I'm a young mother of 4 with a handsome husband. I'm curious how this surgery has affected your family life? Do you make two different meals? Do you still eat out with family? I've prepared myself the best I know how but I also want to make sure my husband isn't blindsided by my new eating habits. How can I prepare him? I want to help manage his expectations as well as mine. And be able to give him a time frame for expected results, not in terms of weightloss but in regards to how our family life may change if I have surgery.

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I am 4 months out and my husband and I have a pact. When we go to dinner somewhere, I will usually have a salad with grilled chicken and he orders a lighter meal and eats most of my salad for me.

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What about mood swings, does this happen to most people? I'm trying to give him the good, bad and the ugly. I want to prepare him the best I can.

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Hormones can cause mood swings. Explain that to your husband and make sure he gives you a little slack for any bitchiness directed at him. Give him slack for getting annoyed with your moods. Hormones can also cause your libido to go through the roof - so be sure he knows of the positive aspects of this all too.

I didn't like my support groups either - so Im not sure attending one with you will be helpful.

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I hate to be one of the support group naysayers, but I have to be honest. Of all the classes, instruction, research...everything I did to prepare for this, the ONLY negative was going to support group meetings. They're required by my program, both pre- and post-op and I swear if I make it through this post-op year without going OFF on some contrary whiner, it'll be a miracle.

I privately call them 'Enabling Group' because, much as @@Dub describes, they tend to be dominated by a small but vocal minority of malcontents who just want permission to be miserable and to be off-plan because they 'can't help themselves'. 'I couldn't stop myself' or 'I can't help it, it just happens' are two of the most irritating phrases I've ever heard and I hear them at every meeting.

I leave support group not supported in the LEAST, but as I walk to my car, I remind myself that even watching bad behavior being modeled can be a moment of learning. And I'm DEFINITELY learning what NOT to do

I hate to be one of the support group naysayers, but I have to be honest. Of all the classes, instruction, research...everything I did to prepare for this, the ONLY negative was going to support group meetings. They're required by my program, both pre- and post-op and I swear if I make it through this post-op year without going OFF on some contrary whiner, it'll be a miracle.

I privately call them 'Enabling Group' because, much as @@Dub describes, they tend to be dominated by a small but vocal minority of malcontents who just want permission to be miserable and to be off-plan because they 'can't help themselves'. 'I couldn't stop myself' or 'I can't help it, it just happens' are two of the most irritating phrases I've ever heard and I hear them at every meeting.

I leave support group not supported in the LEAST, but as I walk to my car, I remind myself that even watching bad behavior being modeled can be a moment of learning. And I'm DEFINITELY learning what NOT to do

You see it a lot in theses forums, too. That's why unfortunately vets have a tendency to disappear after a while. You'll see once you're on here long enough. It just can get....repetitive.

Yup!!!