Dare I ask the question? We all know what we will gain while losing weight; health, mobility, range of motion, a more rich and full life (and it's totally worth it!). But, what do you miss or think you will miss about being obese?

For me: I remember not being obese (my childhood and some of my teenage years). I remember being cold all the time. Right now I just don't really know what being cold is anymore and I'm not looking forward to freezing all the time.

I'm also afraid that my butt will hurt when I sit down. My mom lost a lot of weight and now she complains that it hurts to sit in hard or stiffly cushioned chairs.

Also, I am very "blessed" in the boobular region. My girls are huge, heavy and floppy. When I don't have any pockets, it's just easy to carry just about anything under them (without a bra - which is at home only) or tuck away anything in my size H cup bra. I can hide a small dog in there! I just know they're gonna shrivel up!

Yes, complaining about things you missed while being obese is like complaining that the sun is in your eyes after being held prisoner in a cold, dark and moldy basement for years.

My boobs

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Yes, complaining about things you missed while being obese is like complaining that the sun is in your eyes after being held prisoner in a cold, dark and moldy basement for years.

I think this is a very interesting discussion that brings up some different perspectives. Personally I talked about culturally how I thought losing weight would impact me during my psych evaluation. I'm African American and having a voluptuous figure is an aspiration for many women. I also know some people who are survivors of abuse and being overweight gave them a feeling of protection. Plus, there's always room for a little light hearted banter

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Edited October 19, 20169 yr by losergrl75

I LOVE tbis post--its definitely an unpopular truth.

I fear losing what i call "my black girl" the coke-bottle shape ive always had--small waist, butt you can sit a drink on, boobs that make men and babies drool...LOL

Ive also been cursed with really skinny legs and ankles, so im not looking forward to them getting skinnier--i just pray that my thighs, which have always been big (my cheerleader nickname in college was "pork chop") will match the rest of my legs.

Definitely praying i get to keep my T&A tho.

Im also going to miss "junk food nights" with my girls: Wine, martinis, cheese, chocolate, dips & chips--we have a howling good time as you can imagine. Maybe i can have my martinis in a shot glass! LOL

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That was actually one of the things I talked about in my preop psych evaluation. Culturally, black men appreciate a more voluptuous frame. When I was young and thin, everybody in my family tried to fatten me up. What most consider fat, we consider "thick".

I LOVE tbis post--its definitely an unpopular truth.

I fear losing what i call "my black girl" the coke-bottle shape ive always had--small waist, butt you can sit a drink on, boobs that make men and babies drool...LOL

Ive also been cursed with really skinny legs and ankles, so im not looking forward to them getting skinnier--i just pray that my thighs, which have always been big (my cheerleader nickname in college was "pork chop") will match the rest of my legs.

Definitely praying i get to keep my T&A tho.

Im also going to miss "junk food nights" with my girls: Wine, martinis, cheese, chocolate, dips & chips--we have a howling good time as you can imagine. Maybe i can have my martinis in a shot glass! LOL

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I LOVE tbis post--its definitely an unpopular truth.

I fear losing what i call "my black girl" the coke-bottle shape ive always had--small waist, butt you can sit a drink on, boobs that make men and babies drool...LOL

Ive also been cursed with really skinny legs and ankles, so im not looking forward to them getting skinnier--i just pray that my thighs, which have always been big (my cheerleader nickname in college was "pork chop") will match the rest of my legs.

Definitely praying i get to keep my T&A tho.

Im also going to miss "junk food nights" with my girls: Wine, martinis, cheese, chocolate, dips & chips--we have a howling good time as you can imagine. Maybe i can have my martinis in a shot glass! LOL

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That was actually one of the things I talked about in my preop psych evaluation. Culturally, black men appreciate a more voluptuous frame. When I was young and thin, everybody in my family tried to fatten me up. What most consider fat, we consider "thick".

So yes yes and yesssss. @@mschan218 get ready to lose it girl. I haven't lost it all but I'm only 4 months out too. I had a nice butt before weight gain but I don't think its going to hold up much longer. I had a 38/23/42 measurement in high school mid 20's it was more like 40/26/45. So always small waist bottom heavy.

@@losergrl75 my hubby met me in high school I was about 125 with those measurements. When we married 5 years later I was 125. So he's used to a smaller me... however he's really grown fond of BBW. I mean really. Like TMI his porn of choice is BBW. I'm afraid although this man has loved me through it all that I will not be as attractive to him. I know that's just my personal issue but it lingers...

