:help: Hi, I'm new to the forum and I feel like a failure. I had my surgery in January and lost 14 pounds in the first 2 weeks. I felt great. Then slowly I lost a total of 21 pounds up until mid March. I have had one fill. At first the fill helped give me a boost but then I fell back into bad habits. Mostly drinking with my meals which I know is a big NO-NO. I know I'm eating alot less than I used too but I don't feel like I'm loosing right now, at all. I'm even afraid I've gained weight. I refuse to weigh myself. I only get weighed at the doctors office. I have felt so bad about cheating and not loosing that I have cancelled three appointment with my Doctor. I keep using different excuses not to go. My next appointment is on the 22nd of May and I will keep it this time. I'm so afraid that my Doctor is going to be angry or dissappointed in me. Or think I'm a failure. This is bothering me so much. I don't know why I feel like this. My Doctor is really a nice and gentle man. Maybe I just don't want to be a dissapointment to him. I know that not having kept my appointments has only slowed down the process of losing. If I had kept my appointments he would have most likely adjusted my band. This in turn would have gotten me back on track. I know all this and I still kept from going back when I should have. Has anyone felt like this? Has anyone done what I've done? I feel terrible and guilty. But hoping for a new start on May 22nd. Thanks for reading and wish me luck, Please. Esther

i meant "NOT" eating whatever i feel like eating!

I read through this... why do we feel like failures when we lose slowly???? You lost 33 pounds... that's awesome. You probably gained muscle mass... which is heavier. See how it is the next week. You are not a failure... you are working with what you have. Last week I lost 1 1/2 pounds, and at first I was disappointed.... but, then I realized... I LOST. I used to gain about 2 pounds a month every month. I didn't. I lost... that's a huge thing. So what if once in a while you "mess up".... it's about the long journey. We can't all get there at the same time, and we all will have our difficulties... but, we are all WINERS for doing something about it.

You have paid this man ALOT of money and he works for you! His job is to help you succeed so don't avoid him. I think everyone has had a slump at one time or another or we would not need the surgery and he would be out of a job. Go talk to him and tell him you need some help and I'm sure he will point you in the right direction.