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I am going to lose my mind. I've waited all year for surgery. Not just bariatric, but 2 additional procedures that must be done to prevent further serious problems. They have cancelled and rescheduled my surgery 3 times already. Anyone in the US knows insurance starts over (usually) on Jan. 1, and now, one week away from surgery, they just called me to let me know they may cancel me again, just 16 days from year's end. I have not been able to get a job, go on vacays, see family, or Celebrate the holidays, all because I've been "on call" for this surgery. In fact, I was supposed to have a much lesser surgical procedure done elsewhere that could easily have been accomplished as far back as last summer, but this bari program doesn't commit to, and isn't accountable for, any obligations or schedule. This is ruining my entire life, and if they cancel again, I don't think I will be able to get it done. They've already charged over $40K in gross charges without one iota of actual health care to improve any medical condition whatsoever. It's all been unnecessary procedures, tests, appointments, etc. I'm wondering how other people can get health care at the drop of a hat, especially if they're in the hospital because they have not gotten a Covid vaccine, but the rest of us, who are personally paying the entire year thousands and thousands of dollars for insurance premiums and copays and coinsurance and deductibles in order to guarantee medical access, are denied. Spoiler: It's us idiots responsible enough to have insurance that are keeping the medical world afloat.

I'm just waiting for the class action lawsuits to start. If this isn't discrimination, I don't know what is. In the US, we literally have governors and mayors calling the shots as opposed to medical experts. It's all political. Since when in the free world do janky politicians decide who gets care and who does not? I am utterly disgusted.

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That’s terrible! I’m glad I live in a state that is allowing medical services to continue.

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Ugh, so sorry this is happening. My sleeve surgery got cancelled back in March 2020, but I was able to get it in July 2020. If I hadn’t had potential heart issues, I would have gone to Mexico for the surgery. There are several fine bariatric centers over the border.

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Just now, Elidh said:

Ugh, so sorry this is happening. My sleeve surgery got cancelled back in March 2020, but I was able to get it in July 2020. If I hadn’t had potential heart issues, I would have gone to Mexico for the surgery. There are several fine bariatric centers over the border.

I was supposed to have my surgery last summer, but an incompetent PA in another department saddled me with 2 misdiagnoses, and as a result also put me on a drug that would’ve killed me. It took over 3 months to undo the mess she created and have a real doctor get everything cleared up. But, of course, all those wrong tests, wrong diagnoses, etc. fed tens of thousands of more dollars into that hospital system. Pure corruption, and put the patient in danger.

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LadyH, I understand your anger and frustration. Keep us posted.

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I don't know what to say LadyH. I really really hope it doesn't get cancelled again. Did they give you a reason? Is there any room for you to go back to them and explain that the reason isn't a good one? I have absolutely everything crossed for you. 😥

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10 minutes ago, Spinoza said:

I don't know what to say LadyH. I really really hope it doesn't get cancelled again. Did they give you a reason? Is there any room for you to go back to them and explain that the reason isn't a good one? I have absolutely everything crossed for you. 😥

Because of Covid patients. It’s a state where the governor and mayor are dictators. Thanks for your support.

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My surgery is jut 13 days away and all of the hospitals within 150+ miles are full of COVID patients and turning away transfer patients. 88% of of those hospitalized with COVID were not vaccinated or not fully vaccinated. (I am vaccinated and have received the booster.)

My surgeon is reevaluating the schedule week by week.. As of today, my surgery is still on, but I recognize that it could get postponed.

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Our hospitals are still scheduling, but it's also been dicey. People are quitting, etc. and staffing is low. Weird times we are in. Frustrating, I'm sure.

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Lady H this is terrible and I’d be so frustrated. I’m going in 15 days if I get cancelled I think I’ll just go back vegan and hit the gym. My insurance is approved too and I’ve met my deductible for the year I don’t want to be pushed out. I’m so sorry to hear this you are in my thoughts and prayers

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6 hours ago, Elidh said:

Ugh, so sorry this is happening. My sleeve surgery got cancelled back in March 2020, but I was able to get it in July 2020. If I hadn’t had potential heart issues, I would have gone to Mexico for the surgery. There are several fine bariatric centers over the border.

So glad to hear you say this. I’m scheduled for surgery on Mexico on December 10th and I’m nervous.

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10 hours ago, Sunnyway said:

My surgery is jut 13 days away and all of the hospitals within 150+ miles are full of COVID patients and turning away transfer patients. 88% of of those hospitalized with COVID were not vaccinated or not fully vaccinated. (I am vaccinated and have received the booster.)

My surgeon is reevaluating the schedule week by week.. As of today, my surgery is still on, but I recognize that it could get postponed.

My sympathies are with you. I'm not political about the vaccine in that I don't care who does or doesn't get it, but if someone else's poor choices means I'm denied my own care, then there's a problem. Government says everyone needs a vaccine, yet continues to put the unvaccinated ahead of those who have complied. I have already spent so much time and money on arbitrary program bs, and to think that this paying patient, who has waited a year already is put on hold even longer is just maddening. If this runs into next year, not only will I have to pay all costs all over again, but you know the doctors will say I need to have those tests and procedures done all over again because they're a year old and expired now, which is just more bs. I'm starting to think the whole process is a racket. Plus, I'll be another year older, so my labs will be another year less stellar, and all of that is more excuse for them to do even more tests, delay even longer, and further take advantage of my time and money. They told me I'm supposed to start meds on Sunday, but I likely won't even know by then whether or not surgery is certain. I'm not going to take more risks putting drugs into my system if there's not even going to be any surgery. I don't even get my pre-op class until Friday. This is so messed up.

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7 hours ago, You Are My Sunshine said:

Our hospitals are still scheduling, but it's also been dicey. People are quitting, etc. and staffing is low. Weird times we are in. Frustrating, I'm sure.

Yes, it's nuts. If I hadn't been referred to a janky cardiac PC last spring instead of a real doctor, I would've had the surgery last summer before any of this Covid stuff retarted. Poor quality programming by the hospital. The PC wasn't qualified and almost killed me.

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7 hours ago, huskymama said:

Lady H this is terrible and I’d be so frustrated. I’m going in 15 days if I get cancelled I think I’ll just go back vegan and hit the gym. My insurance is approved too and I’ve met my deductible for the year I don’t want to be pushed out. I’m so sorry to hear this you are in my thoughts and prayers

That's where I'm at, albeit unwillingly. I'm wondering how long a person can live on this liquid diet, because at least I'm losing on it.

I saw your post on the shakes/liquid diet. Like you, I'm sick of sweets and the shakes are pretty unappealing. I switch it up with chicken broth. I add some fresh parsley to it, and that makes it seem a little more like "food."

Thanks for your support. I'm almost starting to wonder if this is a God thing and I'm not supposed to get surgery. I went through this same rigamarole now 2 years in a row, 2 different hospital systems. Maybe He's got me, instead.

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14 hours ago, OutdoorsGirl said:

That’s terrible! I’m glad I live in a state that is allowing medical services to continue.

I'm glad you are, too! The states that have tried to continue on as normal, the best they can, are all doing so much better in every way than the states that caved. I wish I'd been able to go to the world class hospital in my own state, but it is 200 miles away.

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