Weirdest None-Scale-Victory - I'll go first

[STLoser 1,087]

This is sort of a NSV and sort of a society fail. [emoji849]
I've always been a very friendly, talkative person, who will talk to anyone, and I noticed after I got really fat soemtimes when I would talk to people they would not be friendly back or act uncomfortable, and people hardly ever started conversations with me. It caused me to develop a bubble over the years and talk to fewer people. I thought people had just gotten less friendly overall.
We just joined our local rec center and I was at the pool with my son yesterday, and I had several people just randomly start conversations with me. This hardly EVER happened when I weighed almost 400 pounds.
I can't even call this a victory because it's really sad that those same people might not have talked to me before, even though I'm the same person.
Based on the way I look on the outside, suddenly I'm worth talking to.
Of course, I could be just imagining all of this, but I don't think I am.


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[SleeverSk 621]

1 hour ago, STLoser said:

This is sort of a NSV and sort of a society fail.
I've always been a very friendly, talkative person, who will talk to anyone, and I noticed after I got really fat soemtimes when I would talk to people they would not be friendly back or act uncomfortable, and people hardly ever started conversations with me. It caused me to develop a bubble over the years and talk to fewer people. I thought people had just gotten less friendly overall.
We just joined our local rec center and I was at the pool with my son yesterday, and I had several people just randomly start conversations with me. This hardly EVER happened when I weighed almost 400 pounds.
I can't even call this a victory because it's really sad that those same people might not have talked to me before, even though I'm the same person.
Based on the way I look on the outside, suddenly I'm worth talking to.
Of course, I could be just imagining all of this, but I don't think I am.


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I was just talking to a friend about this the other day, A friend of hers would barely look at me in the past if I saw her in the shops etc ( small town ) anyway the other day she went out of her way to say hi to me twice in one day and I said to my friend is that because I am not fat now ? Its sad really that people are like this I hope I am not one of them.

[SleeverSk 621]

16 hours ago, fourmonthspreop said:

I know this is a common one but im particularly excited about it because I distinctly remember being 340 lbs and watching these "progress" videos of other women with towels wrapped around their body, showing how they gradually start fitting into bath towels as they lose weight and I remember feeling so sad and discouraged...like I didn't have it in me to get there too. I'm traveling and in a hotel right now and to my surprise this is the first time a regular "hotel" towel has wrapped all the way around my body without a humongous gap exposing my side and stomach. I am so happy about this I can't even explain it. It just confirms it for me that I can have the things I want, that I deserve them too and am just as strong to fight for them.

Photo: the first picture is from just a week preop, the second is from today. Yes...I had to censor my booty cheek lol that whole blue part is the towel that didn't close and that towel is bigger than this one I have here.

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lol I saw someone else post about this and I run to the bathroom to check it out as I had given up trying to wrap a towel around me like that and yippee just like you it fit !!

[STLoser 1,087]

I know this is a common one but im particularly excited about it because I distinctly remember being 340 lbs and watching these "progress" videos of other women with towels wrapped around their body, showing how they gradually start fitting into bath towels as they lose weight and I remember feeling so sad and discouraged...like I didn't have it in me to get there too. I'm traveling and in a hotel right now and to my surprise this is the first time a regular "hotel" towel has wrapped all the way around my body without a humongous gap exposing my side and stomach. I am so happy about this I can't even explain it. It just confirms it for me that I can have the things I want, that I deserve them too and am just as strong to fight for them.

Photo: the first picture is from just a week preop, the second is from today. Yes...I had to censor my booty cheek lol that whole blue part is the towel that didn't close and that towel is bigger than this one I have here.

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I'm still amazing that towels fit around me! This is a GREAT NSV. Good job!

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[Orinskye 165]

3 hours ago, SleeverSk said:

I was just talking to a friend about this the other day, A friend of hers would barely look at me in the past if I saw her in the shops etc ( small town ) anyway the other day she went out of her way to say hi to me twice in one day and I said to my friend is that because I am not fat now ? Its sad really that people are like this I hope I am not one of them.

I have had to deal with this in a professional level. Interviewing for teachers is brutal and while my resume outshines anyone else’s? I was never chosen when I was over 300 pounds.
sadly this type of discrimination is completely legal and can’t be proved.
I am now going to be interviewing in the next year for positions again (and at a normal weight). I am curious how things will turn out now that I’m thin.
(I’ve even had principals straight up tell me they would never hire me because I was disgusting to parents… and I was always professionally dressed. Just obese)

I kind of give guys the side eye now if they ask for my number. I’ve had it happen a few times now and I always cringe on the inside because I knows it is because of how I look now 🤷🏼‍♀️

[ann2472 38]

I've never posted a picture but I loved how I look in this outfit today so much I took a picture and noticed a thigh gap!! Real NSV since these are thick thighs.

[SleeverSk 621]

1 hour ago, Orinskye said:

I have had to deal with this in a professional level. Interviewing for teachers is brutal and while my resume outshines anyone else’s? I was never chosen when I was over 300 pounds.
sadly this type of discrimination is completely legal and can’t be proved.
I am now going to be interviewing in the next year for positions again (and at a normal weight). I am curious how things will turn out now that I’m thin.
(I’ve even had principals straight up tell me they would never hire me because I was disgusting to parents… and I was always professionally dressed. Just obese)

I kind of give guys the side eye now if they ask for my number. I’ve had it happen a few times now and I always cringe on the inside because I knows it is because of how I look now 🤷🏼‍♀️

omg thats awful. I hope you find an employer that appreciates you for you

[HeatherE 200]

33 minutes ago, ann2472 said:

I've never posted a picture but I loved how I look in this outfit today so much I took a picture and noticed a thigh gap!! Real NSV since these are thick thighs.

