I was wondering what kind of support your friends and family gave you when you decided to have the surgery done?

My mom and my 3 oldest sons and a friend of mine aren't very supportive of me getting this done. They say things like, You don't need the surgery it's not a quick fix you know or why do you have to do that to your body. And that is starting to make me think that I'm not doing the right thing for myself but deep down I know I am. Just wondering.

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Before the surgery I only told my husband, a friend who had already had the surgery and my daughter who is overweight and planning her own surgery. My other kids knew I was having a hernia repair but didn't really know the true extent of the surgery. Afterwards, I've told family and friends and haven't felt much judgement. Then again by waiting til it's done there isn't much they can say about it. don't worry if they aren't supportive. If they haven't been through weight loss struggles it's hard for them to understand how difficult it is to lose weight. Stay strong! I had mine on Nov 30 and I don't regret it one bit.

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My daughter is getting it done too

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That's great, my daughter's is on Dec 28th.

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I am on this journey with my mother. I had surgery on 11/22 and she had it on 11/29. All of our surgeon visits, primary doctor visits, dietitian visits, and everything along the way were scheduled at the same time so we 100% did the journey together and we still are. I am thankful for the support system that I have within my mother. I feel fortunate that everyone has been supportive on my journey. The only push-back that I have gotten on my journey has been my supervisor telling me daily for the couple weeks leading up to surgery to have the surgeon cut out way less than 80-90% of my stomach because I was making him nervous lol. All in good fun . My family, co-workers, and friends all see the benefits of the surgery and are all extremely supportive.

@@roxy53 - I am sorry you are going through this it doesn't help considering the journey ahead of you. However this community has offered excellent advice and I would add you are in charge of your life. Don't give anyone permission to call the shots. You made an excellent decision now commit to the process and live your best life. They will eventually get onboard or back off. I am rooting for you.

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Yes but you would think that your own family would support you no matter what the out come. But I'm so used to my mom putting me down I don't care what she thinks I'm doing this for myself not to impress her or anyone else

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Sometimes people are just scared for you to have surgery, especially family members.

Thin people are never going to understand. They think you should just have some willpower, eat less, and get off your butt and exercise.

Fat people are not going to be supportive because, let's face it, they don't want to see you losing weight while they get fatter and fatter.

This isn't just for vanity, it's for our health. Tell them that your doctors think you need the surgery to get healthy and quit discussing it with them.

You have to do it for yourself! Then they will see that it was the right choice for you. If you are confident and positive, they will be too. I didn't ask my family for support! I expected it! And I got it! I did it for me by believing that it was what I needed. It was the best I thing that I have ever did for myself!

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It is $4,000 in OKC

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