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After a couple of months on Match.com, I think I finally found the "one." The numbers are interesting:

I sent 149 emails via their site

I received 61 back

15 coffee dates

6 real dates

3 multiple dates

1 possible match that had to be aborted because of serious signs of mental illness

And finally She showed up and we have been going out for the last three weeks and it keeps getting better every time we go out.

I kept track of the numbers this time because I know it's easy to get discouraged and think, what's the point? I'm not saying this is easy. To tell you the truth, I'm busy, but I put dating time in my schedule. It was as important as exercise to me. It takes mental energy to think about how I was going to make an online approach. Some of my tactics worked, others didn't. But I tried different things. Eventually it all came together.

So what about the women who didn't make the cut? I don't leave ladies hanging. If I don't sense there is chemistry, I just let them know. I find they knew before I did. The women respect guys who don't leave them hanging. Five of the women I met online are now Facebook friends. They were nice people, or I would not have even reached out to them.

Bottom line dating is a numbers game. If you think about the odds against finding the right person by simple random chance outside of college, well those odds are very long. It is work, but it's work with benefits and fun if you do it right. Good luck in your search.

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I had very similar statistics when I dated online. Met my hubby on mySpace -- almost 10 years ago!

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@@OKCPirate That's great! I met my husband on eHarmony. We were married on 8/8/08. I had dated a handful from Match as well - and definitely knew pretty quickly if the chemistry wasn't there.

Keep enjoying your dates and keep us posted on how it goes!!

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@@ReneK - "Myspace" wow, I have not even heard that name for 10 years ;-) Congrats, and way to meet before that site became irrelivent

@@Mom26 - Indeed I will. I need to shift focus on growing a relationship in this forum. ;-)

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I can go even further back. I met my wife through AOL chat rooms! It wasn't a dating one though, it was one dealing with Central American history. Never happens when you expect it.

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Love hearing all your stories!!! Thanks for sharing!! My time will come for sure ????

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