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12 hours ago, insta_adventurer said:

What about the Farmers Market? There’s always massive crowds there... or one of the Rockin on the River concerts?

Sigh, all the hot farmers are married... I checked 😥

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It is Good to be Chaste, but even more Fun to be Chased occasionally!

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19 minutes ago, GreenTealael said:

Lol, I'm no Molly...

It may be too soon to tell but i don't think I'm ready for dating...

I'll just let it happen naturally, until then please refer to me as Chastity lol

I'm definitely the Molly in that conversation .... :lol: :lol:

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What about the Farmers Market? There’s always massive crowds there... or one of the Rockin on the River concerts?
Lol. I like to people watch at the rocking on the river concerts. IMO, you're not going to find anyone worthwhile there.

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I still maintain shul, mosque, church as a first resort, not bars and such. All you find in bars. are a scummy bottom feeding fish, the keepers swim in cleaner waters. You deserve the best, don't settle for Mr or Ms Better-than- nothing!👪

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On 09/30/2018 at 18:07, Oct517 said:

Lol. I like to people watch at the rocking on the river concerts. IMO, you're not going to find anyone worthwhile there.

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I don’t know if I’ve ever officially been... I’ve just got to basically hear it at home (we live a crossed the river.. 😂)...

What about hanging around Superior Merchandise? They have a wonderful patio to sip coffee or tea on... most of the Troy spots I know are bars.. and probably not helpful.

I don’t know any single dudes. I know some single ladies, but no dudes for some reason? Maybe because single dudes don’t like hanging around coupled folks. 😂

Not sure if you’re into politics, but if you are and consider yourself a leftie, there is a pretty chill DSA meetup that happens at various local joints.

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On 09/30/2018 at 18:25, Frustr8 said:

I still maintain shul, mosque, church as a first resort, not bars and such. All you find in bars. are a scummy bottom feeding fish, the keepers swim in cleaner waters. You deserve the best, don't settle for Mr or Ms Better-than- nothing!👪
Hey now.. I am the product of a barmance that turned into a very happy, very love filled 33 year marriage for my parents. 😂 Not all people in bars are bottom feeders!

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I don’t know if I’ve ever officially been... I’ve just got to basically hear it at home (we live a crossed the river.. [emoji23])...

What about hanging around Superior Merchandise? They have a wonderful patio to sip coffee or tea on... most of the Troy spots I know are bars.. and probably not helpful.

I don’t know any single dudes. I know some single ladies, but no dudes for some reason? Maybe because single dudes don’t like hanging around coupled folks. [emoji23]

Not sure if you’re into politics, but if you are and consider yourself a leftie, there is a pretty chill DSA meetup that happens at various local joints.
I've actually never been to Superior Merchandise. Not looking for a SO but I may have to just check it out because from what you said it sounds nice!

I'm assuming original OP lives in our area?
I've been to a few of the "meet ups" in the area and they were nice. There's a lot in the capital region. I agree that the way to go is online dating though. That's where you're going to find the most single people. There really isn't anything good in Troy, except for some bars.

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Well it must be true what my friend Brenda from,Clarence Center said, Everything,is better in Upstate New York, so the baramances are better also. Used to tease her that she felt that way from Genesee Depletion.

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5 hours ago, FluffyChix said:

Why?

Chose from a lot of offers a guy who was great, met for coffee so it was low pressure. Amazing conversation, had a ton in common, great chemistry, asked me on a second date (dinner) next night. I agreed, I'm super excited thinking this wasn't what I expected, not horrible like I imagined. By all counts an amazing first date. I get a text an hour later we exchange pleasantries about the date and each other then he drops the ax:

He has herpes.

Dating profile deleted.

F this, I'm not built for this new world. Take me back to the days of arranged marriages.

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Think of Online dating as WLS - There is going to be a lot of trial and error and even more stalls and plateaus. It's terrible what happened, but think about it, it could've happened with a person you met in person too.

The main benefit of online dating is as I've mentioned, it puts you back out there to build confidence. That confidence built is what makes us more approachable in the real world. I don't blame you for deleting your profile, but take your time, as the old saying goes, you have to kiss a lot of frogs to find your Prince.

Keep an open mind and an open heart, your Prince is out there... :)

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32 minutes ago, MargoCL said:

Think of Online dating as WLS - There is going to be a lot of trial and error and even more stalls and plateaus. It's terrible what happened, but think about it, it could've happened with a person you met in person too.

The main benefit of online dating is as I've mentioned, it puts you back out there to build confidence. That confidence built is what makes us more approachable in the real world. I don't blame you for deleting your profile, but take your time, as the old saying goes, you have to kiss a lot of frogs to find your Prince.

Keep an open mind and an open heart, your Prince is out there... :)

I have no problem with confidence , never did or meeting people, I just don't stay interested long these day. Im just too busy , focused and refuse to deal with bs so I'd rather be single. This isn't a new thing or a weight (weight loss) thing either.

Lol and I'm definitely not kissing everyone out there because now I believe they all have herpes

😑😑😑😑😑😑😑😑😑😑😑😑

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