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Getting nervous due to all the comments I am hearing

Getting sleeved Feb 3th, I am starting to hear everyone and all I hear is dont do that your not that fat, your not gonna qualify, just put some time in at the gym, people die from this surgery. I hear all these comments, I understand that I am 260 pounds and 5'11 but I have other medical issued ( high b/p., back issues) that made me make this descion. I am also starting to get nervous due to being put to sleep. Just needed to vent a little Like i said starting to get nervous.

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Yes. I'm scheduled for February 3 and I'm excited but yet nervous. How do some of u drop the weight so quick after surgery? I know with the sleeve you will but I want great results

I just followed Dr's orders about what to eat and when then walked a lot. I've dropped 100 pounds in 3 months since surgery.

Brothamike, these forums are a great source of information but be careful. I read a ton of posts and many people write that they are having great results and the temptation is to have their experience become your expectation. I catch myself comparing my results to theirs and end up wondering what I am doing "wrong". In reality I am not doing anything wrong. I have been losing 5-6# a week which I have to remind myself is awesome. I will not lose 100# in three months, but I know I will get there. You have heard it over and over but if you want great results exercise, Water, and Protein are the keys. A good way to manage your expectations is to figure out your basil metabolic rate, your Dr may have given bit to you as part of the body composition scale. Next figure out what calories you burn through the day and what you consume. The difference is how many calories you burn a day. Your calorie deficit divided by 3,500 is the number of pounds you could lose a day or week.

Long story short, don't set your expectation too high and end up being disappointed.

I agree with MegaBob.

I am 3.75 months out. Down 67 pounds. 33 to go.

I have no schedule.

If I can do 67... I can do 33 more.

Just do the right thing every day. And you will get there.

My NP said ;

" no one is perfect...... But if you can look in. The mirror and say I am doing the right thing. MOST DAYS, MOST WEEKS, MOST MONTHS. You WILL GET THERE."

It is a life long marathon. Not a sprint to the end of next month.

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14 DAY DIET IS GOING OK, 800 CALORIES REALLY ISNT THAT HARD. The first day of the diet was rough because i just switched to midnights so on top of being tired i was also hungry. Lost seven lbs in a week, which has me thinking maybe I can do this on my own without surgery but still gonna do the surgery. Not really getting nervous about the surgery itself but more that i will lose to much weight and will look worse then I do now. Here is some info 29 years old from New Jersey stared pre op diet at 260lbs down to 252. high b/p, back problems main reason for the surgery and also looking to learn to eat right. Any other sleevers out there in febuary getting ready?

14 DAY DIET IS GOING OK, 800 CALORIES REALLY ISNT THAT HARD. The first day of the diet was rough because i just switched to midnights so on top of being tired i was also hungry. Lost seven lbs in a week, which has me thinking maybe I can do this on my own without surgery but still gonna do the surgery. Not really getting nervous about the surgery itself but more that i will lose to much weight and will look worse then I do now. Here is some info 29 years old from New Jersey stared pre op diet at 260lbs down to 252. high b/p, back problems main reason for the surgery and also looking to learn to eat right. Any other sleevers out there in febuary getting ready?

I was just sleeved this past mon 1/20 by Dr O and cannot say enough good things about him, the staff at the hospital was also excellent, had surgery at 10, was home to by noon on Tuesday before the snow, was well enough to show my wife how to start and use the snow blower.

yes its so important to follow doctor's orders about the diet...and walk a lot too..

I am 5 days post op...feeling fine...best of luck to you all.

Brothamike.

This is a serious surgery. It is much safer than it used to me.

The majority of people on here have great outcomes. If there is one thing I have learned, it is, there are no guarantees. No 2 people are the same.

There are statistics. the vast majority of info says it is safe. For many of us it is a " life changing" event. It's not all skittles and beer.

There is still a lot of work required on your part.

BUT IT IS WORTH IT.

I am almost 4 months out. Down 66 pounds. Currently at a stall. But I know I'll push through it. I am at 219#. A little bummed.

But being at 219 is a freaking miracle!

If I can lose 66 pounds, I can lose 33 more.

I had complications. All behind me now. It was worth it.

You will have doubts the day of surgery. You will get over it and be GREAT.

