Help, please, I don't know what's wrong. I had gastric bypass surgery 10 days ago. I am depressed and feel pulled in two directions. I want to get up and do things but I also feel the want to sit and do nothing. All I want is pizza (insert any food.) And I keep thinking about foods I cannot have and miss. Sometimes I feel the surgery was a mistake and should've waited. I am following the rules. Only broke once and are 1 cracker. I feel lost. I am not in danger of hurting myself or anything like that but I am losing my will power and feeling sorry for myself. Please tell me this is normal or someone else can relate. Where do I go now.. i do have a therapist and psychiatrists and appointments are made. I just need to find direction. Help? Advice?

Totally normal. My feelings are on a rollercoaster now. I'm 6 weeks post op with the sleeve and go from feeling like myself to feeling depressed and back throughout the day. It's so much to get used to and the way we lived before, while containing elements of the destructive, was easier. I believe this will get easier too. It's awesome that you have a therapist lined up. I couldn't do this without mine.

So sorry you're feeling this way. I've had WLS friends that have had similar feelings post-op. Surgery fix our tummies not to hold so much food but it doesn't help our mind or addictive ways. Big hug to you!! Maybe you should contact your surgeons office and share what your feeling and see what he or she advise. No one knows you better than yourself so take a moment to think about what would help pull you out of this place? Would reflecting on why you've embarked upon this journey help or maybe reflect over pictures of yourself at a size you're striving to get back to. Find something within yourself to turn your thoughts towards all your gaining by having WLS. hang I there and we are all here to support you. It does get better. You got this you can do this ????

Help, please, I don't know what's wrong. I had gastric bypass surgery 10 days ago. I am depressed and feel pulled in two directions. I want to get up and do things but I also feel the want to sit and do nothing. All I want is pizza (insert any food.) And I keep thinking about foods I cannot have and miss. Sometimes I feel the surgery was a mistake and should've waited. I am following the rules. Only broke once and are 1 cracker. I feel lost. I am not in danger of hurting myself or anything like that but I am losing my will power and feeling sorry for myself. Please tell me this is normal or someone else can relate. Where do I go now.. i do have a therapist and psychiatrists and appointments are made. I just need to find direction. Help? Advice?

Totally normal. In my opinion they don't prepare patients enough for the psychiatric side of having this surgery done. While I've been lucky to have had only one day I felt regret I know for many this is not the case. Hang in there... Keep your appointments and try to remind yourself all the reasons why you got the surgery to begin with. [emoji846]

This is normal. Find distractions to thinking about food .. read, take a walk, call a friend. This will pass . You will start losing and start feeling energized

Help, please, I don't know what's wrong. I had gastric bypass surgery 10 days ago. I am depressed and feel pulled in two directions. I want to get up and do things but I also feel the want to sit and do nothing. All I want is pizza (insert any food.) And I keep thinking about foods I cannot have and miss. Sometimes I feel the surgery was a mistake and should've waited. I am following the rules. Only broke once and are 1 cracker. I feel lost. I am not in danger of hurting myself or anything like that but I am losing my will power and feeling sorry for myself. Please tell me this is normal or someone else can relate. Where do I go now.. i do have a therapist and psychiatrists and appointments are made. I just need to find direction. Help? Advice?

This is totally normal. I wasn't prepared at all. My surgery was for medical reasons so I did not get all of the pre-op care. I was so depressed after surgery but this forum helped me a lot. MY RNY was on 2/9/17.

I feel the same way I feel good because I'm losing the weight but man I feel so depressed I get mad at myself sometimes because I finally I'm able to move and at the same time I feel stock I don't know if that makes sense.

Hang in there. Fat cells I understand also release hormones, so there is a lot going on. I think you will see that depression/anxiety becomes more manageable with the weight loss.

Thank you everyone. I am focusing on my hobbies and work. Some days are easier but I am trying to just look at the next 24 hours. I do wish they had talked more about this in preparation. I will have to bring it up at my first post op appointment.

This is totally normal. I had that feeling of regretting my surgery the first week because it hurt more than I imagined. I'm 7 weeks post op now & I can't believe how normal I feel again. It takes time for the brain to catch up. I admit, I miss the food I used to eat but the pain taught me to not give in. I don't want to go through all that for nothing. Hang in there. And ::hugs::


Height: 5'0"
Weight for WLS consultation: 216 lbs.
Surgery date: 2/13/17
Goal: -71 lbs for healthy BMI (about 145 lbs).
Current weight: 174.2 lbs
My profile picture is not me. It's my "FITspiration" body.

If you didn't have the therapist set up I'd say that. I go every week and it's the best thing for me. Talking with a trusted friend and keeping in touch sometimes with a few buddies who have had WLS is everything too. This message board as a support group. You're not alone. You're going to do very well and feel great soon enough. It seems like every day is a learning experience -- finding what works and what doesn't, feeling emotions and finding the ways to cope. Used to be I'd just hit up [insert name of fast food or takeout joint here] and eat my feelings. I'm so glad that I can't do that anymore.

Thank you everyone for the responses. I have gotten past the major depression episode. I still have cravings but it has gotten better. I am at my first post op appointment. I will post picture and lbs lost later. Thank you again everyone. God bless

I feel the same way. I am 15 days post op and I had to go cold turkey off all my meds including effexor and it has done a number on my emotions. Can't get happy. Just sad and angry all the time. I may need.to go back on my effexor for the time being. I am physically excellent just not mentally stable.

My hospital has a support group and eac person has an advocate for three years after to call and mine calls me just to check. Also has a psychologist in office. Go to support group and or your doctor. My surgeon gave me his cell phone and I have used it!

I feel the same way. I am 15 days post op and I had to go cold turkey off all my meds including effexor and it has done a number on my emotions. Can't get happy. Just sad and angry all the time. I may need.to go back on my effexor for the time being. I am physically excellent just not mentally stable.

I hope you do not mind , but my daughter and myself were on effexor ,
I had horrible withdrawals,weight gain
gave my daughter headache, and weight gain the Dr put her on fetzima she did very well on that drug with minimal wright gain