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1 minute ago, ShoppGirl said:

No. I said he was NOT a medical doctor but still a doctor which I typically assume requires a certain level of common sense.

Someone with a PhD? We often joke with my brother who has a PhD that he may be intelligent but he certainly doesn't have any common sense :)

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7 hours ago, ShoppGirl said:

No. I said he was NOT a medical doctor but still a doctor which I typically assume requires a certain level of common sense.

So you did ! Don't know why I didn't see that before

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13 hours ago, Splenda said:

As a licensed Christian minister, here would be my response to them.

In Matthew 5:29-30, Jesus said "If your right eye causes you to stumble, gouge it out and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to be thrown into hell. And if your right hand causes you to stumble, cut it off and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to go into hell."

Jesus clearly endorsed the idea that you need self-control by almost any means necessary. He said that if your hand leads you to sin, be willing to cut it off. If your eye continually leads you to sin, be willing to gouge it out. So if your stomach leads you to the sin of gluttony, shouldn't you be equally willing to have it surgically altered to prevent such a sin?

Thank you.

I just have to say, I’m not religious in any significant way, but this is probably the best response to a specific post i’ve read on here ever.

This was the perfect answer to the question, for reals.

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Just to update everyone...I don't speak to them anymore. I have lost almost 70 pounds in 3 1/2 months. I work out, watch my diet, I'm strict about doing everything I'm supposed to. I take my Vitamins and supplements. And the last straw was when they told me my weight loss didn't count because I took the easy way out and let the surgery do all the work for me. They said anyone who has most of their stomach removed can drop a ton of weight, so I shouldn't be acting like I accomplished anything. That was it for me. I was done. And I haven't looked back since!!

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5 hours ago, SleeveDiva2022 said:

Just to update everyone...I don't speak to them anymore. I have lost almost 70 pounds in 3 1/2 months. I work out, watch my diet, I'm strict about doing everything I'm supposed to. I take my Vitamins and supplements. And the last straw was when they told me my weight loss didn't count because I took the easy way out and let the surgery do all the work for me. They said anyone who has most of their stomach removed can drop a ton of weight, so I shouldn't be acting like I accomplished anything. That was it for me. I was done. And I haven't looked back since!!

I would love to see them stick to the pre and post op diets for even a week and then say that it’s the easy way out. Cutting ties with people is never easy but sometimes it’s necessary. I’m glad you put that unnecessary negativity behind you.

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I am so sorry that anyone would make
You feel this way. Being a very strong Christian I would never make anyone feel that they did something against GOD. I had the surgery at the end of September last year and have loss 95 pounds I also had a hip replacement, had 4 COVID shots and believe that our GOD us the intelligence to be able to help people with surgery and medicine.

I commend you for having the courage to have the surgery. I know I am proud of myself for having it and taking my life back!!

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Just to update everyone...I don't speak to them anymore. I have lost almost 70 pounds in 3 1/2 months. I work out, watch my diet, I'm strict about doing everything I'm supposed to. I take my Vitamins and supplements. And the last straw was when they told me my weight loss didn't count because I took the easy way out and let the surgery do all the work for me. They said anyone who has most of their stomach removed can drop a ton of weight, so I shouldn't be acting like I accomplished anything. That was it for me. I was done. And I haven't looked back since!!
That makes me so mad for you. Good for you for cutting those people out of your life. This change is so hard! They have no idea what they are talking about.

Also, congrats on the 70 pounds lost!

I think nothing can prepare you for the ugly things people say after you try to make yourself better.

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On 8/22/2022 at 2:30 AM, SleeveDiva2022 said:

Just to update everyone...I don't speak to them anymore. I have lost almost 70 pounds in 3 1/2 months. I work out, watch my diet, I'm strict about doing everything I'm supposed to. I take my Vitamins and supplements. And the last straw was when they told me my weight loss didn't count because I took the easy way out and let the surgery do all the work for me. They said anyone who has most of their stomach removed can drop a ton of weight, so I shouldn't be acting like I accomplished anything. That was it for me. I was done. And I haven't looked back since!!

This person needs to take a real, long, hard look at that "Judge not" portion of the Bible

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On 6/25/2022 at 7:15 PM, Splenda said:

As a licensed Christian minister, here would be my response to them.

In Matthew 5:29-30, Jesus said "If your right eye causes you to stumble, gouge it out and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to be thrown into hell. And if your right hand causes you to stumble, cut it off and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to go into hell."

Jesus clearly endorsed the idea that you need self-control by almost any means necessary. He said that if your hand leads you to sin, be willing to cut it off. If your eye continually leads you to sin, be willing to gouge it out. So if your stomach leads you to the sin of gluttony, shouldn't you be equally willing to have it surgically altered to prevent such a sin?

I realize this post is older, but just wanted to say thank you for taking time to write it. As a Christian, I have also struggled with the notion that my body is a temple but that somehow I'm forsaking what He intended for me to be. I always try to hand over my battles to God. Now I feel tremendous relief knowing that He understands our struggles, so much so that He endorsed what many would call "drastic measures" to avoid sin and despair. Wow...this WLS journey is deeper than anyone can fathom!

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On 6/25/2022 at 7:15 PM, Splenda said:

As a licensed Christian minister, here would be my response to them.

In Matthew 5:29-30, Jesus said "If your right eye causes you to stumble, gouge it out and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to be thrown into hell. And if your right hand causes you to stumble, cut it off and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to go into hell."

Jesus clearly endorsed the idea that you need self-control by almost any means necessary. He said that if your hand leads you to sin, be willing to cut it off. If your eye continually leads you to sin, be willing to gouge it out. So if your stomach leads you to the sin of gluttony, shouldn't you be equally willing to have it surgically altered to prevent such a sin?

I realize this post is older, but just wanted to say thank you for taking time to write it. As a Christian, I have also struggled with the notion that my body is a temple but that somehow I'm forsaking what He intended for me to be. I always try to hand over my battles to God. Now I feel tremendous relief knowing that He understands our struggles, so much so that He endorsed what many would call "drastic measures" to avoid sin and despair. Wow...this WLS journey is deeper than anyone can fathom!

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It's understandable that you may be feeling frustrated and confused by the response you received from your friends regarding your decision to have gastric sleeve surgery. It's important to remember that everyone has their own beliefs and opinions, and not everyone may understand or agree with your decision.

It's important to make decisions about your health that are best for you and that you feel comfortable with, regardless of what others may think or say. It's also important to remember that gastric sleeve surgery is a medically accepted and effective treatment for obesity and can have a positive impact on one's overall health and well-being.

It's also important to keep in mind that some people may have strong beliefs about health and wellness that may not align with your own, and that's okay. It's important to respect others’ opinions, and to surround yourself with people who support and understand you.

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My mother and grandmother were hospital nurses. They said the hospitals ask this in case something in surgery goes sideways. Like they find cancer while in there… so to help provide support while you feel unwell some people do feel comfort in the rituals of religion. Obviously religion doesn’t comfort everyone. The hospital clergy also want to be warned to stay away if so directed. The records last if you go in years later for a different issue.

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I am a believer in Jesus and what He did for me on the cross. It does not matter if you had the surgery. What really matters “ Where will you spend “ Eternity “

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