I know every time I post all I do is complain but I have no one who listens or understands. I regret this surgery so bad. My mom told me to eat too much and stretch my stomach out and go back to normal. Is she crazy or what? The other night my husband told me this wasn't his problem. And my mother in law who was a big support just doesn't get it.

I went to the local hospital Monday evening. I was hoping their ER would give me a different idea what's going on. I had tried to call my surgeon again that day and never heard back so I just went in here. They said I had starvation ketosis and my body was eating itself and I had low potassium. I ended up staying in the hospital for 2 days and told I would have to follow up with my surgeon because their Bariatric doctors won't touch someone else's patient. Well Ok then. I am constantly sick feeling or just feeling like crap. I don't feel right at all. I have spent a lot of time thinking lately trying to pin point things and I realize I started out ok but when I was able to switch to regular soft foods that's when this started. Now no matter what I have except Water I feel ill. I also realize if I try something more solid that's not pure liquid it feels like a brick in my stomach. I typically stick to a few spoons of broth or nothing. I'd rather not eat. Who wants to feel bad?

After coming home last night I left a message for the surgeons office and their PA called back. Every time I talk to him I have to start my story over. I have to repeat everything and get asked the same questions over and over. No I don't have a gallbladder, no I am

not vomiting, my surgery date was 10/17/16, etc. Don't they keep files or something? I tell him what the hospital here says and it's like in one ear and out the other. He thought I said starvation psychosis and I said no ketosis and then he said this is what happens when you go to other hospitals. I went to one with a Bariatric program! I figured they knew something. Anyway he told me to start over from day one of the diet. Ok fine. He says my stomach is inflamed blah blah and it's not because of what I did or did not do right and asks if I think that will help. I said no and he asked why and I said because I go days without eating so how could it be inflamed? But he still insists this. He tells me to come in on Monday morning to be seen and we can go from there unless it's still not better during this long weekend he says to call him and I can be sent to his hospital. Well it's still the same last night and today. All I do is cry and lay in bed or sleep. I only made it at work one day and here I am off again. I am not ok. All anyone ever runs are blood and urine tests. I have no more veins left to be poked. I feel like something is broke. I keep hearing some people take longer to heal. I'm not in pain I am sick! I don't understand what is going on. I can't live like this the rest of my life! The anti nausea meds don't work anymore. I want to call the surgeons office again and tell them I don't feel good still but I feel like it gets me no where. I used to think I was tough. I was wrong. Feeling sick is the worst thing. I never imagined this would be like this. I just want to go back and never do it.

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As for my husband and his stupid comments. He's an alcoholic so that doesn't make anything easy. He keeps drinking because he's worried about me he says. How dumb is that? I need him to get his act together and at least take care of our youngest. His mom isn't a reliable source of help and my kids aren't allowed over at my parents house anymore. (Long story but my brother was inappropriately touching our daughter and that's still under investigation.) I am having a lot of problems financially or I'd hire a babysitter. I feel like I have one issue after another and I just need something to go right. I need my health more than I need anything. So here's to hoping this gets better very soon.

This sounds like a horrifying situation to be in. Maybe you have a relative you could go stay with until things calm down? My father was/is an alcoholic and I know how stressful and miserable living with one can be, this cannot be helping your health.

As far as your situation, I also wonder if there is a stricture. I'm glad your surgeon is finally listening and I hope you can get scoped and figure out what's going on.

Hang in there! Are you able to manage Gatorade? The nauseousness could be stemming from dehydration.

My Dr gave me some really good anti-nausea medication that melts on your tongue. This is my second time through this (had to get my sleeve revised) and the first time I had very similar issues. The way I got over this hump was those meds and lots of popsicles and water ice. The cold soothed my stomach and the sugar helped my mood. I lived off that and protein drinks for the first few weeks and it really did help me transition. Please know that your frustration is warranted. It's frustrating but worth the work. Keep us posted! We're rooting for you! Now go get some popsicles and put on a good movie!!

Sounds like a Perfect Storm of a lack of Hydration, Nutrition, Vitamins, Proteins, Hormone changes, and a Surgery Team with all the bedside manor of a falling safe. That is NOT a judgement, but a statement of empathy and caution.

After surgery, it is vital that we are aware of our nutrient and Water intake for each day. A LOT has changed, and we have to re-learn how to feed ourselves. We also depend on our Surgeon and Nutritionist teams to give us the guidance, direction, and corrections that are needed to help with our successful journey. Support groups are also extremely helpful.

