So our running forum is to danged long for me to go back and get the actual discription that Sheryl left for us, so I will do my "take away" from what she posted and start it here! I have beed doing this for a couple of days and decided to post as an exercise. Join me if you would like to!

We all have some self talk going on, some good and some not so good. This morning I heard some self parental type voice tell me "you are crazy" OK.

I caught it was a condemning and not very compassionate or true statement, and decided to rebuttal.

No, I am not crazy this morning, I am actually a little unorganized and sad. I then went on to look at why/where I was disorganized (that was a long list!) and why I was sad. (it is often just a couple of things that make me sad, this was one of them, I have been hearing about a new book out reviewed here: http://www.npr.org/2014/02/11/275404707/the-earths-sixth-extinction-may-be-one-of-our-own-making about the current big extinction going on globally. It makes me sad and mad and makes me feel a little guilty for just being a human being. I realized I would be willing to die to stop the greater extinction cycle... but also know well that this will not stop anything. It strangely did make me feel a little better, going there and realizing how passionate I am about this.

So I am not crazy. just disorganized and a little sad, and at least some of that I can change.

90 day watch will put us around April 14th. So I will try and post any "crazy voice stuff" most of those days.

The other day I told myself "You are a mess" .....that kind of thing....

Edited February 15, 201412 yr by feedyoureye

In the past you have gotten all fired up after a big motivational event like the Mega meeting, only to quickly lose momentum to make change once daily life takes over. You have shown tremendous focus and committment in many areas of your life and have accomplished so much, now is your time to embrace positive change even further. You have the ability to be a change agent in your company, your family and most importantly to yourself. You can continue building on the excitement and make 2014 an even more productive and satisfying year in all aspects of your life. You can start by committing to 90 days of follow up.

Edited February 15, 201412 yr by CowgirlJane

I am going to post your comments here, it will be easier to find in the future if anyone wants to clear up any questions about the form.

"You did a great job summarizing it!

Here is the key thing to the exercise; never write the "critical or harsh private voice/coach". Always write just the positive. We are actually trying to retrain the brain neuropathways here! And, if you don't have a negative statement to turn around, that's okay, STILL write a positive one. You may already have a good positive neuropathway established, turn it into a beautiful paved interstate!

It must also always be specific, relevant and acknowledges your reality. so no "you're okay, I'm okay" stuff. It is very specific like a real coach would encourage you with out denying the truth of the situation. Imagine how that positve statement would look later if someone read it, would they think "what an effective, compassionate coach" or would you be embarrased?

He also mentioned that this method has worked with huge ego people... they practice humility while patting themselves on the back. The speaker said people they interact with start noticing a difference within months - they are still high ego, but get better at showing appreciation to others because they did this daily practice.

I am not sure, I may want to write mine by hand. I will try both, but often hand written things just stick to me better. I often use dry erase markers on my bathroom mirror. Words mattter."

You are growing quickly now, and have had recent major insights that reveal a deeper understanding about impermanence.

You are thoughtful and insightful, and know how to make good decisions, so think about your options and choose the path that is in YOUR best interest.

You have the ability to observe suffering and create something really meaningful and accessible from this.

I will keep a paper journal for these coachings, and I will further modify it by doing "3ups" before bedtime; mentally vocalising 3 positive take-aways from that day.

Use your inclination to panic to your advantage, use this to become proactive regarding anything that makes you uncomfortable, you are excellent at defense.

When you ask it to, your mind will present multiple solutions to problems.

You guys are doing great - i think really getting the hang of it. Just to be clear, it is okay to talk about the problem if you WANT. Just avoid writing the negative coach. A positive coach can still openly discuss the issue or problem.

You have taken on alot living alone and don't always feel competent or capable of keeping up. Trust that you can do it, you are successful at whatever you set your mind to. you can keep a good balance in your life while maintaining your farm. You have many options but know that whatever you choose, you are capable of creating a good life and maintaining your living situation the way you like - in fact it will be even easier without a roommate.

You have always found a way, you have always been able to make a situation work or have recognized when a situation is untenable and have taken action. You are intelligent and clever and find ways to take care of yourself, this time will be no different.

Healthy practices you have utilized in the past are still available to you if you choose them. You have the ability to acquire new knowledge, and become wiser for it.

Look at what you were able to accomplish, and you knew you were going to accomplish this, you used your anxiety as a catalyst to be pro-active and change your conditions.

Look for the gold buried in the sh-it.

You feel worried and anxious about some things in your life right now. Your son is depressed and needs help, you are ending important relationships and you are overwhelmed with work too - it really is alot. You know that you are capable of managing your own destiny and WILL get through this. You just need to tackle things one at time, focusing on what's important. #1 Son, #2 Career and #3 Everything else in sequence. Continue to make brave choices that support the life direction that is in your best interest.

You can choose your friends, you have no need to accept every friendship that is around, you are not actually desperate, and the people in your life, they will seek you out or they won't and if they don't, it actually doesn't hurt you, you are actually really okay with not having these people in your life.

You are incredibly intelligent and capable, you tried to portray yourself as kittenish and weak for years and that just made you sad, why hide that you are incredibly intelligent and capable? You have always known you are skilled, you actually do have self respect.