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For months I have been President of the Cool club when it came to getting my sleeve. Now 6 days before surgery the freak out is here. The thoughts of death and complications have me worried. I try to assure myself that I will be ok. I am doing my best to stay positive. I'm 26 with a 40BMI, I hope my age and weight is a positive for the healing process (mostly age). How is everyone coping with the scary part of surgery? Tips and advice would be highly appreciated.

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You'll be okay. Just breathe in. Just think of how gorgeous you'll to be.

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I wasn't scared. I did everything I could do ensure that things went well. I did my research in choosing a doctor, I was compliant in my pre-op testing. I ate properly pre-op to make sure my body could be in as good a shape for surgery as possible. After that I just took a deep breath, said a prayer and was fine.

No freaking out for me. I took comfort in know I did all that I could for a positive outcome.

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I was fine - I didn't have a doubt, then the weeks leading up to it I bawled my eyes out, I was petrified.

I'm 25 and thought 'what am I doing??'

Then I thought, although I'm living I'm not happy, I will just end up ruining my life and getting ill. By choosing this, I was choosing life!

I only had my op a month ago, but I haven't once thought 'why!!' I am glad that it has been the best decision and I'm excited about doing the things I love - like shopping, activities, exercise etc without feeling judged!

Think of the reasons why you're doing this. I know it's scary, but get a solid support structure round you and you will do amazing :)

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I didn't freak out until the morning of surgery, when I was alone in the pre-op area. I basically just practiced deep breathing and positive affirmations. I'm young, I'm healthy, I heal well. My body will heal itself as it always does. At this point next year my body will thank me for making its job easier. I have a great, skilled surgeon. I trust this team, I trust my body.

And I cried a little (couldn't help it!).

It all kept me calmer than I was when I walked in. I felt confident stepping into the OR, knowing in a couple of hours my life would be forever changed for the better.

Good luck to you!

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For me, it was a bit scary. Mainly just that things will change was my fear, but I was worried about the physical surgery too. I don't really have a religion I go by, but I tried meditation. It helped ease my mind and reassure that my doctors and nurses knew what to do, have done this many times, and that I'm at an age and weight that doesn't make it more difficult. I'm 23 and I have severe anxiety as well. Try to use your support around you and talk with your doctor about your worries. Sometimes just hearing of their achievements helps reassure you. I hope you feel better. It is a hard step to pass, but your journey isn't over yet. I can feel that.

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Sooo how did your surgery end up going?

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    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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