... I have this almost irresistible urge to talk to them about my WLS.
At first, this was happening with some family and friends. One month after I had WLS, one of my good friends who is super-MO,had a heart attack (at the age of 45) and spent over 2 months in the hospital, had multiple surgeries and now has to wear an LVAT and will either die early or need a transplant.
I desperately wanted to talk to her and our other MO friends who I would meet at the hospital, but obviously it wasn’t the appropriate moment.

Since then as I edge ever-closer to GW, I find myself being drawn to MO and super-MO people and I want to scream at the top of my lungs that there is a way out of that living hell.
It’s also complicated by the fact that I’m a healthcare professional so I see these guys day in and day out.

I’ve had SUCH a positive experience and my life and well-being have done a complete 180 that I feel almost as if I have a personal responsibility to let anyone and everyone know about WLS.

I would hope most people are too caught up in their own little worlds to police other people's groceries. I'm not a big fan of the food police.

I now have fantasies of going to Costco and over-filling my cart with bags and bags of those Jumbo-size Cheetos (while eating out of an open one, natch).

Edited November 21, 20196 yr by ms.sss

The food police would LOVE to rip apart my carts hahaha I have chips, breads, pastas ,rice, cookies, juice etc ... along with a ton of veggies/fruits, proteins, dairy etc . I don’t eat them but someone has to buy groceries for my kids and husband. I am also not going to raise them to have this distorted view on food. Everything in moderation is fine.

I wonder if the same food police would look at my husband the same with the same cart load... with his bf % being low

5 hours ago, JessLess said:

I would hope most people are too caught up in their own little worlds to police other people's groceries. I'm not a big fan of the food police.

That is the "best self" speaking! I confess that I am not my best self, many times when I see what other people put in their carts. It's not judgement as much as sadness, especially when I see the fat little kids who don't have a chance.

9 minutes ago, AZhiker said:

when I see the fat little kids

Ouch.

That made ME sad.

25 minutes ago, AZhiker said:

That is the "best self" speaking! I confess that I am not my best self, many times when I see what other people put in their carts. It's not judgement as much as sadness, especially when I see the fat little kids who don't have a chance.

Nah. This reeks of judgement.

People are going to judge, and judge on a variety criteria, your car, you zip code, you accent etc. That's unavoidable IMO,

But if an attractive, thin, fit man or woman had a cart full of chips, frozen pizza, Hamburger Helper and ice cream. Would they be judged as harshly or even at all? Why is that same food fine for someone skinny, but is interpreted as some kind of moral failing if it's in a MO person's cart?

I feel like the dichotomy between "fat people food" and "skinny people food" is false. Skinny people eat Cheetos, and fat people eat Zoodles. The same food is viewed through completely different lenses depending upon who's pushing the cart.

3 hours ago, ms.sss said:

I now have fantasies of going to costco and over-filling my cart with bags and bags of those Jumbo-size Cheetos (while eating out of an open one, natch).

I walk around stores eating ?

1 minute ago, GreenTealael said:

I walk around stores eating ?

I would, but SOMEONE in this ESTABLISHMENT won't let me. LOL.

2 hours ago, GreenTealael said:

Nah. This reeks of judgement.

You are right. When I see little fat kids who are going to have diabetes and high blood pressure by the time they are ten years old, I am making a judgement. (I'll never forget the first MO child I saw with a BP of 145/90.) A judgement on our society that has 2/3 of the population being overweight or obese, a judgement about personal choices, and a judgement about the total failure of our educational system and government programs that have been controlled by special interest groups - to the peril of the population. A judgement about how on earth we are going to support the health care needs of so many "self induced" co-morbidities. Making these judgments motivates me to also be a part of the solution. As a health care professional, I am working within our system to provide education and resources for MO patients, and working with one of our doctors to initiate a program to screen for fatty liver disease, and subsequent educational followup. I came so close to losing my own life from MO, and I want to do whatever I can to prevent that from happening to others, especially the youngest ones.

6 minutes ago, AZhiker said:

You are right. When I see little fat kids who are going to have diabetes and high blood pressure by the time they are ten years old, I am making a judgement. (I'll never forget the first MO child I saw with a BP of 145/90.) A judgement on our society that has 2/3 of the population being overweight or obese, a judgement about personal choices, and a judgement about the total failure of our educational system and government programs that have been controlled by special interest groups - to the peril of the population. A judgement about how on earth we are going to support the health care needs of so many "self induced" co-morbidities. Making these judgments motivates me to also be a part of the solution. As a health care professional, I am working within our system to provide education and resources for MO patients, and working with one of our doctors to initiate a program to screen for fatty liver disease, and subsequent educational followup. I came so close to losing my own life from MO, and I want to do whatever I can to prevent that from happening to others, especially the youngest ones.

Ok...

On 11/21/2019 at 5:21 PM, CapyCapybara said:

The food police would LOVE to rip apart my carts hahaha

ROFLMAO.

Mine, too. ?

On 11/21/2019 at 5:57 AM, Sheribear68 said:

I actually do view carts full of soda pop, pop tarts, kid Cereal, chips, crackers, Cookies, ice cream, bread, pasta,boxes of Mac and cheese.,

That's male-teenagers-throwing-a-LAN-party cart.

On 11/21/2019 at 6:33 PM, GreenTealael said:

I walk around stores eating ?

Is that even allowed? lol

2 minutes ago, summerset said:

Is that even allowed? lol

Probably... Probably not

But

Yeah I have no excuses (except I concentrate better on my actually grocery list if I'm not hungry ?)