I have been trying for years to qualify for weight loss surgery with insurance. I have to lose 10% of my body weight and keep it off. Unless I have some kind of condition that prevents me from losing weight, which I do not, there are no exceptions. I have not even come close to 10% and I am tired of waisting my life being depressed about it. So I took matters into my own hands and am planning on having the duodenal switch with Dr Ungson in Mexicali, self pay. My family doesn't even know I am going to Mexico, they would probably disown me if they knew. I just told them I am going out of state. My mom is the only person I have to watch my children while I am gone, and she is the person that is against this decision the most. She told me I am "using risky physical means to fix a spiritual problem". What is that supposed to mean anyway? I have faith in God, I pray about this everyday. I don't want to risk my life, risk leaving 4 children and a husband by having this done. But I am desperate and this is my last resort. I can't educate my family because they won't listen. Their minds are made up that I am making the biggest mistake of my life. Has anyone else gone through this? How did you deal? I just want to cry.

I am saddened by your situation with your mother. I am 63 and am scheduled for surgery in Mexico on October 1st. After much serious thought I made my decision. I don't think anyone makes this decision easily. You stay the course. Acceptance is not always obtainable from ones family and friends, so I guess that in itself is a lesson in acceptance.

Let me just say, as a mother I admire you for the kind and loving child you are. I am glad you are learning from this experience with your mother. It will make you a better mother and person. Bless you.

On 5/7/2019 at 12:09 AM, Crystal* said:

@TheJuice202 That makes me so sad that your family would do/say those things to you. I am so greatful that we all have each other here to lean on. I don't feel so alone, thank you for your support.

My brother and mom have come around a little but not much (they eat tempting stuff around me a bit less (marginally)).
I'm glad to have everyone's support here and eager to give it back in kind.

I can relate, i haven't told my mother either, i just don't need the negativity. I'm already scared, not scared that ive made a wrong decision but worried that I'm all my daughter has.. thankfully my husband and daughter are very supportive and ive chosen to tell a few friends and colleagues who are pleased and excited for me as they see how much i struggle. I'll tell my mother once its over and hope by then she'll be supportive. We'll see.

Good luck, please do alot of research on your Surgeon and i look forward to reading about your progress. I love how supportive this site is!!