I also realize that none of this means much when you are neck deep in trying to recover from a string of ineptitude that would drive ANYONE crazy. Another idea would be to go back to your Gastroenterologist for a post-op look at your Upper GI tract. He or she may give you the answers you need and a plan for going forward. When they ask you why you are not talking with your Bariatric team, be blunt - "because they have shown themselves to be INCOMPETENT" and you NEED ANSWERS.

Remember that the Doctors work for you, not the other way around! Take charge of the situation by changing your direction. Prayerfully, this, in combination with other suggestions, will get you on track and healthy again. We are ALL here for your success!

This just scares the crap out of me, I am supposed to have surgery on Dec. 8th, I'm already panicky and now I am worse, that is exactly what I am scared of happening to me after surgery and I won't be able to handle that, so what do I do???

This just scares the crap out of me, I am supposed to have surgery on Dec. 8th, I'm already panicky and now I am worse, that is exactly what I am scared of happening to me after surgery and I won't be able to handle that, so what do I do???

This is what makes these kinds of posts so dangerous sometimes. This isn't to take away from anyone who has had legitimate medical issues post-op that have nothing to do with them making poor choices. Some people will have issues, but others will not. I can tell you that I had a practically seamless surgery and recovery. I had one little infection with the incision inside of my belly button. I took antibiotics for a week and it cleared right up. Other than that, everything has been routine.

I encourage you to think about the facts. Eating and drinking, as you have known them, will change forever; you will have to follow the guidelines of your plan to be healthy and successful; any positive change in your life requires sacrifice, perseverance, and grit. If you are willing to rise to the challenge, you should be fine.

Please don't let anyone's particular experience derail you from what could be a life-changing experience for YOU.

Good luck.

This is what makes these kinds of posts so dangerous sometimes. This isn't to take away from anyone who has had legitimate medical issues post-op that have nothing to do with them making poor choices. Some people will have issues, but others will not.

I'm scheduled for surgery on 12/19 and I've found these posts (and the subsequent encouragement by the community) invaluable during my prep. I'm expecting to feel miserable emotionally and physically and have prepared myself and my support team (husband, family, friends, etc) to just keep telling me that feeling terrible is normal and I can get through it.

Also I know that if I have complications or just normal emotional freak outs, I can come here and the community understands and will hold my hand.

These posts are great and no one should feel bad about making them.

I find if I have a good day I embrace it. I have learned for a while now I'm going to have more bad days in the beginning. Doesn't make me complain less though. I've lost 51lbs so can't complain to much.

This just scares the crap out of me, I am supposed to have surgery on Dec. 8th, I'm already panicky and now I am worse, that is exactly what I am scared of happening to me after surgery and I won't be able to handle that, so what do I do???

This is what makes these kinds of posts so dangerous sometimes. This isn't to take away from anyone who has had legitimate medical issues post-op that have nothing to do with them making poor choices. Some people will have issues, but others will not. I can tell you that I had a practically seamless surgery and recovery. I had one little infection with the incision inside of my belly button. I took antibiotics for a week and it cleared right up. Other than that, everything has been routine.

I encourage you to think about the facts. Eating and drinking, as you have known them, will change forever; you will have to follow the guidelines of your plan to be healthy and successful; any positive change in your life requires sacrifice, perseverance, and grit. If you are willing to rise to the challenge, you should be fine.

Please don't let anyone's particular experience derail you from what could be a life-changing experience for YOU.

Good luck.

Yes, you hear more about the complications on a board like this due to its very nature. And the stories of complications stand out in your mind. I do not want to detract from the very real complications people sometimes have. I believe it's good to know what kinds of complications are possible. But do keep in mind that many, if not most, people who have the RNY or VSG have a smooth recovery with very little complications.

I had nausea, but no vomiting. I'm a little over 3 months out and I had heaves for the first time Thanksgiving Day, but didn't actually throw up (and yes I ate something my sleeve didn't like, but mostly was because I was having horrible gas pains and had to drive 45 min home before I could do anything about them).

I had very little pain, and a pretty fast recovery. The worst of it has been a mini-dumping kind of reaction when I eat too fast, too much, or something my sleeve doesn't like. And constipation, but I had IBS-C to start with so that didn't surprise me in the least. I also was very fatigued for about 3-4 weeks, but I have auto-immune arthritis, so it's hard to suss out what was sleeve recovery and what was auto-immune.

