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family that won't stop eating badly ?

How do you guys deal with your family still eating fast food and all the crappy food in front of you ? i'm a little over 2 weeks post op, and it's been like this since day one ! the day my mother picked me up from the hospital she went to mcdonalds right after to get everyone in the car food!!!

now my mother wants me to go out and get her and the family mcdonald's, because she can't drive at night ! i think it's ridiculous! and then they wonder why i've been so nasty since i had the surgery ! maybe because the food that got me into this problem is still smacking me in my face ! i just can't believe they don't see anything wrong with it. i try to tell them that their eating the wrong way and they should watch what they eat. my mother is on a diet for a couple months. but it's not the right way, she thinks getting 2 bacon ranch salads with 2 extra grilled chicken from mcdonald's is healthy ! i just can't handle this anymore !

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I think you should find something to occupy your time while they eat. You can go for a walk, lookup healthy recipes. Whenever someone in my family wants to eat fast food or something I cannot have there is a major battle going on inside my head. "God that smells good, remember how it tastes? Just a bite won't hurt." Then you have sensibility saying, "No. You will make yourself sick. Do you want to be back up to 400 lbs? one bite will lead to more." So instead of listening to the argument I occupy my time. The definition of willpower is the ability to resist short-term temptations in order to meet long term goals. Your family SHOULD be more supportive of you and your new lifestyle. does that mean they should change the way they want to eat? No, but they should respect that they shouldn't do it in front of you.


I also live alone, so if I am spending time with them and they choose to eat something I would rather not be tempted with I go home.

I still cook the same food I did before. I still pick up takeout for my son and husband. I make a healthy choice or eat before I go. I am a picky picky eater so it's easier for me just to grab a stick of cheese with turkey and not eat the junk they want. Mind you, they eat deer meat and fish...we rarely buy meat. But they do like it fried. To me ...meat and cheese everyday is heaven...they are my favs!

You had the surgery and even though you want them to eat better and make better choices, you can't force them. Use your tool...the head is the worst part of it...you can do this. Prove to them it works and that you can't be swayed. You got this!!!

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Can you compromise? Are there goodies that you hate? I dislike anything with coffee, so we get my husband mocha ice cream, tiramisu, kalua candies, etc. I dislike pretzels and popcorn, so those are his salty Snacks.

Maybe if your family is reasonable you can make this work for everyone.

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  • 5 weeks later...

I feel your pain. However you will just stop thinking about those foods. You can teach yourself by eating there and see what happens. Not being mean but it's what I had to do. Also you seem like you need a better support system. Make sure to stay in touch on here. Lastly tell your family if they want it they can go get it when they are able to see while driving. Best of Luck!!

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