Husband threatens divorce if I have surgery

[BostonWLKC 807]

Frust— she posted this in May. So had the surgery :)

Hasn’t posted since then

“Can anyone help I’m 3 days post roux n Y gassy still retching up phlegm and stomach cramps can’t even lay half way down on liquids need help to get stool , relax stomach so I can heal my throat is sore from retching up all this mucous”

[Frustr8 7,886]

Well I forgot completely she Had it, is there actually something on Bariatric Pal I missed?

[kingcake 19]

Sounds like he needs counseling

[Megan Sadler 186]

I agree with everyone here get the surgery and let him divorce you. Clearly he doesn’t love you.

[NYJenn 1,463]

Right now you need to love yourself more then you love him.

[Frustr8 7,886]

THIS IS A TRUTH. PERTAINING HEALTH ALWAY LOVE YOU MORE THAN OTHERS! We are granted only granted one body a lifetime. Seldom is a complimentary,Owners Manual given. It behooves us to keep ourselves a sleek race car instead of a junky jalopy
No gaurentee as to the smoothness, straightness., difficulty or,length of the road we,must,travel before our death.
So BE KIND , BE LOVING, DO PROPER MAINTAINANCE,ON THE BODY YOU ARE GIVEN FOR YOU SHALL NEVER BR GRANTED ANOTHER!

[SkinEMinE 9]

I had a man like that in my life who gave me the same ultimatum. He thought that people who couldn’t make change thru self-discipline had a character flaw. He also distrusted modern medicine. In retrospect, I think he had good intentions but now that I’m 100lbs lighter a year after surgery and he is gone, I joke that it was the first 185lbs that was the hardest to lose. The rest came right off! Lol! I don’t regret choosing my health over his fears. My body was crushing under the weight and I was on a slow and painful track to death. He may have had good intentions but he went about it in the wrong way, was negative, and a lot of the reason I gained the weight in the first place (I’m not shifting accountability, he just supplied the trigger).
He also gave me a hard time when I quit smoking.
During the wedding ceremony, he vowed that he would stand by your side for better and for worse. He needs to get to it.

[Megan Sadler 186]

@skinEminE I’m so sorry your husband did that to you. Glad you got rid of him!! You are worth love and that isn’t love. I feel very lucky. Mine is standing by me. He gets it.