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EllaLuna    5

EllaLuna
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Hi all, my husband and i are both having the sleeve done. Same day, same surgeon! We just started the pre-op diet today. Anyone else have the blessing of not going through this alone? Or do you think going through this together might be more difficult because we will both be in pain? Any advice would be wonderful.

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OKCPirate    5,323

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no first hand advice, but wonderful idea, and I would love to hear about your unique experience

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Newlife@55    31

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My husband and I both had the sleeve done in February of this year. My husband had it on the 11th and I had it two weeks later on the 25th. It has been a great experience. We share a meal when we go out to eat, we have started going to the gym together.....i actually think it has brought us even closer as we go through this journey together !! Best of luck to you both!

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amjblui1    13

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Just wondering if you have kids and if so how did the weigh in your decision to have the procedures so close together?

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Newlife@55    31

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I have 2 sons however they are 27 and 29 so they are not in living at home. They played a big part in our decision to go through with the surgery .... We want to be around to spoil any grandchildren we may have down the road????!!

Our surgeon would not do both of us on the same day. He asked us to wait at least 2 weeks between that way each of us would have someone to hep when we got home. Even though recovery wasn't horrible it was nice those first few days to have my husband able to help a little (as I did for him).

I don't know if any of this helped you.....fee free to ask any other questions or concerns.

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EllaLuna    5

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Just wondering if you have kids and if so how did the weigh in your decision to have the procedures so close together?

My husband has an 11 year old daughter but she is only with us part time and she is very mature for her age :) so we didnt have to worry about kids otherwise i can imagine it wouldn't be wise to do it at the same time with young kids involved

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The Candidate    3,215

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I had several classmates from my six month program in the hospital with me at the same time. It helped being able to compare, walking laps together etc. And we still get together now.

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bellabloom    2,469

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You're very lucky

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Caligirl102015    3

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I was sleeved on Oct 20th (4 days ago) and my husband is going in for his VSG in mid-Nov. We are excited to take this journey together. We have 2 teenage children and they have been supportive and are very independent. Quite honestly, this has been one of the hardest things I have ever done. I know the 2 week pre-op liquid diet and post-op diet will be hard on my husband as well, but with both of us doing this together I can help encourage him to get through the rough Patches. Our 20th wedding anniversary is next year and I am looking forward to celebrating it right next to him on the losers bench.????

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Bndtoslv    292

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Hi all, my husband and i are both having the sleeve done. Same day, same surgeon! We just started the pre-op diet today. Anyone else have the blessing of not going through this alone? Or do you think going through this together might be more difficult because we will both be in pain? Any advice would be wonderful.

This is great! I wish my husband had done it with me. Just watch out because men lose so much more quickly than women. Don't compare yourself. But they don't get to have babies so I think it's worth it :)

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LadyK44    263

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My husband and I are both sleeved 5 weeks apart! We have kids ages 12/13 at that time last year! To our kids we have what they call "baby bellies." We don't eat much and encourage each other constantly! It added to our already close marriage! We are blessed and happy! (Aug/Sept 2014). It is not easy being sleeved but it has been a great thing for the both of us!

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monica36    15

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My husband was sleeved October 13 and I'm being sleeved November 17 that's 5 weeks apart. I have a 4 1/2 yr old son, so we weren't able to do it together since one of us have to be there for him and to run the house,

I'm very scared about the sleeve since I'm a very hard and picky eater I don't like a lot of foods ( especially Yogert ) so I'm hoping it won't be to hard for me...

My husband is doing great, he lost about 55 lb since pre op. I know that woman don't loss as fast as men do... but I'm trying to stay positive and hoping for the best!????

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LadyK44    263

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My husband was sleeved October 13 and I'm being sleeved November 17 that's 5 weeks apart. I have a 4 1/2 yr old son, so we weren't able to do it together since one of us have to be there for him and to run the house,

I'm very scared about the sleeve since I'm a very hard and picky eater I don't like a lot of foods ( especially Yogert ) so I'm hoping it won't be to hard for me...

My husband is doing great, he lost about 55 lb since pre op. I know that woman don't loss as fast as men do... but I'm trying to stay positive and hoping for the best!????

As a woman, what has worked for me is sharing and not comparing. You will have an health event that many other people will never even be able to complete and it is life changing. Now add that you get to do this with someone you love in the same house ; it is a true gift. Don't worry just work at making good food choices. Best of luck to you both!

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    • Alisa_S

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. LeighaTR

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        I hope your surgery on Wednesday goes well. You will be able to do all sorts of new things as you find your new normal after surgery. I don't know this from experience yet, but I am seeing a lot of positive things from people who have had it done. Best of luck!

    • Alisa_S

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

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        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

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