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One of my very closest friends of 4 years is now my VERY SERIOUS boyfriend. We had been buddies (yeah...some stuff happened every now and then) and in that time we got to know each other inside and out. Well now, he's mine and I can't put into words how it feels. See he's a "hot guy" who is also down to earth and sweet - even with my personality, I didn't think someone like him would want me. Guess what? Not only does he love me, but he's crazy attentive and goes out of his way for me. He lives out of state right now, but he comes to Houston every other weekend, so it's not so bad. I won't go into the details, there is so much to love and be excited about in this relationship. By the end of the year, he will relocate to Houston!

I never saw us getting together. When I was around him I felt like I was twice his size and didn't feel comfortable, even though we had so much fun together...I just felt like his buddy with benefits. Nothing more. Thanks to Miss Pealie...he can see what was hiding under all that fat and found his best friend and the woman he is seriously thinking about marrying. Yes, I'm in love.

Now that I'm a more normal weight...I'm quite a bit smaller than him now, so it's a great feeling for sure. Besides that, I'm a hot girl along side this hot guy and the world can tell he loves me! Wow!

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Congrats PT. I am sure that this guy must have seen the gem in you all along! Sometimes we need to be comfortable with who we are and love ourselves before we can fully open up and embrace the love of another.

I am so happy for you and your man that you have found each other as friends and have fall in love!!! When I met my husband we were both going through some pretty nasty divorces, and though we wanted romance we became friends and confidants first. Love was fast on it's heels and we have never looked back. I can tell you with all honesty that he is my best friend and my greatest love.

I wish you all the best!

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I love this! How wonderful. I'm sure that the change you feel about yourself is what changed the relationship. I'm very happy for you. What a sweet story.

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Aww congratulations and best wishes

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Lucky guy -- and he knows it. All the best to both of you and this new chapter in your lives. Here's to LOVE! It's the best there is.

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Lisa, it's something you bring this up. He says he loved me before and was happy with my weight - he just had a crazy good poker face! I knew he had feelings, I just wasn't comfortable enough to feel like I could have and keep him for myself. : )

Congrats PT. I am sure that this guy must have seen the gem in you all along! Sometimes we need to be comfortable with who we are and love ourselves before we can fully open up and embrace the love of another.

I am so happy for you and your man that you have found each other as friends and have fall in love!!! When I met my husband we were both going through some pretty nasty divorces, and though we wanted romance we became friends and confidants first. Love was fast on it's heels and we have never looked back. I can tell you with all honesty that he is my best friend and my greatest love.

I wish you all the best!

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I wish I could hug you sometimes...now is one of those times!

Lucky guy -- and he knows it. All the best to both of you and this new chapter in your lives. Here's to LOVE! It's the best there is.

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PT, you are a special lady you deserve to be happy and have lots of love in your life. I am so happy for you that your man see's that about you and makes you feel as special as you are!

No more poker face unless you go to Vegas and win big!!!!

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what a wonderful story. i am grinning ear to ear for you. i love LOVE. it can make you do wonderful joyous things. i bet you are walking taller. good luck on this new journey. i pray it is everything you want it to be.

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I'm so so happy for you - I wish you the very best! You deserve it! Just enjoy it - don't question yourself!

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That's wonderful I have always ended up with men skinnier haha. My husband is 6"6 and 150 pounds wet. Just banded in Dec started 5"2 224 pounds. Lost 18 so far hoping he will gain some and hopefully I'll get to my goal of 140 to 145 haha. Congrats

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hello there woman congrats to u on being in loooove!!! I just wanna say that he probably was in love with you all along but it seems like this weight thing holds so many of us back from being the person who we know we ae really are and its nice no its the bomb to read that somebody is really really benefitting from losing all that "hold back". im truly happy for you even though ive never spoke to you!!!!!!! I cant wait until I feel like that best of luck!!!!!!!!!

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I married my best friend.. We are great friends for 10 years and we both had other marriages and divorces during those years. He moved to Chicago and I stayed here in Florida but we always kept in touch.. He came back and we went out for dinner and decided we loved each other.. it was weird but 38 years later it worked. Best of Luck to you and your Friend..

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