Anyone else dealing with an unsupportive family member?

For me it's my mother.

Even though I've been obese almost my whole 24 year's on this earth and she's watched me struggle with weight, and to lose it she is the most unsupportive member of my family. Little background about my mom: She's a recovering drug addict and through the grace of god, her own will and NA (Narcotics Anonymous) has been clean for 13 year's. She's the mother of 4 Adult children (2 of which are active drug addicts).

She started going off about how I never apply myself to anything, I haven't tried hard enough to lose weight on my own (we haven't lived together or near each other for the past 6 years), And I should go into "Over Eaters Anonymous" before I decide to get such a "dangerous" surgery.

She also went on to tell me about someone from 13 year's ago she knew who had gastric and died 6 months later, How I won't lose weight after the surgery because I won't stop eating the way I do now afterwords.

It's frustrating, and no matter what I say I can't get through to her. I get it, she's a mom...But all these year's she's been unsupportive about my marriage, my pregnancy, my education, the way I live, even the death of my father (Her Ex).

Even though the marriage, pregnancy and education were successful and I'm happy with my life today, she constantly sees something wrong.

I know I shouldn't care, But it makes me feel sad and discouraged. But it won't change my decision to get the sleeve.

Just needed to get that off my chest.

24 minutes ago, ZestyLemon said:

I think for me the reason it bothered me so deeply is because I never asked her to take responsibility for this or to change in any way. I absolutely know it is not their "job" to do anything different for or with me. That is why I am so upset. She just took those two little things totally out of context. It was more just about controlling environment and making places be "bariatric-friendly" as the surgeon said. Being mindful and present.

I am making the changes and doing this. She is not, but could at least be a little supportive instead of just completely tearing me down. It hurts.

I completely agree that she should support you, and you have every right to feel hurt. I'm sorry if my previous post made it sound like I was agreeing with her! I'm not!! I'm glad your hubby is 100% in your corner though!! Hopefully your mom will come around too, especially when she sees how healthy and happy you are!