This was the question my husband asked me today. I was telling him how excited I was to start over in life. To feel good about myself. I go to bed every night feeling so unhappy with myself. I avoid old friends and struggle with finding clothes to wear I have made excuses not to see people..it's so sad that I have lost friendships and avoided people. My husband and I go out together and love to eat and drink wine together, He loves food and a good bottle of wine. He loves when I am silly. He is afraid I am going to be skinny but no fun..lol I think I am going to be happier in life. How relationship with your significant other changed?

I know what you mean, OP. One of the hardest parts of deciding to do this surgery was realizing that I was going to have to change how we have fun... because "having fun" means hanging out at the local taproom, drinking beer with all our townie friends, a couple of nights a week. Sometimes it's just a pint of microbrew, sometimes it's a lot more, but we always have an amazingly fun time. I KNOW this has to change. Just like going out for 2-for-1 Burger Night, 50cent chicken wings, or to the Japanese hibachi restaurant will also have to change. But here's the thing: After 6 or so months, these activities will CHANGE but won't necessarily be GONE from your life. As my 22 year old daughter pointed out, I'll still be able to eat, and maybe even drink. It just means that I'll bring a storage container for half my burger, skip the roll (which I already do), and sub a salad or green for the fries. I can order the kid's portions and take some home, or an adult portion and take MORE home. Five wings are cheaper and less caloric than the 15 wings I usually consume. We'll still go out, still have fun. A friend who helped motivate me towards this surgery even still drinks beer. I'm not saying that's necessarily wise, but she'll have one or two 5oz. tasters in an evening instead of 3 or 4 pints of beer. Life will STILL be fun, if this is your idea of fun. You just have to take control of the situation and make it work for you. I, personally, am looking forward to having the other kind of "fun" with my husband again. Through no fault of his, we haven't been very "fun" because I am not at all comfortable with my size or having "fun" at this size. He is a dear sweet man, and I miss having fun with him. We both deserve to have fun again, even at our advanced ages. SO? We'll see...

"Through no fault of his, we haven't been very "fun" because I am not at all comfortable with my size or having "fun" at this size. He is a dear sweet man, and I miss having fun with him. We both deserve to have fun again, even at our advanced ages. SO? We'll see... "

Oh my God i can soooooooooooo relate to this right here. We were on vacation recently and my husband and i decided to have "fun" and i caught a glimpse of myself in the mirror on the closet and i looked like a beached beluga whale writhing on the sand. lord it was AWFUL! anyway, that image of myself is what flipped the switch in me that i'm definitely going to do this! it was truly horrifying and strangely comical at the same time.

@@fancypants67 I'm sorry to laugh at your expense but that made me LOL! I hate mirrors!

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I am way more fun now! So much more fun that I even have fun with myself! (And no I'm not talking about sex you dirty minded pervos!)

Hi fancy pants I have just sprayed my I pad with coffee laughing at your post . I think a few of us ladies can identify with you there, you are a good sport for writing that post!

I'm on holiday with my best friend who has known me over 30 years. She remarked last night that I am still as daft as ever I was I just don't need to drink alcohol or eat so much to be amusing! The thing that gets her is that I want to walk more or get up early to run. She has always been slim so she can't really understand how I feel now after my weight loss surgery but she is happy for me.

All the best from me in sunny Cyprus

Hey, sometimes we GOTTA laugh at ourselves!! Life's too short.