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So I finally have a surgery date (3/10) and I guese it's time to tell my story. I have not been overweight my whole life. I was an athlete in high school and that carried over into my adult life. I've never been "skinny" just fit and curvy. Then suddenly about 10 years ago I couldn't eat whatever I wanted without gaining weight. Ok no big deal I ate better and exercised more and lost the weight but since then it's been a struggle up and down constantly dieting. The final straw came when I had to quit smoking for a job I wanted. I gained 50 pounds in less than 2 months and no matter what I do its here to stay. Since the weight gain ny self esteem has plummeted. I no longer leave the house because I'm ashamed of how I look. I go to work and come home. Because of this I feel every aspect if my life has suffered. I dont feel like a good wife, because I never have the energy to do anything with my husband and I always feel like im just the fat employee. In short I was tired of sitting around watching my life pass me by. I started with research to find out what my options were and settled on the lap band for 2 reasons. 1. Less invasive and 2. Its reversible. I understand the lifestyle changes I need to make and bad habits that need to be broke. I feel like this is the start to finally being able to look at myself in the mirror again.

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Yes I have heard of that happening to people when they stop smoking. I'm glad that you have made the decision to get your life back on track. Congratulations.

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Valarie, I honestly felt like I was reading my story when I read your post, with the only exception being that I have been big my whole life (not as big as I am now, but always obese). I am having the surgery on February 14th for similar reasons you discussed. I wish you the very best and have hope that we will both get our joy of life back!

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Thank you ladies for your support. It feels better knowing im not the only one who is going through this. Im actually very excited. My goal is not actually a number. I just want to reach the point where I eat to live instead of living to eat :)

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Welcome Valerie. Best wishes as you go into this new life!Karen..aka.kll724

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Thank you. It's been a decision I've thought long and hard about. Now that I have a surgery date I feel like my life is finally heading in the right direction.

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Good luck to you , congrats and triple congrats for quitting smoking.. I gained 90 lbs if not more when I quit and finally said enough! Had surgery last april and I couldn't be happier!! you got this girlfriend..

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All I can say is WOW!! I downloaded this app months ago and I've just been reading everyone's stories. Trying to gain knowledge and use that to have the best possible results with my band, but I'm amazed at the support. I truly appreciate it and hopefully we can all support each other on this journey. Thank you.

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Having this surgery was the best thing I could have ever done for myself....I am the same weight I was in High School over 40 years ago,,,,

And you're absolutely correct...it's not about #'s...it is about eating the way we were meant to...and not the way that made us Obese...simply getting back to that healthy lifestyle, everything else will take care of itself, and the #'s will follow on their own....eat normal, exercise normal, and have a normal body.....

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What a great post -- you have the right attitude and it's very exciting to make this choice for a healthy future. I feel like I've turned my life around. It's just three months since my surgery and my self-esteem is so much better. I think it's because I made this decision to embrace my life and be here for it in a new way -- a healthy way. I'm blathering on a bit (one keystroke at a time) wishing I could put into words the feeling of relief. It's a wonderful thing to be out of food jail. Congratulations!

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B-52 thank you for the support. I don't expect this to be easy and I appreciate any advise or support.

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Bandista you nailed it. I'm tired of food controlling me. Life is so short I just want to be healthy and have the energy to keep up with my husband. I really have no health issues other then weight, but I have a horrible family history. I'm hoping by getting healthy I can that. Thank you for any advice or support :)

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Very good attitude. You will do well. Just keep reading and you will find tons of information here.

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What a great post -- you have the right attitude and it's very exciting to make this choice for a healthy future. I feel like I've turned my life around. It's just three months since my surgery and my self-esteem is so much better. I think it's because I made this decision to embrace my life and be here for it in a new way -- a healthy way. I'm blathering on a bit (one keystroke at a time) wishing I could put into words the feeling of relief. It's a wonderful thing to be out of food jail. Congratulations!

"Food jail" - what a great way to put it...that's where I am at right now, for sure...looking forward to 'escaping.'

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Congrats and wishing you all the best on this new journey!

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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