Frustrating Weight loss workup

[Inner Surfer Girl 12,015]

She gave me the number of 27% of total weight, whereas my physician gave me the typical response of 60% of excess weight (but said my metabolism was good so he expected me to exceed it). There's about a 15 lb difference between them for me, which is why I'm pretty much ignoring the numbers now and going with my gut, no pun intended, in regards to my expectations.

I really believe fully in my clinic, which is why I'm staying here (as well as my insurance benefits limit me to this facility for the best coverage, it's a work thing), I just really don't like the psychologist. A lot of what she said was on point, I'm only really talking about the things that sounded 'off' and were contrary to the experiences of so many here. /rant rant rant. Grr.

I wonder where she gets her numbers and statistics. The 60% number I have seen in research studies.

My BS meter is pinging all over the place from what you have told us.

[JamieLogical 8,684]

I really wonder where these low numbers come from... hadn't heard 27% before, but I've heard the 60% of excess weight one. I guess it's the people who post here that their sleeves "failed" and they only lost like 16 pounds post-op that drag down the average. I see far more people posting here that have lost 100% or more of their excess body weight. I'm still technically slightly above a healthy BMI, but I wouldn't want to lose another pound. My excess weight is all skin and muscle. I am below 20% body fat.

[VSGAnn2014 12,992]

Yeah, your over-achieving tendency is a good thing. Actually, it's a great thing.

Now that that's out of the way, the psychologist is f**king WRONG about losing 27% of your weight via a sleeve!

I, too, am an over-achiever. I've lost 100 pounds with the sleeve. I now weigh 135 pounds. So that means I lost 100% of my excess weight and 43% of my total starting weight. BTW, I'm twice as old as you (70 years old now), so I expect your weight loss rate compared to mine will be faster. You go, girl!

Once again, although she was right about the likelihood (no greater than 2%) of losing and maintaining a large weight loss without WLS, she's totally f**king WRONG in her predictions of how much weight loss you should expect!

Sight unseen, I don't care for her either. Just grit your teeth and get through her "education." As is often said around here, take what you want, leave the rest. Exercise your emotional intelligence, as well as your intellectual intelligence.

[2goldengirl 2,076]

I dunno what a psychologist is doing quoting statistics anyhow, it isn't exactly their field.

Tune out what you don't need. be willing to learn, and keep on with the goal in mind. Thank heavens your surgeon is more skilled than the psychologist seems to be!

[Ruth1ess 494]

@@JamieLogical @@VSGAnn2014 Thanks for the words of encouragement!

@@VSGAnn2014 I am so impressed with your loss at a mature age, that is incredible!

There is so much noise associated with WLS. It's hard to know what to filter out and what to hang onto when words are needed. But man this lady is frustrating!

[The Candidate 3,215]

No mental health official should ever attempt to lead you down a path you aren't willing to follow. If it was your choice to pursue a non-surgical weight loss plan, that is certainly your right.

You have to be ready, 100% ready in mind, body and soul in order to consider weight loss surgery. If you're not ready, or perhaps will never be ready, because you don't wish to go down that route, that should have been it.

Forcing or even influencing someone to have this surgery, who is not ready, is simply a set up for failure that is every bit as detrimental as yo-yo dieting.

WLS is big on family support. But in actuality the first person you need to have on your side is yourself, or that house of cards will have no foundation to stand on.

You should definitely seek out another psychologist. Good luck!