I am a self pay patient scheduled for gastric sleeve on Thursday. My husband has been super supportive from the beginning, going to my appointments and everything…until tonight. We get into a disagreement about something stupid, and he says "well I don't have to approve of your surgery, you're getting what you want so you don't care about anything else!" I walked away because I'm not sure he would've continued to stay upright if I hadn't. ????

Anyway I'm wondering if his true feelings are coming out and he really isn't supportive but doesn't want to tell me? At any rate, it was extremely hurtful. I also feel like I sacrifice everything for my family. I can't tell you the last time I did or bought something for myself. I feel like investing in my health is the best purchase I can make for myself and our kids.

Just wondering if anyone else went through this, and if so how did you handle it? I'm extremely frustrated right now but I'm also trying to understand what he is going through since my surgery affects our whole family. Any feedback is much appreciated.

Wow, les filles. My heart goes out to both of you. I don't have any advice. Just sending good energy and support from the field.

I think sometimes my husband is jealous that I have an awesome goal I'm working towards. Most of the time life just plods on and we all want something to go after. Also, he might be afraid you'll be all fine and sexy after and he won't be up to par. I know my husband has struggled with his weight but he doesn't qualify and now I'm gonna be the one in good shape...I think it hurts his ego. He still supports me but I wouldn't be surprised if he said something like that eventually.

Just wait till he sees the "After" effects....his attitude should change and you'll be the one in control.

Could he be scared that something could happen to you during the surgery or maybe insecure that you may want to leave him for another man after you lose the excess weight?

Speak to him and find out why, the open dialogue will help both of you express your concerns.

He is probably still supportive, maybe at that little moment in the heat of an argument, his mouth was running at 8,000RPM but his brain wasn't in gear.

My wife was never very supportive, she might say a few things on Facebook, but I go by people's actions and words expressed to me.