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I said I wasn't going to date until next sumer or fall, but I made an OKCupid profile. It has been interesting.

I'm really glad to know there are all these proud Dads out here, but I don't want to date one. So many guys in their 40s with little kids. As I weed them all out I might find someone decent by Nov 2016

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@OKCPirate... He & I have developed a nice friendship & dating routine so far. I'm not getting hopes up for a lifetime commitment etc as I know this surgery will bring so many changes & emotions. But he's so supportive ( he had a close friend go thru it) and right now things work nicely for what we both need :) I'm blessed with amazing guy friends and all their support. As they constantly tell me they support me but don't see why I'm doing it. Lol

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I did something pretty wild today. A cute guy sat down next to at a restaurant. We were both eating alone so I struck up a conversation.

OMG!!

And we hit it off so I just offered him my number!!! OMG I cannot believe my huge balls.

I have never done that in my whole life!!! Hahahahah!! I'm awesome. Eeeeeeek!!!

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@@bellabloom - excellent work and congrats. I ran across one guy's dating advice site, and while I think he's a cad who is real interest seems to be limited at using women for sex, he had an interesting tip...make it your goal to make 20-25 interactions with women a day. Record the results. Over time you gain more confidence. I think this applies to both sexes.

As an extroverted introvert (I keep trying to explain that I'm introverted because I regain my energy by wanting to be alone, not in a group), I can't help but meet people on a plane, event etc. Does everyone of those encounters change my life? Nope. But those one or two out of hundreds can make all the difference in the world.

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You go girl! This is a huge step forward!

About a year ago, I came out from having a snack with my gfriend after a ride to find some dude snooping around my horse trailer in the parking lot. At first I was thinking negative thoughts... but he clearly knew something about horses so I decided to be brave like you and strike up a conversation!

So, we started talking. He had a truck with a boat on a trailer and a pal that was fixing some kind of wound. The pal was hilarous - it was like remarks from the peanut gallery... he would at random yell out things like...

"he's single"

"he has a whole barn with no horses in it"

"you are really hot"

Anyway, at the end of our chat I screwed up the courage to say "I'd like to talk some more" which prompted him to ask for my phone number.

We dated for about 4 months... sadly it didn't last but it was the first time that I kinda realized that I CAN DO THE CHOOSING TOO, NOT WAIT TO BE CHOSEN.

I learned something big from that experience.

I often ignore/avoid eye contact with men who are interested in me. Dammit, a year later and i still do that! I have a renewed committment to making eye contact and smiling at men that interest me!

Guys sometimes need a little sign of encouragement....

Last summer i met some guy at a dance lesson, I was practicing my assertive yet feminine wiles and gave him my number, and my first name and like 5 months later he finds me on Facebook. I had actually written him off / forgotten about him, but he hadn't forgotten about me.

Best advice from an older gfriend - don't wait to be picked, pick the good ones. It is still a foreign concept, but I am working it.

I did something pretty wild today. A cute guy sat down next to at a restaurant. We were both eating alone so I struck up a conversation.

OMG!!

And we hit it off so I just offered him my number!!! OMG I cannot believe my huge balls.

I have never done that in my whole life!!! Hahahahah!! I'm awesome. Eeeeeeek!!!

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I can so relate to what you are saying.

Honestly, I have NEVER EVER had a man say "no" or reject me - asking to dance, or whatever... and yet... that feeling remains. I hate asking, . I really hate asking, and yet I wonder why more Seattlle men don't grow a pair and ask me! I think I need to practice like your "cad dude" recommends. Seriously, the worst he can say is "no, leave me alone, you old lady..haha"

I actually WANT it all - relationship and sex..apparently a tall order.

You are an extroverted introvert... while I am prone to being an introverted extrovert. I am totally charged up by being around people.. the very definition of an extrovert. I am also the one that the girls send to talk to some stranger or whatever... but when it comes to me.. well... I can be kinda shy! well, not shy, but ya know... not killing it!

@@bellabloom - excellent work and congrats. I ran across one guy's dating advice site, and while I think he's a cad who is real interest seems to be limited at using women for sex, he had an interesting tip...make it your goal to make 20-25 interactions with women a day. Record the results. Over time you gain more confidence. I think this applies to both sexes.

As an extroverted introvert (I keep trying to explain that I'm introverted because I regain my energy by wanting to be alone, not in a group), I can't help but meet people on a plane, event etc. Does everyone of those encounters change my life? Nope. But those one or two out of hundreds can make all the difference in the world.

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@@OKCPirate

Thanks for the advice on going where the men are. It has worked out great. Met someone and we really clicked.

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Glad it worked for you.????

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Well... My guy turned out to be a schmuck!!! Lmao thank god I saw those shark teeth ahead of time!! ????????

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@@dancingqueene - be thankful. I spend a few weeks with one and realized "oh no, Borderline Personality Disorder Case Study." But check this post out for encouragement: http://www.bariatricpal.com/topic/354255-hey-you-out-of-the-dating-pool/

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@Scubav85... I plan to wait as well I had just happened to meet him. I'm ready to date emotionally but it's hard to go on a date and can only drink Water & not eat lol I'm only 7 days post of ????

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Yeah my surgery is 12 hours from now. I'm ready to date. Been single almost 2 years. I started a bad custody battle with my ex over 2 years ago. .lasted 2 years but it turned out in my favor so I have full custody of my daughter now. I did but l not date during that time. There was too much to the case to be distracted

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I said I wasn't going to date until next sumer or fall, but I made an OKCupid profile. It has been interesting.

I'm really glad to know there are all these proud Dads out here, but I don't want to date one. So many guys in their 40s with little kids. As I weed them all out I might find someone decent by Nov 2016

I also, don't want to date anyone with kids as I don't have any of my own. However, I did fall for someone who has kids. Now I wish I had not made such a harsh decision because he was really great guy. I missed out on a great person. The reality is at my age almost all come with kids.You live and learn and move on.

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@@dusky goddess I found my unicorn and I am dating a great guy mid 40s with no kids.

I'd rather be single than settle for something I don't want and co-parenting is something I have zero interest in.

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