It’s getting close and things are getting real. Seems like I’m all of a sudden seeing more posts about post op problems! Definitely having waves of second thoughts surrounded by statements of “can I do it today”?!?! Such a life change on the horizon, and definitely freaking out when I think about the post op struggles. Is it the wrong time to do it before the holidays??? February is filled with kids and wife’s birthday, plus our anniversary. Oh yeah, looking at buying a new house. Is there ever a good time? Can I add anymore stress??? Ok rant over.

You can do it!! And believe me - I wish I had done it YEARS ago! I’m only 19 days post-op and I feel great! The first 4-5 days were tough because of nausea and heartburn - but since then I’ve been great! And I’d take a few days of feeling crappy for a lifetime of being healthy any time!! I think everyone gets pre-surgery jitters but you’ve got this! Good luck!! ?

Its normal to be nervous and start second guessing one self, its a big scary change you are about to make.

Yes some people have complications. As part of the process your surgeon should have given you an information sheet explaining what the possible complications are and you should also have been given the opportunity to discuss these and any concerns that you may have with him/her. Its called informed consent.

When I started using this site again one of the first things I did was to deliberately search out threads about complications. Maybe I'm weird but I feel that forewarned is forearmed.

The actual likelihood of you having a serious complication is pretty low and they are things that surgeons can deal with.

I got my date yesterday and I was having a discussion with my surgeon about the fear of surgery and him not killing me( when I'm nervous about things my weird sense of humour kicks in). He said the fear of surgery is normal , it's the fear of the unknown and also it is his job to worry about not killing me not mine!

Now things you should worry about are how to manage your shopping addiction once you lose weight and see how amazing you look in your new clothes, and what you are going to do with all your extra energy etc

As for timing it's like most things, there is no such thing as a perfect time. The sooner you have the op the sooner you will start your journey to better health.

I now have a surgery date of Jan 17 which means that I still won't be eating solid food on my 25th anniversary in Feb!

7 hours ago, GettinSkinnywithit said:

It’s getting close and things are getting real. Seems like I’m all of a sudden seeing more posts about post op problems! Definitely having waves of second thoughts surrounded by statements of “can I do it today”?!?! Such a life change on the horizon, and definitely freaking out when I think about the post op struggles. Is it the wrong time to do it before the holidays??? February is filled with kids and wife’s birthday, plus our anniversary. Oh yeah, looking at buying a new house. Is there ever a good time? Can I add anymore stress??? Ok rant over.

Sounds like you are totally normal! There usually isn't ever a "good" time, but finding the "best" is a good idea. I really wish I had the bypass done back in 2011 when I had the lap band installed. The changes were tough, but well worth it!

On 10/29/2018 at 23:13, CyndieRI said:

You can do it!! And believe me - I wish I had done it YEARS ago! I’m only 19 days post-op and I feel great! The first 4-5 days were tough because of nausea and heartburn - but since then I’ve been great! And I’d take a few days of feeling crappy for a lifetime of being healthy any time!! I think everyone gets pre-surgery jitters but you’ve got this! Good luck!! ?

Thank you! It is great to hear from someone who just had wls and that they are doing great! I think a lot of times most people don’t post unless they have a problem so thank you for posting that it’s not that bad!

On 10/29/2018 at 23:19, elcee said:

Its normal to be nervous and start second guessing one self, its a big scary change you are about to make.

Yes some people have complications. As part of the process your surgeon should have given you an information sheet explaining what the possible complications are and you should also have been given the opportunity to discuss these and any concerns that you may have with him/her. Its called informed consent.



When I started using this site again one of the first things I did was to deliberately search out threads about complications. Maybe I'm weird but I feel that forewarned is forearmed.

The actual likelihood of you having a serious complication is pretty low and they are things that surgeons can deal with.

I got my date yesterday and I was having a discussion with my surgeon about the fear of surgery and him not killing me( when I'm nervous about things my weird sense of humour kicks in). He said the fear of surgery is normal , it's the fear of the unknown and also it is his job to worry about not killing me not mine!

Now things you should worry about are how to manage your shopping addiction once you lose weight and see how amazing you look in your new clothes, and what you are going to do with all your extra energy etc

As for timing it's like most things, there is no such thing as a perfect time. The sooner you have the op the sooner you will start your journey to better health.

I now have a surgery date of Jan 17 which means that I still won't be eating solid food on my 25th anniversary in Feb!

Thank you. I did search out many, many past threads of all kinds so I knew complications but it just seemed like more people were having complications and posting - just a casual momentary observation....hopefully. I don’t fear the surgery itself at all, in fact I kinda of welcome the rest for a couple of days!!!

I told myself a last January it was time for change, just didn’t think it would take quite this long, but here it goes!

On 10/30/2018 at 05:53, Matt Z said:

Sounds like you are totally normal! There usually isn't ever a "good" time, but finding the "best" is a good idea. I really wish I had the bypass done back in 2011 when I had the lap band installed. The changes were tough, but well worth it!

Thanks Matt! Really appreciate the kind words. I’m sure in six months I’ll say the same thing, just like every one else! Just hit a patch of nerves.