I'm one week post op today! For my insurance I had to wait 9 months so I've been at this for almost a year. The whole time I've been very private about who I tell. My first clue was Christmas when I finally told my sister and It turned out she already knew and was mad I had not told her yet. I had a talk with my mom after that and told her this was very private for me and it was my business who I told and didn't. She got super mad and started going on about family and being proud of what I'm doing. So this past week I've been getting text and phone calls from family and once again she got all mad "why wouldn't you want your aunt to know, she's not going to judge you" because its my business and I'm not ready to tell the whole world... I'm not sure what else I can say to her to get her to stop.....

Yes. Definitely not a good time to share with your mother,,, Surprise her with your positive results and she will be so proud of you....im here if you need someone to talk to. You're a good daughter... Hang in there.

Thank you. I just wish I could help my mom be better and healthier. I love her so much. Can't bear the thought of the day she is gone.

Maybe you will be an inspiration to her to get healthier. My dad is 91 and he has diabetes, arthritis very bad, and has had 5 mini strokes, so I know your fears very well. It's scary to get news like that from a parent but she will be fine with her meds and her diet as well. Be strong for both of you. ????????

I didn't go through insurance, but self-paid and considering this would be a big cost for us, I told my husband. I also told my brother, but my mum's the last person I wanted to tell. She has high blood pressure and would worry and ask about changing her flight to visit me and so on. My husband told my mum. I was very upset at this to the point where I stopped communicating with people. When she asked me about the procedure, I said that I'm not interested in speaking about the procedure but we can gladly talk about something else. She pressed and I hung up.

Within hours, came the e-mails about how terrible her surgery was and she almost bled out (granted the sleeve and hysterectomy are far apart). I wanted to tell her in my own way, and I wasn't ready to talk about it and don't believe that anyone should demand answers from me for the things I've chosen to do with my body. Since then, I spoke to her about why I'm getting the procedure, reminding her of the pains of my weight history, including the emotional impact. It's a very intimate, emotional choice. I'm not that close to everyone, so everyone in my life won't hear the story. In your shoes, I would politely request that she stop discussing something that feels so private to you with everyone. As for the texts from people you did not personally tell, I'd thank them for any concern, but this is not information you would have told when you're ready and please respect that you are still not ready to discuss it with them. Good luck, and I'm sorry she did that. I understand how betrayed you may feel.

Thanks for all the feedback!

I so hear you!! I have been at this for 6 mths thinking it was private!! And my husband is telling everyone !!! Ugh

I just started mine. My mom did the same... It's ok tho she's just happy that your going to change remember this isn't goin to be a life change for only you it's for everyone