I just joined this site yesterday and I was surfing the forums, and I couldn't help recognizing all of the fighting...is this normal? My doctor recommended this site as a source of support as I start this journey, but I'm not so sure. Is this site always so negative?

16 hours ago, celticNgel said:

While I understand that Veronique, you would certainly think that "normal" people wouldn't be talking about blowing peoples heads off with a 9 mm!!!! Childish....

omg i was in that thread....she verbally attacked me as well

1 hour ago, lindabalseca said:

omg i was in that thread....she verbally attacked me as well

Wait, that actually happened?!? That's so screwed up!

I've found a great book online today that should help you find ways to beat your post-op depression.

Edited September 13, 20178 yr by Véronique

1 minute ago, Véronique said:

Wait, that actually happened?!? That's so screwed up!

you forgot already lol? that was the thread "i regret this surgery" you know the supposed psychologist. that was a nightmare

2 minutes ago, lindabalseca said:

you forgot already lol? that was the thread "i regret this surgery" you know the supposed psychologist. that was a nightmare

I don't remember seeing that post but I will tell you one thing, if she is really a psychologist, her licensure needs to be a thing of the past.

Edited September 13, 20178 yr by Véronique

18 hours ago, celticNgel said:

I just joined this site yesterday and I was surfing the forums, and I couldn't help recognizing all of the fighting...is this normal?

Never seen an internet discussion platform of any kind where it doesn't occur. So I guess it's normal.

I saw the post about a week ago and saw that it turned absolutely crazy then, after I saw the first few posts I said forget it and have not returned to that monster. I know its what happens but that does not make it excusable either. Oh well, I guess the anonymity of the internet gives some folks more bravado since they really are not saying it to someones face. I don't know all I know is that it is an absolute shame. But I will agree with others, ignore them and move on because this site does have quite a bit of information that has helped me out! Ignore the nonsense and move on!

Yup......

I hope you've found some supportive people here. I know I did and I hope to be one of those supportive people now for others. Keep us posted on your progress and know so many are out here cheering you on!!! If I personally can be of help don't hesitate to reach out!!!

Honestly, I need the support. I don't want to tell them I'm depressed as I am because I'm afraid they won't do the surgery....

On 13/09/2017 at 9:15 AM, celticNgel said:

I was surfing the forums, and I couldn't help recognizing all of the fighting...is this normal?

I'm at a loss to know what you're referring to, celticNgel.

I have posted my story.

I have responded to other people's weight loss news.

People have responded to me by offering me hope, advice or words of applause.

Of about 180 responses in ten days, only ONE has been negative.

Maybe, I'm guessing, you have entered the wrong forums.

Honestly, I need the support. I don't want to tell them I'm depressed as I am because I'm afraid they won't do the surgery....

YMMV, but I discussed my depression during my eval and I was approved. I don't think depression in and of itself will disqualify you unless it is impairing your ability to comply with your program.

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I was in the sleeve forum and there was a very negative conversation, and it threw me....wanted to make sure it wasn't normal....

Thanks! That's good to know!!!!

On 13/09/2017 at 11:30 AM, celticNgel said:

Thank you all for your honest answers and welcoming behavior. I know I'm here for me, and I won't use the excuse that "They're mean so I can't go there" as a reason to fall. I'm in, I'm staying and I'm taking no prisoners, except that emotional eater inside me. I plan on making it this time, no matter what.

I'm glad you're personally focused. I'm impressed that you are ready to sidestep meanness and negatives.

Stay on track.

Respond to the people who are (helpfully) pushing you towards your goals. Ignore the small-minded and ignorant ... most of all, stay out of any forums where they predominate!

Cheers.