth. It is ok to ask questions but always talk to your Dr before changing anything in your bandster life. I encourage eveyone to talk and learn but please think about what people are saying!

This also goes for those who think that just because a few are having problems with their band that you will as well. The band is not a life complicating thing. I am sorry for those who do have problems with it, but they aren't the norm. IF the band really was bad it wouldn't be on the market. Again people posting that the band isn't working,they are sick, whatever it is again is JUST their experience, it doesn't mean you will be that way as well.

This is just something I had to get off my chest, I hope it doesn't fall onto deaf ears. AND I am not calling anyone out, so please do not throw stones at me. It is something that is particularly bothering me that I feel the need to address....again just my opinions!

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I love Grammar Slammer for these kinds of things.

ohhhhh.... i know whose (who's??) posts you've been reading!!! :crying:

Oh, I just pulled that out of my head from the collective sanctimonious posts I've encountered here. Yikes if that actually made you think of an individual! :ohmy:

BTW, I heart the word "sanctimonious". Just saying...

Lulu I see what you are saying. I think it is the posts that say "I am throwing up blood, what should I do" that piss people off. I mean seriously they should not be on here asking advice, they should be in the ER.

I get ya! I pretty much gleam past those because, telling one to call a Dr doesn't appear to be what they want to hear.

I'm pretty sympathetic to some who appear scared / without a strong support system - or like me in the beginning had a lot of questions / concerns. Many on this thread were kind to my early psycho stages, to reply.

Oh, I just pulled that out of my head from the collective sanctimonious posts I've encountered here. Yikes if that actually made you think of an individual! :crying:

BTW, I heart the word "sanctimonious". Just saying...

lol ... i know, i was kidding... but i can imagine someone saying that ...

I understand raising concerns about overt medical issues like "puking blood" that need to be addressed by a Dr. But other times people ask questions because they want to hear about other's experiences. This is one way to learn.

I understand raising concerns about overt medical issues like "puking blood" that need to be addressed by a Dr. But other times people ask questions because they want to hear about other's experiences. This is one way to learn.

I understand and agree with that entirely. What I have a problem with is some people telling others it is ok to ignore adverse problems and say

"It is ok, I did it" "I did that too, you'll be ok."

It is perfectly ok to tell sokone your experience, but NOT OK TO TELL THEM THEY WILL BE OK JUST BECAUSE YOU WERE!

It is perfectly ok to tell sokone your experience, but NOT OK TO TELL THEM THEY WILL BE OK JUST BECAUSE YOU WERE!

exactly BBK.

'i ate chicken and steak 6 days post op, is that OK'?

sure, i did it too, no problems - you'll be fine... how do YOU know that they will be fine?

This hits on one of my general life pet peeves. Anyone's personal experience does not write the "law" of what will happen, especially when the topic at hand is 99.99% subjective. Oh I do hate that so.