So don't let yourself get too freaked out, and discuss your concerns with your surgeon and team. Most minor complications like nausea/vomiting and pain, they have meds to manage. Some people don't respond to the first nausea med that's tried, but there are several options, so even if you have issues, don't give up just stay in contact with your surgery team.

This is what makes these kinds of posts so dangerous sometimes. This isn't to take away from anyone who has had legitimate medical issues post-op that have nothing to do with them making poor choices. Some people will have issues, but others will not.

I'm scheduled for surgery on 12/19 and I've found these posts (and the subsequent encouragement by the community) invaluable during my prep. I'm expecting to feel miserable emotionally and physically and have prepared myself and my support team (husband, family, friends, etc) to just keep telling me that feeling terrible is normal and I can get through it.

Also I know that if I have complications or just normal emotional freak outs, I can come here and the community understands and will hold my hand.

These posts are great and no one should feel bad about making them.

I had hoped that the initial words of my post made it clear that people DO have legitimate issues sometimes. I never said that they should not post about them; I just said that no one should make a decision about his/her own health based on the experience (positive or negative) of any one individual person.

This is what makes these kinds of posts so dangerous sometimes. This isn't to take away from anyone who has had legitimate medical issues post-op that have nothing to do with them making poor choices. Some people will have issues, but others will not.

I'm scheduled for surgery on 12/19 and I've found these posts (and the subsequent encouragement by the community) invaluable during my prep. I'm expecting to feel miserable emotionally and physically and have prepared myself and my support team (husband, family, friends, etc) to just keep telling me that feeling terrible is normal and I can get through it.

Also I know that if I have complications or just normal emotional freak outs, I can come here and the community understands and will hold my hand.

These posts are great and no one should feel bad about making them.

I had hoped that the initial words of my post made it clear that people DO have legitimate issues sometimes. I never said that they should not post about them; I just said that no one should make a decision about his/her own health based on the experience (positive or negative) of any one individual person.

When telling my story, I have made it abundantly clear that my experience has been personal to me. Of course though, that is the way of all surgical procedures. The only thing that most of us have in common is that we are or were overweight.

We have different diets, different bariatric teams, live in different countries, receive different care. Our surgeries are different, our aftercare is different, our meds, Vitamins and supplements are different.

Some people have complications, some don't.

When people say that posters with regret issues expressing themselves here is "dangerous", that will elicit comments in defence of those posts.

If pre op patients want to be fully informed, there has to be room for people to tell of all their experiences, good and bad.

There should be total acceptance of people here. All people.

This just scares the crap out of me, I am supposed to have surgery on Dec. 8th, I'm already panicky and now I am worse, that is exactly what I am scared of happening to me after surgery and I won't be able to handle that, so what do I do???

What makes you think that you couldn't handle post op issues?

What precisely couldn't you handle?

This just scares the crap out of me, I am supposed to have surgery on Dec. 8th, I'm already panicky and now I am worse, that is exactly what I am scared of happening to me after surgery and I won't be able to handle that, so what do I do???

What makes you think that you couldn't handle post op issues?

What precisely couldn't you handle?

When telling my story, I have made it abundantly clear that my experience has been personal to me. Of course though, that is the way of all surgical procedures. The only thing that most of us have in common is that we are or were overweight.

We have different diets, different bariatric teams, live in different countries, receive different care. Our surgeries are different, our aftercare is different, our meds, Vitamins and supplements are different.

Some people have complications, some don't.

When people say that posters with regret issues expressing themselves here is "dangerous", that will elicit comments in defence of those posts.

If pre op patients want to be fully informed, there has to be room for people to tell of all their experiences, good and bad.

There should be total acceptance of people here. All people.

I agree that we shouldn't try to keep people from posting about their complications. First, they need support - especially from people who have already been through it. Second, we shouldn't be painting any surgery as a rose garden that is 100% safe and free from complications. Every surgery has risks. Some of them can be minimized and avoided, some can't. I agree that hearing many people's stories is important. I just caution that sometimes the nature of a board like this can make it seem like complications are more common than they are.

Or they are even more common than is reported on forums like this.

Or they are even more common than is reported on forums like this.

I don't think they are. I'm in several WLS groups and yes, there are complications, but nothing like reported on this site.