@ If you have real breast tissue, it won't go anywhere. I seriously doubt your H cup is all fat. I am still very busty, I just have a smaller band now. The day may come you wish they would shrivel up.

I had to relearn how to sit. For a while my butt was hurting all the time, but since I learned how to sit again properly it is not an issue.

I am vain so... I miss all the compliments I used to get when I was big. I have always been a makeup, hair, nails, dress to impress kind of chick. When I was fat people killed themselves to compliment me. Now women look me up and down, and don't say anything. Men however smile at me and well... I will just say I miss seeing more friendly to people. Now people are more afraid to approach me.

Sometimes I miss being greedy and eating whatever. It is a really fleeting moment because I love my life now and I like how I eat, but yeah I miss pigging out on cheesecake and phillysteak sandwiches now and then.

I miss being confident in how I looked. I wasn't a fat person that hated myself. I walked around naked all the time, and after sex. I would never walk around naked now. I don't even walk around naked in the house alone. The loose skin is really doing a number on me, even though I look good in clothes and looking better every day, I feel like a total fraud once I undress.

@

Yeah I miss just being able to buy clothes without trying them on. I have to try everything on. Even using my measurements doesn't work with things because my waist is so small and my boobs and hips are so big. So I have to size up in dresses, size down in tops, and pants are ???? I have to try everything on. I used to buy clothes almost every single day online before surgery. I shopped all the time. Now I buy clothes once a month and only thing I plan on wearing within 2 weeks, because they won't fit in 3 or 4.

I mean it is a good problem to have but I am glad I am getting closer to goal, because I am over it, so over it.

Edited October 19, 20169 yr by OutsideMatchInside

I LOVE tbis post--its definitely an unpopular truth.

I fear losing what i call "my black girl" the coke-bottle shape ive always had--small waist, butt you can sit a drink on, boobs that make men and babies drool...LOL

Ive also been cursed with really skinny legs and ankles, so im not looking forward to them getting skinnier--i just pray that my thighs, which have always been big (my cheerleader nickname in college was "pork chop") will match the rest of my legs.

Definitely praying i get to keep my T&A tho.

Im also going to miss "junk food nights" with my girls: Wine, martinis, cheese, chocolate, dips & chips--we have a howling good time as you can imagine. Maybe i can have my martinis in a shot glass! LOL

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I LOVE tbis post--its definitely an unpopular truth.

I fear losing what i call "my black girl" the coke-bottle shape ive always had--small waist, butt you can sit a drink on, boobs that make men and babies drool...LOL

Ive also been cursed with really skinny legs and ankles, so im not looking forward to them getting skinnier--i just pray that my thighs, which have always been big (my cheerleader nickname in college was "pork chop") will match the rest of my legs.

Definitely praying i get to keep my T&A tho.

Im also going to miss "junk food nights" with my girls: Wine, martinis, cheese, chocolate, dips & chips--we have a howling good time as you can imagine. Maybe i can have my martinis in a shot glass! LOL

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That was actually one of the things I talked about in my preop psych evaluation. Culturally, black men appreciate a more voluptuous frame. When I was young and thin, everybody in my family tried to fatten me up. What most consider fat, we consider "thick".

So yes yes and yesssss. @@mschan218 get ready to lose it girl. I haven't lost it all but I'm only 4 months out too. I had a nice butt before weight gain but I don't think its going to hold up much longer. I had a 38/23/42 measurement in high school mid 20's it was more like 40/26/45. So always small waist bottom heavy.

@@losergrl75 my hubby met me in high school I was about 125 with those measurements. When we married 5 years later I was 125. So he's used to a smaller me... however he's really grown fond of BBW. I mean really. Like TMI his porn of choice is BBW. I'm afraid although this man has loved me through it all that I will not be as attractive to him. I know that's just my personal issue but it lingers...

I totally get where you're coming from. I also met my hubby in hs when I weighed about 110 soaking wet. So he has seen me small, big and every weight in between. But he definitely loves thick women. He's in the fitness industry, so he thinks Serena Williams body is hot!

