This is my first time posting and I need advice. My 12 yr old daughter is overweight and is so worried that she will be the heaviest one in the house. She is very tall and mature for her age and well proportioned unlike me. I don't want her to feel ashamed. Do I go ahead with surgery or cancel?? I told her we would work together but she says I have the easy part. What do I say? What do I do??

I thinks you should go along with the surgery and use the info you receive from the nutritionist on how to eat and exercise together!!!

That's tricky, but I think I would go ahead with surgery and have a good talk with her about how you wished it hadn't come to that.... Use your surgery as a springboard to change the eating habits for the whole family and hopefully help her avoid obesity down the road.

Do not cancel the surgery. This is about your path in life, not hers. Have her become a coach/cheerleader for you. Focus on how the diet choices affect you, and ask her to help you make the right choices.

She will learn valuable skills, and will naturally translate these lessons as to how they pertain to her (without you saying a word).

With the surgery, you will become a positive role model for her. Without it, she sees how to become a person that needs surgery. (One of my biggest regrets for my own kids).

Thank you guys.