I asked this question on another board and the responses I got have made me feel bad and that I have done something wrong and messed up this whole journey.

I am 3.5 weeks post op - doctor wants me on anything that can go through a funnel (Soups, Jello, hummus, etc). I have been following that part and sticky to mushy foods, Protein shakes and Water. This is the problem - I have taken a few small bites of my sons meals like a tiny bite of chicken,Pasta or sausage. I have always done this to test for temperature and to see how it tastes and I have done it a few times since surgery.

Have I done something really bad? I know it is considered cheating but I am concerned now that I messed up the band. The answers I got on the other board told me that I am not commited to the changes I need to make. I think that is a crappy thing to say - I have lost 23 lbs since I started this and I feel great.

Am I a failure cause I sure feel crappy now!

Lauren

I doubt you have done any damage, so relax. But like everyone says, do try to comply with your doctor's instructions from now on. One thing I don't get is why, if you only deviated from doctor's orders to test the temp of things for your kids, did you try to eat bread? FYI, I cannot now and never have been able to eat bread. In fact, my doctor uses the question, "Can you eat bread?" to determine whether or not I need a fill.

One reason I come to this site and this site only is that when I used to go to another site, I found they were very self-righteous and blaming. There seemed to be a lot of finger-wagging going on. Whereas the wonderful people on this site have never been anything but supportive.

Nancy

I can't believe anyone would put you down or make you feel bad for making a mistake. I'm like Vera where sometimes I simply forget that I'm not supposed to eat something, so I spit it out. Just yesterday I needed blood work, so I wasn't supposed to eat anything. I skipped my coffee and my morning Water, then as I was putting my Vitamins in my pocket to take later, I took a nice gulp of liquid vitamins without even realizing I'd done so. Luckily the lab said it wouldn't change my results. The point is that I drank it without even thinking. Opps, call me human.

Did you chew the bites really well? My doc said only Clear Liquids, but the day after surgery the hospital gave me apple juice that was thick like applesauce. After a few swallows I called my doctor and told him they gave me thick sauce. He said that wasn't a problem and allowed me that apple puree the day after banding. So just start all over again. If you think you hurt yourself, call your doc.

Promise to be good to yourself. Don't let anyone make you feel bad. For Heaven's sake, we are all the same morbidly obese people. Just because some lost weight, that doesn't change the fact that we have all been morbidly out of control in the food department, so nobody has the right to judge you.

Well, what can I say that everyone else hasn't already said? Don't beat yourself up over a few bites, but anymore more than a few bites and you might have to bend over and let us kick your butt. Don't forget the reason for not eating is so your tummy doesn't have to work digesting food, but can heal. Take care!