So, I'm a couple of years into the journey, having lost 75 pounds. I am not slim, at size 16, but I am happy at this weight. I have just begun a promising relationship, with a guy that seems sweet, and attracted to me. I am very much looking forward to some physical intimacy...it's been a while...and it certainly is headed in that direction. So, my question.....that fold of skin left over from losing so much weight is very unattractive, as are my floppy breasts. It makes me very self conscious. Should I:

1). Find a way to bring up the weight loss/surgery, and the after effects (forewarned is forearmed)?

2). Don't say anything until after the big event, then say something like, 'Yeah, I know the belly roll is not traditionally accepted, but it's my evidence of a life lived with a love of food and hedonism.' (Ie it's a part of me, and, if you don't like it, I'm sorry that you feel that way)

3). Don't say anything at all, unless asked.

I know my fellow bariatrix have encountered this awkward situation. Advice, please?? PS Should I post this in a general forum, so I can hear the masculine take on this? Help!!

I actually went through this exact situation in the last 10 days, and I was upfront about it all, my surgery, my yucky tummy, and the not so awesome out of the bra boobs. The first few times we had sex I was pretty covered up, but he finally got me fully naked the other night and he was really supportive and sweet about it. I'm glad that this situation turned out positively for both of us.