Seems like about 75% of people who post here are perfect. They eat 60gms of Protein, veggies and barely any carbs at all. They drink the allotment of Water, they exercise 60 mins a day 6x a week. They never, ever eat pizza, burgers, sandwiches, or tacos. All they eat is grilled fish, grilled chicken, and maybe an occasional steak (when they're being BAD).

They count all carbs, calories, and fat grams. They measure and weight everything. chocolate shall never pass their lips. They comment on the reason that ur in a stall is becuz ur not being "perfect" and counting everything. Maybe u ate 4 oz of fish when u should have only had 3 oz.

If everyone here is so perfect and no one ever eats "junk", then why did they need wls in the first place? If they were so proficient in weighing, measuring, and counting, why have major surgery to limit their amount of intake? They judge those who eat an occasional piece of pizza, saying they will always be fat if they continue on the path of gluttony.

I have now lost almost 100 lbs, wth 11 to go to goal. I have not counted, measured, or weighed anything. I use my over $20,000 tool to guide my eating, telling me when I've had enuf. I've heard that I will never be able to keep it off, eating whatever I want, not "dieting" forever. I had wls so I'd never have to diet again. I wouldn't have had major surgery if I wanted to continue dieting. Now don't get me wrong. I don't eat unlimted amounts of burgers, tacos, pizza, and Cookies. I eat very little. The beauty of the point of my $20,000 tool.

So those of u who eat perfectly, exercise all the time, and have all the answers: kudos to u. A lot of work and ucomfortableness to not use ur pricey tool. I write this while eating 6 (yes, 6 WHOLE eggs) white chocolate Cadbury mini eggs. Gasp. If I do (occasionally) count my calories it's always under 1,000. I mean how many calories can u eat by listening to ur egg size tummy?

Now, if someday I start gaining because of my "irresponsibility" then I may start counting calories or weighing my food. But until then, I think I will trust my tiny tummy to tell me when I've had enuf.

Anyone else tired of perfect people?

As someone who suffers from ED-NOS (basically components of a few eating disorders jumbled together), I can tell you that it is not a far leap for your brain to swing from an ED like binge eating to bulimia or anorexia after surgery. Many people with undiagnosed eating disorders have this issue; there is even a sub-category of eating disorders appearing in psychological literature called 'post-surgical eating avoidance disorder' along with orthorexia.

Personally, I don't believe in 'cheating' or 'bad foods'. food is just food; its an object and only gives you power when you assign a moral label to it. Many people struggle greatly with this and post-ops often feel that eating bad food will 'ruin' their new digestive system and negate the benefits of the surgery. What's truly sad to me is that many people never get the psychological care they absolutely need to obtain and maintain a long-term healthy relationship with food.

When I give advice to people on how I managed to lose so much (because of my very large cohort in a FB support group, I have lost the most so I get asked quite a lot) I give them my baseline nutrition stats. What I don't add in are all my 'extras' that might pop up. I do eat only an average of 650 calories per day, 20g net carbs and 80g protein; that's how I managed to lose my weight. BUT...if I see a cookie and I want one, I have one; then I walk away and continue with my normal diet. (This is different from before surgery when I might sit down and eat half a pack of oreos and wash it down with a pint of whole milk after a large dinner. )

I suspect that is what a lot of people on here do: they give their baseline stats but there's no reason to add in 'also you might have xxx food xxx times per week)'.

Hope maybe that helps??

I was glad to see this post and to read through it all, I found it interesting from all points of view. I would love to be a perfect bariatric patient but find myself somewhere in the middle. I work out pretty strenuously and track everything I eat but I don't make perfect choices all the time. My calories are always below 1000 but there's a day or two where I may not get my Protein. Combine that with being a slow loser and I often feel like a failure and beat myself up a lot. Maybe our mental state effects how we interpret other people's posts.

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Edited December 1, 201411 yr by sylvia45

I am not "perfect" by any stretch of the imagination, but I did not have this surgery to continue the same unhealthy eating habits I had before. I am not dieting. I have changed my entire lifestyle from the food and drink I put in my mouth, to running, to working hard in therapy to deal with my eating disordered thinking. Why would I want to do the same thing I did before when I went to such drastic measures to make a change? That makes little sense to me, but if it is working for you and you are happy then that is what is important. Not what I do. And I tend to only tell people what I'm doing when they post requesting the information or in response to a question that was posed.

Couldn't agree more. Hence why I don't post here as much anymore.

The one time I said I was torn about my surgery date because my liquid diet fell on thanksgiving, I got my butt chewed apart.

No one is perfect, people need to stop acting as such.

Oh and btw, I cheated on my liquid diet one night and I didn't die and the world didn't end!

@cryssyd3 Good luck with surgery tomorrow!

@cryssyd3 Good luck with surgery tomorrow!

Thank you!!

Since this thread popped back up to the top, I thought I would reference a thread the OP wrote about 6 months after this one. Just to get the full picture.

http://www.bariatricpal.com/topic/321966-for-those-of-u-who-have-criticized-my-way-of-doing-the-sleeve/