You look great! Congrats!

[Tripletsmom1971 46]

14 hours ago, Queen ApisM said:

I feel like I am posting a lot on this thread lately, but I feel like in the past month I've noticed tons of changes that make me say: wow, I have lost over 100 lbs!

I have found myself crossing my legs. I don't do it often, but occasionally I find myself doing it and I am like WTF!

I tried on a pair of boots that never quite zipped up, and I managed to get them zipped even with leggings on! Granted they are still super wide boots because my calves are really sturdy, but I will take any boots zipping up as a huge win. This would not have happened a year ago.

I also managed to fit back into some concert shirts from the early 90s - looking at you Pink Floyd, REM and U2! They are not quite able to be worn out of the house, but they are now getting much closer and I think they will fit by the end of the summer. So freaking happy about this!

This is ME!! I had "give my concert T's to the hubs, THANKFULLY he didn't get rid of them. they FIT! They are too big!

[STLoser 1,087]

The other day I posted that I got a size medium pair of shorts. I kind of thought it was a fluke, but today, I got a medium shirt and it is a PERFECT fit. I'm starting to think I might actually be a medium now. My larges are loose. It's just so hard to believe, as I've NEVER owned a medium piece of clothing in all my 50 years! [emoji1]

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[BigSue 1,324]

On 6/8/2022 at 2:02 PM, STLoser said:

This is sort of a NSV and sort of a society fail.
I've always been a very friendly, talkative person, who will talk to anyone, and I noticed after I got really fat soemtimes when I would talk to people they would not be friendly back or act uncomfortable, and people hardly ever started conversations with me. It caused me to develop a bubble over the years and talk to fewer people. I thought people had just gotten less friendly overall.
We just joined our local rec center and I was at the pool with my son yesterday, and I had several people just randomly start conversations with me. This hardly EVER happened when I weighed almost 400 pounds.
I can't even call this a victory because it's really sad that those same people might not have talked to me before, even though I'm the same person.
Based on the way I look on the outside, suddenly I'm worth talking to.
Of course, I could be just imagining all of this, but I don't think I am.

I've noticed something similar with medical professionals. When I went to the doctor as a fat person, the doctors, nurses, PAs, etc. were usually pretty aloof towards me and treated me like a number. I assumed it was because healthcare workers are intentionally detached and they're like that with all patients. Now that I'm no longer overweight, they are so much friendlier and more sympathetic. The nurses strike up conversations with me while they're taking my vitals. They are more concerned about symptoms, like, "Oh, you're not feeling well? You poor dear!" where I guess they used to be thinking, "Anything that's wrong is your fault because you're fat."

It's no secret that medical professionals are biased against fat patients, and I avoided going to doctors because I knew that no matter what the problem was, the cause would be that I'm fat and the cure would be to lose weight (as though I didn't know and hadn't tried). I didn't expect it to be so blatant, though.

[STLoser 1,087]

I've noticed something similar with medical professionals. When I went to the doctor as a fat person, the doctors, nurses, PAs, etc. were usually pretty aloof towards me and treated me like a number. I assumed it was because healthcare workers are intentionally detached and they're like that with all patients. Now that I'm no longer overweight, they are so much friendlier and more sympathetic. The nurses strike up conversations with me while they're taking my vitals. They are more concerned about symptoms, like, "Oh, you're not feeling well? You poor dear!" where I guess they used to be thinking, "Anything that's wrong is your fault because you're fat."
It's no secret that medical professionals are biased against fat patients, and I avoided going to doctors because I knew that no matter what the problem was, the cause would be that I'm fat and the cure would be to lose weight (as though I didn't know and hadn't tried). I didn't expect it to be so blatant, though.

You're absolutely right. I AM a medical professional (a nurse, thought currently sahm), and I have seen it throughout my career. I've unfortunately been on the receiving end way too many times. I never understood this, because I always tried to treat all my patients with respect and listen to them and take them seriously no matter what. I've had so many doctors dismiss my health concerns just because of my weight. One time, we took our son to be evaluated for autism when he was younger, and THAT doctor harassed us about our weight. Wtf does OUR weight have to do with the possibility of our son (not overweight himself) having autism!? I was flabbergasted by that one.
It is well known that many medical professionals discriminate against overweight people. As if thin people don't get the same diseases and problems!

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[Tripletsmom1971 46]

I feel this also, not just medical staff. I too have always been very social, upbeat , well liked by most, despite the fact I was 333 pounds. Now that I’ve lost weight, I feel like ppl are ENGAGING with me SOOO MUCH MORE than before. Maybe they are curious about the weight loss, intrigue, maybe they legitimately don’t like ‘fat’ people, who knows, all we can do is BE HAPPY about our ‘new bodies’. We all know we have worked HARD to lose ever pound. No matter how people treat us, we can always be the leaders of the pack. Always be kind ❤️

[Tripletsmom1971 46]

BTW, there are WAYYY TOOOO many NSV to list! I am constantly in AWE of the things I can DO, move my body, the new size LARGE shorts that are LOOSE as I try them on for the FIRST time! Things I would have never even THOUGHT about attempting. SOOOO much more than ‘how I LOOK’. A bicycle, at 50! Who would have thought!

[STLoser 1,087]

BTW, there are WAYYY TOOOO many NSV to list! I am constantly in AWE of the things I can DO, move my body, the new size LARGE shorts that are LOOSE as I try them on for the FIRST time! Things I would have never even THOUGHT about attempting. SOOOO much more than ‘how I LOOK’. A bicycle, at 50! Who would have thought!

Yes it's amazing!!! I just got a pair of size 14 shorts and wore them to the baseball game today and I realized I should have gotten a 12. ME!! A 12!!! [emoji2962]

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