Recently Lost a Best Friend Because of My Decision to Get Bariatric Surgery

[BeatrizS1974<3 sleeve 94]

Wow count your lucky stars that she decided to not be your friend, because with friends like that who needs enemies! I lost a couple of friends too when I decided to have surgery. I am 17 months post op and happier then ever! She is just jealous that you have the strength to change your life for the better and probably scared that you will get all the attention!

[jjinWA 511]

So I had determined that I am not saying anything about my surgery to anyone for fear of negative feedback. But maybe I will change my mind based on this thread. Guess I just as well know who my real friends are up front! Get it over with! And let the cream rise to the top. Those will be the friends I want to ultimately share this with. The rest of the naysayers can be avoided.

[Jescriba1970 7]

I think she is confused about what cosmetic surgery versus weight loss surgery. You don't need ignorant immature people in your life. Your life will change and you will get new supporting friends

[sleeversue 93]

Be prepared that after your surgery you will find out even further who your true friends. I told three close friends about my surgery and only ONE called me afterwards to encourage me and see how I was. One finally called after two weeks and the other one I still haven't heard from three weeks out. It hurts, but I have to push on.

My husband called my mother after the surgery and I called her when I got home and I did not hear from her for two weeks. Do you know what would have happened if I didn't call my mother if she had surgery for two weeks? Also, my sister, called me when I got home, then didn't hear from her for a week, and that was an email and haven't heard from her since. How hard is it to ask how someone is doing with a short email or text? It would be better than nothing.

It just makes you realize that you need to support your friends when they go through surgery, illnesses, or a crisis in their lives.

[CowgirlJane 14,261]

I want to be honest with all of you. Don't look to friends or family as support through this journey. You are blessed if you get that support . Lucky if you at least don't get undermined or ignored. Probably typical that alot of people just aren't "there for you". I don't have a grudge just acceptance of my reality but I feel much more distance from my siblings as they really ignored me through some tough times. So it goes

[BSU 61]

Your friend sounds like an idiot. The health benefits are undeniable.

Cut your losses with her and move on. Believe in yourself. You are on the right track.