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In need of a buddy :)

Hi there, I've decided to step back onto the site here, as I'm scared if I don't I'm going to put all my weight back on. I had my band fitted nearly three years ago, lost over 3 stone and now slowly but surely putting it back on... I need help desperately.. I need a buddy.. Not someone full of told you so's , someone that understands me and can help me get back on track...

Xx

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Hi Apple2HourGlass....... Welcome to the banded life, as I see you just recently had your surgery. So, how is your recovery going? I remember mine went fairly smoothly...... No complications, no real pain, so to speak. Julie and I started chatting a few months ago, and we try to check in with each other on a semi-regular basis, so please feel free to respond back, and we can all buddy up! TAMMIE

  • 2 weeks later...

Thanks, Healthy. Fairly smooth so far. Chicken is not my friend. Forgetting and picking up a drink while eating is AWFUL. But it think I am beginning to get the hang. 35.5 lbs so far. This trying to balance protein, liquid and full is not easy! But I am not giving up yet! Or ever, I hope!

Hi Julie and "apple2hourglass".... Hope all is going well. Julie, I never did get your private message, Apple2hourglass, I too, found NOT drinking while eating to be a challenge. It's hard to break DECADES of habits. Things are going failry well with me...... just plugging along. May is always a very busy month for me, and I had my usual "hissy fit" a few times already, and we aren't even half way through May. Oh, well, THAT IS LIFE!!!!

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Hi there, I've decided to step back onto the site here, as I'm scared if I don't I'm going to put all my weight back on. I had my band fitted nearly three years ago, lost over 3 stone and now slowly but surely putting it back on... I need help desperately.. I need a buddy.. Not someone full of told you so's , someone that understands me and can help me get back on track...

Xx

I relate. I just found this site but I'm here for the same reasons. Gaining weight. Powerless over food. I don't want any judgments either. Thanks.

Hi there, I've decided to step back onto the site here, as I'm scared if I don't I'm going to put all my weight back on. I had my band fitted nearly three years ago, lost over 3 stone and now slowly but surely putting it back on... I need help desperately.. I need a buddy.. Not someone full of told you so's , someone that understands me and can help me get back on track...

Xx

I relate. I just found this site but I'm here for the same reasons. Gaining weight. Powerless over food. I don't want any judgments either. Thanks.

Rivergirl, I think you'll find very few folks on this site that don't understand where you are right now. Feel free to express any concerns and ask any questions. The band is a tool and sometimes takes a little more work than others. I find times that I feel the band isn't working for me, when in fact I'm not doing right. sometimes it takes stepping back and evaluating what we are doing. That's what I like about myfitnesspal. I can lie to myself, but when I see it in front of me, its hard to deny. Some foods I find are just hard for me to put down, so I try not to pick them up. This isn't always easy. You can always pm me if you need encouragement.

Still figuring the site out. I prolly posted too soon. Now I've read the whole thread. Very glad for the posts I see on here. There are similarities in our stories. I did not expect to get hungry either. I didn't know what a sweet spot is. Or green spot. Never had those. I was too tight for the first 3 years and couldn't eat meat or burgers or fries. True enough, the candy bars and cookies and chips always went down. I went back in around June 2010 and got the surgeon to take some out. Was so tired of getting stuck constantly. So, since then I have been slowly putting the weight back on, as I found I could eat burgers and fries again. And not just mushy foods. Which was what I had been living on. I can't keep gaining weight. I look like I'm 9 months pregnant. Feel like it too. I just don't know what to eat anymore. I overeat on carbs. If I do low carb. And mainly high protein, I have trouble getting it all to move thru and out. You get the idea. ACK! Insights anyone? All are welcomed.

Thanks Sandy. Nice to not feel alone. Once I figure the site out a little better I would love to pm you. I used to use my fitness pal. Don't know what my log in is. Maybe we can be buddies when I find it.

Thanks Sandy. Nice to not feel alone. Once I figure the site out a little better I would love to pm you. I used to use my fitness pal. Don't know what my log in is. Maybe we can be buddies when I find it.

If you go to myfitnesspal and try to log in, it'll allow you to put in your email address and either reset your passoword or send it to you. As for the carbs and passing them, I find that miralax has been a lifesaver. Since I've been putting a little fruit in my Protein shakes, I'm a lot more regular. My bowel were an issue before surgery, so there was no way it wasn't going to be an issue afterwards. I was trying really low carbs 1 week out of a month, but had to stop because of this. We just have to learn to listen to our bodies. All of us are not build the same.

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<p>Hi Julie and "apple2hourglass".... Hope all is going well. Julie, I never did get your private message, Apple2hourglass, I too, found NOT drinking while eating to be a challenge. It's hard to break DECADES of habits. Things are going failry well with me...... just plugging along. May is always a very busy month for me, and I had my usual "hissy fit" a few times already, and we aren't even half way through May. Oh, well, THAT IS LIFE!!!! </p>

Hi there,

I am so sorry I haven't been in touch, I have had a manic month with so much going on... My husband had a car crash and flipped his car over, was a bit of a shock but all ok and he wasn't really injured too badly.. He works nights every few weeks so he was driving home after a nightshift, so we have made quite a few life changing decisons this last month, we have decided to move home closer to where he works which means I will need to look for a new job but I'm up for the challenge.

The diet hasn't been great... But still hanging in. I hope your May has been better than mine.. Why does everything always happen at once!

Sending hugs...

Julie xxx

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Hi there, I've decided to step back onto the site here, as I'm scared if I don't I'm going to put all my weight back on. I had my band fitted nearly three years ago, lost over 3 stone and now slowly but surely putting it back on... I need help desperately.. I need a buddy.. Not someone full of told you so's , someone that understands me and can help me get back on track...

Xx

I relate. I just found this site but I'm here for the same reasons. Gaining weight. Powerless over food. I don't want any judgments either. Thanks.

Hi there,I know exactly how you feel.. It's my three year anniversary this week and not getting anywhere..I've made the decision to have some Fluid out of my band as I'm scared it's too tight now and I will ruin it if I carry on as I am!I don't want judgement either... I totally understand how you feel. Get in touch Julie xx

Good to hear from both of you gals. Short on time but will happily write more later. I love the support and connection here. Together we do get better. And we are not alone on this journey. Good suggestions. I'm going to pick up miralax today and give it a try. I was not regular before surgery either. And have def had more difficulties since surgery. Maybe I should add more fruit. Does anyone find V8 juice helps ? I like it. Trying to decide if it's worth the calories.

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  • 1 month later...

Just checking to see how all of you are doing? @Julielockwoodjerrett...... I did take the family to Disneyworld in June..... Such a great trip. Not crowded, good temps, and being 130 pounds lighter made a HUGE difference in my stamina..... Thus, we stayed in the parks till MIDNIGHT every night!

Please help. I don't see where I can post. I know I am replying to the wrong thing. I need a mentor. Been banded since August, 2013. Then got really sick from diverticulitis and having 12" of my colon removed in December, 2013. At that point I had lost 41 lbs. When I was able to eat again boy did I eat now my weight loss is only at 27lbs. LOST MY MOTIVATION. I need it back. Please help.

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