Hi all, I would appreciate your thoughts on this topic. I have 5 kids ranging in age from 12 - 19 years old. I just made the decision last week to move ahead with bariatric surgery. At this moment I feel ashamed that I have come to this point with my weight. My instincts right now are telling me “make something up, what can I tell the kids I am having done? I can’t let them know I have given up and this is my last resort”

I know I have a lot of emotional work to do from top to bottom... My head is spinning right now and would appreciate any thoughts or advice folks may have. Thank you

My kids are 8, 6, and 6. I told them that I was having surgery, so I could lose some weight and improve my health. They asked why I needed the surgery, and I explained that I was struggling to lose the weight on my own and it was becoming a health issue.

There's no part of having surgery that I would equate with "giving up." In fact, I consider it taking a proactive step to improve your health. You're self aware enough that you realize you need the surgery. That's not a negative thing.

I think you should be open and honest with them. They are going to notice when you are only doing liquids for a bit and then eating only a few bites of food. Why not just tell them and ask for their support?