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Evenya

I totally can relate. I have PSORIASIS also. Plus PSORIATIC ARTHRITIS. This in itself is a problem. But..Since having my RNY and losing weight I still have a hard time going out to shop or whatever. My mind still says even if you are normal sized everyone is looking g at you because of your PSORIASIS. NOW...would I rather be fat again or normal sized, HHHMMM Let me think.....NOT!!! They are coming out with a new treatment for PSORIASIS. The one I wanted to try was given in shot form but my DERMATOLOGISTwon't let me try it because she said that a side effect is losing 6% of your body weight and she doesn't want to take a chance with me. LOL Funny how we get discouraged because we might lose weight!! When it has always been you might gain weight before. Also, I think more and more people are becoming aware of what it is. Good Luck

Honestly... knowing what size clothes I wear. I'm still losing and all that. I hate, hate going shopping, and I don't think its just because I'm bigger. I think it more has to do with spending money on myself, I rarely do it. ANYHOW... I've bought a few things online... picked the size that I'm in according to what I bought last which wear a pair of comfy gym/sleep pant. I got a 3x the first time and they were falling off so I got a 1x and they fit - and that was before surgery... now the 1x is falling off, but I think those things are running big - so, I guess I'm going to have to get some extra money put aside so my sister will go shopping with me just to find out what size I'm in!

A good example is this... I REALLY want to buy this dress, but I have no idea which size to pick and I think their stuff runs small

http://www.sammydress.com/product3052592.html

Usually those sites have a size chart somewhere on them that relate say 1x to measurements.. Measure yourself and compare?

Munky

I haven't had surgery yet but what I will miss is.. Looking younger than I am.. Being fat keeps the wrinkles filled in.. Also my skin being filled out.. After it I'll be very loose and floppy..

Seriously though.. I think the "habits" more than food.. Down the road you can have pretty much anything you want as long as it's in moderation.. My sis had surgery over 10 yrs ago n she does

Munky

I would have ignored this thread and rolled my eyes but the way I'm feeling today... I think its right on time. So I will miss

Eating and Drinking at the same damn time.

Enjoying carbonated beverages (guilt free)

My "Big Booty Judy" Booty

Eating more than just 2-3 bites of food before I'm full.

Red Lobster Cheddar Bay Biscuits

pancakes with extra butter

Croissants warmed with a pat of butter

Spaghetti sandwiches with buttery garlic bread

Alcohol although I didn't drink much to begin with I definitely enjoyed an occasional margarita, daiquiri, pear martini, sweet red (wine) whether it be during lunch when the hubby would take me out or date night.

So... most of my misses are food related. CARBY foods were my poison. I will get over it. It's like a relationship that you know wasn't good for you-- happy to be out of it buuut every now and then you get sad reminiscing about good times.

Today I just had a moment although I always understood that for the rest of my life I would have to be very careful about anything I eat or drink-- I guess It just got real real for me.

Oh cheddar biscuits. Must find a healthy alternative. Those things are the best. Had my second surgery in 4 weeks today and have lost a lot of blood. Wishing I could have a hamburger, not for the junk but because I need some red meat!

I LOVE tbis post--its definitely an unpopular truth.

I fear losing what i call "my black girl" the coke-bottle shape ive always had--small waist, butt you can sit a drink on, boobs that make men and babies drool...LOL

Ive also been cursed with really skinny legs and ankles, so im not looking forward to them getting skinnier--i just pray that my thighs, which have always been big (my cheerleader nickname in college was "pork chop") will match the rest of my legs.

Definitely praying i get to keep my T&A tho.

Im also going to miss "junk food nights" with my girls: Wine, martinis, cheese, chocolate, dips & chips--we have a howling good time as you can imagine. Maybe i can have my martinis in a shot glass! LOL

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I keep my shape even when thin. Hubby likes T&A. haha. I've never been below a size 10 even in high school, no excess fat, on swim team working out 6 days a week. You might keep it. I'm tall, not sure if that has any affect.

PorkChopExpress,

Thank you for your kind words. I know the problem is myself not him.

I had to read this post because I could not believe the title....I surely hope this a crack at being cynical.

I haven't had surgery yet but what I will miss is.. Looking younger than I am.. Being fat keeps the wrinkles filled in.. Also my skin being filled out.. After it I'll be very loose and floppy..

Seriously though.. I think the "habits" more than food.. Down the road you can have pretty much anything you want as long as it's in moderation.. My sis had surgery over 10 yrs ago n she does

Munky

I'm 49, and I look younger now than before.

Oh, and I miss NOTHING about being fat. Nada.