I want to preface this by saying I really don't care, I'm just curious.

I've always wondered, when you lose the weight, do you tend to look older? I've found that many "overweight" people that I know, including myself, seem to have less wrinkles. I'm looking forward to a healthier me so that I can have my hernia fixed, so whatever happens, happens.

So, what happens?

Dont laugh but when I started dating the hardest thing for me to get over was just how OLD looking men my age are. They werent like that last time I dated in the late 1990s...haha

I won't laugh, I'm just glad to see it's not just me! I haven't started dating again yet and it's been 8-10 years since I last seriously tried. I'm allowing myself to just notice men again now because of course I didn't even think it was possible before so I never allowed myself to be attracted or attractive. But now all the men I notice look to be the age I was when I last dated and that's too young! Hope it's just a phase...

The wrinkles on my face haven't blossomed yet......but my neck looks like a deflated balloon, all wrinkly.............however, I'll take that any day over the double chin/no neck that I had before surgery.........

tool of selective memory

I have that too

gmanbat - always luv your posts/wise cracks

kathy

I think with some wls it all comes down to your health. With the bypass you really have to diligently work at keeping yourself healthy because of malabsorption reasons. With the lapband I believe a lot of patients are unable to eat a healthy diet. I think the VGS patient have a lot more control of nutrition and fare much better with a healthy body.. And looks.

As for wrinkles.. Well, I'm ok with a Lil Botox at 56

I noticed some fine lines around my eyes...so I had a little botox. Can't tell if it's doing anything or not, lol. Otherwise, my face looks pretty good, though I am considering some fillers for the nasal labial lines and marionnette lines around my mouth. They are really pretty faint, but i don't want to look like what I'm calling a "weight loss victim". When I try to figure out what my goal weight should be, it will be in part how my face looks. My neck looks so bad - I think it does make me look old. I''ll be seeing a plastic surgeon about that! Still, this is WAY better than 125 pounds ago!