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So in 2012 I had the sleeve done in Mexico and was pretty successful initially. At that time my highest weight was 270 and with the sleeve I lost almost all of my excess weight. However, after 2 years I ended up getting pregnant again and not long after giving birth separated from my husband. So, long story short, I battled a severe depression and not only regained all of my weight but added another hundred pounds to it! My highest weight was 361, and about 7 months ago I began looking into revising to a bypass. I was put on a 6 month doctor supervised diet, and lost about 20 pounds, and am currently waiting to meet with my surgeon. My insurance approved me so far, and I get positive feedback from my doctor I see for weight loss. My main issue is that I am so scared of failing at this AGAIN. I was one of those people that was like "I will NEVER go back to my old eating habits" and I looked down on others who had regained after wls, not knowing that there really is so much more to it than the surgery. I still feel like I dont know how I am supposed to be eating, the dietician I was seeing really didnt go over that, believe it or not. I feel ashamed to admit this but I do not know how to eat like a "normal. healthy person". Quantity is not so much an issue for me but quality is, I wish I had so much more knowledge about not only hoq to eat healthy but how to prepare meals for a family also. I have 5 children, and they really aren't picky, its just that I dont feel like I am equipped for long term success. If there is any links anyone wants to share or anything I would really appreciate it! I am so embarrassed, I feel like I should already know this stuff, so I am honestly scared to ask people at this point. Sorry for such a pathetic post, but I just CANNOT afford to fail at this again. My kids need their mommy back and I know that with the right "tools" I can be successful, so what did you all do to get your menu ideas?

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Bless you dear. Sending hugs to you. Obviously you have had a difficult life. Everything was against you with significant changes in your life. Regarding your weight regain, experience can be a good teacher. This may be your secret to success this time around. Without telling you what you should do, just wanted to suggest counseling if that is something you haven't considered. Maybe dealing with the hurts that have been handed over to you could assist with some of the weight issues. I gained most of my excess weight while grieving so I can understand. I hope the bypass will go well. You sound like a good mom trying to do her best to get better for children.


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7 hours ago, chunkymunkey916 said:

So in 2012 I had the sleeve done in Mexico and was pretty successful initially. At that time my highest weight was 270 and with the sleeve I lost almost all of my excess weight. However, after 2 years I ended up getting pregnant again and not long after giving birth separated from my husband. So, long story short, I battled a severe depression and not only regained all of my weight but added another hundred pounds to it! My highest weight was 361, and about 7 months ago I began looking into revising to a bypass. I was put on a 6 month doctor supervised diet, and lost about 20 pounds, and am currently waiting to meet with my surgeon. My insurance approved me so far, and I get positive feedback from my doctor I see for weight loss. My main issue is that I am so scared of failing at this AGAIN. I was one of those people that was like "I will NEVER go back to my old eating habits" and I looked down on others who had regained after wls, not knowing that there really is so much more to it than the surgery. I still feel like I dont know how I am supposed to be eating, the dietician I was seeing really didnt go over that, believe it or not. I feel ashamed to admit this but I do not know how to eat like a "normal. healthy person". Quantity is not so much an issue for me but quality is, I wish I had so much more knowledge about not only hoq to eat healthy but how to prepare meals for a family also. I have 5 children, and they really aren't picky, its just that I dont feel like I am equipped for long term success. If there is any links anyone wants to share or anything I would really appreciate it! I am so embarrassed, I feel like I should already know this stuff, so I am honestly scared to ask people at this point. Sorry for such a pathetic post, but I just CANNOT afford to fail at this again. My kids need their mommy back and I know that with the right "tools" I can be successful, so what did you all do to get your menu ideas?

#1 have you considered a dueodenal switch? if not, you may want to consider that. Sleeve is the first step in the switch and it has the best stats for long term weight loss, it iis what rny'ers switch to, if they aren't losing.

as to cooking and healthy food choices i belong to a Facebook group that is great support for that.

https://www.facebook.com/groups/SleekandSassyNutrition/

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I'm having my surgery in Mexico so I've had to basically research post-op diet like you and I've found that You Tube has a plethora of information. Ton's of ideas and recipes!

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