Ok. I just want to whine a little. All of my go to friends must be busy...not answering texts or calls tonight and I'm stuck at home on a Friday night with my son and his friend who is spending the night. So...you guys get to hear me whine ....and your ears are greatly appreciated!

So...my ex-husband. We've been divorced for about 6 yrs now. My weight was always a problem for him, and I was heavy when we met. 6 yrs later he has been through 5 different women...A serial relationship kind of man I guess. I have only dated 1 man for a very short period of time. I dated occasionally but haven't had a very serious relationship since the divorce.

Anyway.....when I had the surgery I was so hoping that he would see me and be really flirty with me. You see....in these past 6 yrs he was constantly flirting with me and constantly telling me I looked great....even though I was 256 lbs and knew I was looking pretty horrible! Now, 55lbs down.....not a peep out of him! Gheez! And we are friends now....we get along great for the sake of our son.

Don't get me wrong.....there is no way come hell or high water that I would ever get back with him....as Taylor Swift says.....we are never ever ever getting back together. I just want a stinking compliment. I just want him to worry about my dating life. You know?

So that's it. One of the perks of this surgery was to make my ex jealous! Just one little perk. Maybe when I drop another 55?

Edited December 6, 201411 yr by Bobby46

Lol and......I don't get it? I'm confused lol! Do you not like his dating? Are you waiting To date?

I so can relate my weight has always been an issue after I had my daughter it was so frustrating. Thats all he would talk to me about is why am I so fat. He is now remarried to a skinny girl and Im just waiting for the day to show him my new healthy look.

I really don't mind his dating at all. It provides me with lots of entertainment, actually. He just always bugged me to work things out and flirted heavily during all these other women he's been seeing. Then I have the surgery and I look different, and I am more out going and busy these days. And not a peep. I was counting on a peep. lol

I don't think I'm waiting to date. I am not a very out going person. I work from home and spend a lot of my spare time with my son and all of his activities....hes 12. Its hard to meet people and I am so out of practice now the thought terrifies me! But...I am more ready for dating now than I have been in years.

Edited December 6, 201411 yr by Bobby46

Maybe your NOT that insecure girl that he thought you were. They sometimes like us fat so we hang onto them

@@Bobby46 Oh! No, you don't want a "peep" especially if he's being a flirt while with other women! Sounds like trouble! I bet you can find a nice man (if that's what you want)!

I totally get it, he'll say it eventually. I live for compliments right now, and I kind of enjoy rubbing it in my ex-wife's face, how hot I look now, only 4.5 months out from surgery, and we are really good friends, but there will always be that little part that says, look what you lost.

Oh girl trust me he's noticed the new you. He's just working on a new approach. He knows how to flirt with the overweight girl especially since you've been overweight the entire time he's known you. But the thinner sexier girl who's eventually going to find a man hotter than her ex-husband lol. Well that girl needs a different approach. Have fun driving him crazy!!!

Well....I got a wink and a smile the other day when he picked up our son. And, he stared for a bit. I rolled my eyes at him. lol. Felt good!....especially the eye rolling part!

I think its a control thing? I kind of like the control of saying "dream on bud, you had your chance!" So looking forward to feeling completely strong and confident!

Have you ever thought the new you might be intimidating him? Showing that you are strong enough to go through all you have to get to this point, plus not waiting for his permission to do it all may just have taken the wind out of his sails! You have shown you have taken control over your life, and he may not be comfortable with that. Besides, do you really care what he thinks? I can guarantee that someone who does have a valuable opinion is looking, it just may not be obvious.

He's definitely noticing! My boyfriend of 2 years broke up with me 4 months ago because he said i gained too much weight and he was no longer attracted to me. I was sad at first but now I've healed and my surgery is 2 days away. He tries to call me at least once a month but I ignore or text him please don't call unless its an absolute emergency.

I am a bridesmaid in my besties wedding in July and he still has my bridesmaid dress at his apartment. Can't wait to call him out the blue 50 lbs down and ask oh can I meet you at a coffee shop to pick up my dress !

Keep going strong with your weight loss journey!!! It sounds like the more weight you loose the quieter he's going to get. Its unfortunate hes not happy for you at this time.. But hey...Silence is bliss!

Edited December 22, 201411 yr by smpgastric