It's ok to be nervous. FWIW, I was basically your size before the surgery last year (1/21/13). I went down to Mexico, because of the Dr's experience and relatively low cost.

I couldn't be happier. Down to 195 from 175, Off Metformin. Off Lipitor. Blood pressure back to normal Knees don't ache anymore.

Maximize the first six months, as that's when the bulk of the weight comes off. I was simply not hungry (for the first time n my life). The weight loss for me stopped after that, but I've maintained for over six months now and am much happer and energetic.

Good luck!!

I forgot to mention.... aside from cycling several times / week over the summer, I haven't really begun to excercise on a regular basis. Can't imagine the results when i do!

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I have to agree with all the comments here. I too was considered by most to be a "big guy carrying some extra weight" I even heard, "I know you are 20-30 lbs overweight but you carry it well"... If I told them I weighed 324 lbs, was nearly diabetic, had to sleep with a CPAP with max pressure, had feet and joint problems related to weight they would have taken a different look.

Recommendations...keep the details with close family and close friends, steer away from conversation with casual acquaintences and negativity. If they bring it up change the subject...you don't need it.

I too had concerns about going under anethesia and complications. I listened to the Doctor carefully and asked a lot of questions. Ask to meet your anethesiologist for additional support. Your medical team are your specialists they know how to take care of you before and after surgery.

You will do GREAT and FEEL like you are 20 years younger, believe me!

I agree with Dabubba.

Had a conversation with a friend today... She said ". Never thought of you as overweight.". Just a big guy that carried it well.

I am down 73.5#.... Closing in on the 75 # mark.

Hopefully by the weekend. My mantra. If I can lose 75 #. I can lose 25 more!

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Trying to eat very clean. Drink my water( 65-75 oz / day). And exercise.

PEW I call it.

Protein

Exercise

Water

I have signs up everywhere. PEW, PEW. To remind me.

When I was Pre-op the doc wanted a 24 hour collection of urine for a test. I delivered 11# of water to the lab. That is how much I was drinking the

I am having surgery on February 21st. I will be starting my preop diet in 2 days. I am excited to change my life but nervous about the whole process. I am currently weighing 285lb and I am 5'9". I have lost 30-50 pounds a dozen times over the last 10 years, just to gain it back. I am turning 40 this year and have two small children and want to be able to keep up ten years from now. I am very active skiing most weekends in the winter and dirtbike riding or hiking in the spring and summer. Carrying this extra weight is taking a toll on my joints. So here I am getting ready to make this big step. All the success stories keep me motivated.

Ready: good for you. I wish I had done it at age 40 vs age 60.

I lost 40 # Pre op.

But I had lost and gained in the past.

I was motivated Pre-op. but I knew I could backslide again

Pre op I COULD HAVE eaten, say a meatball sub. And gotten away with it.

I. Am 4+ months sleeved. I PHYSICALLY CANNOT EAT the likes of a meatball sub.

If I even eat what I am supposed to....... Too quickly, I pay the price. You learn your limitations.

I need this " Hard Rail" to keep me on course.

The best thing is I am master of food.

Food is NOT MY MASTER.

14 DAY DIET IS GOING OK, 800 CALORIES REALLY ISNT THAT HARD. The first day of the diet was rough because i just switched to midnights so on top of being tired i was also hungry. Lost seven lbs in a week, which has me thinking maybe I can do this on my own without surgery but still gonna do the surgery. Not really getting nervous about the surgery itself but more that i will lose to much weight and will look worse then I do now. Here is some info 29 years old from New Jersey stared pre op diet at 260lbs down to 252. high b/p, back problems main reason for the surgery and also looking to learn to eat right. Any other sleevers out there in febuary getting ready?

Hey Buckfever! I hope all is well after your surgery. I'm also from New Jersey. I'm 30yo started at 316 got down to 289 on the day of surgery. I was just sleeved on Mon 2/10/14. So far I feel great. Feel free to message me if you'd like to talk to someone local!! Good luck bud!!

That was about it for me, surgery at 10am and home the next day around 6pm. Long as you pass the leak test, if your surgeon does one, and then manage to pee enough you should be home the next day. So having enough liquids is key to getting out.

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