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I got the approval call this afternoon, but I can't get happy cause my family is not happy I'm getting surgery. They say I'm not that big (240lbs).. I know they are concerned for my safety, but I feel like I'm disappointing them..advice needed.

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Your family is not happy. Are you happy? Driving your car is more dangerous than getting the surgery. Even staying obese is more dangerous. Are they unhappy about any of those things. Stop worrying about what makes other people (even family) happy and concentrate on you and what will make you happy. Mark my words......they WILL be happy when they see the new you and see how the new you makes you feel. Good Luck.

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Thank you soooooo much!

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Some times it's hard for people to embrace change. We can become so complacent with our everyday lives that when there is even the slightest "ripple" or "wave" we panic or start opposing. I would have to agree with Recycled... when they see your health improving, self confidence, etc. etc. they will "get on board". They love you and I am sure they want the best for you. We fear the things that are unknown and maybe they don't know enough about the benefits yet and it kind of has them concerned...over time they will adjust. Wishing you the best...

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Verrrry true, a family friend had sleeve 2012..that is what made my family disapprove wls. Cause the family friend lost so much weight and they said she looks unhealthy and 10-15 yrs older. Plus she's obsess with excersing and she wants to lose more weight. They are afraid I will look older and become obsessed with wanting to get unhealthy skinny.

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My friends and family said the same...and they were comparing the sleeve to the earliest gastric bypasses...I have an aunt who had bypass in 1993, and has had trouble with strictures.

I chose the sleeve because of the fewer complications, and great success rate. I know it is a difficult decision, and only one you can make. You have to know how you feel, and how much your weight is affecting your health and life.

I love my sleeve...My only regret is not doing it sooner. I am 10 weeks out, 40 lbs down. and feeling wonderful.

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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